Pushed into med. school by your asian family?

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I never felt that way. Going to med school was my own decision.
 
Nope, my parents could care less what career path I pursued as long as I am happy and it excites me

EDIT: and its legal 😉

Though I have to say, people do speak more highly of you knowing you are going to med school, not just asians, but everyone.
 
Originally posted by Gleevec
Nope, my parents could care less what career path I pursued as long as I am happy and it excites me.
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Same here. My parents really like the idea of me being a doctor, though. 😉

-Ice
 
my mom wants me to be a pharmacist!!! She thinks that being a doctor is too much for a girl.
🙄
 
^That's pretty funny 😀
 
Well that and Law schools.

In fact, some of my family friends take pride in the fact that one of their kids is a physician and the other one is a lawyer. They think it's like having the best of both worlds or something.
 
some cultures make it a priority to get their children into the most well-paying jobs for family honor.

i'm just doing it for tha bitchez and tha benjamins.
 
Most East Asian and South Asian families think the only acceptable careers are in medicine, dentistry, law, engineering, and business. The parents whose children are in those fields brag about it to no end. Anything else is seen as "lower". A lot of Asian parents don't brag about their children being biotech research assistants, pharmacists, teachers, or nurses. I knew a lot of East Asians and South Asians who were only going into med/dental/law/engineering/business just so that their parents would have bragging rights at social functions.
 
Originally posted by bamboo5280
my mom wants me to be a pharmacist!!! She thinks that being a doctor is too much for a girl.
🙄
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i teach a couple of girls whose parents are like this. since they are girls the parents automatically feel that they cant handle things like medicine and want them to do pharmacy. i just repeatedly tell them honestly it isnt their decision to pigeon hole their kids into one field...let them develop on their own and see what they like. dont worry about whether or not they will get a good paying job...they are smart and educated...that shouldnt be too much of a problem...their kids will make good decisions with their futures. just be there to support them.
 
Originally posted by bamboo5280
my mom wants me to be a pharmacist!!! She thinks that being a doctor is too much for a girl.
🙄
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my mom too! pharmacy is shorter... blah blah... think about your responsibilities as a wife and mother blah blah.

my parents push me hard to succeed, but medicine was entirely my own choice. the only thing that sucks is they don't truly understand my reasons for choosing medicine. and that makes the process that much more difficult.
 
my parents don't care what i do as long as it's what I want, but they love the fact that I want to be a doctor (what parent wouldn't be?).

I'm really sick of a lot of asians saying crap like "Yeah my parents forced me". Shut the hell up and stop making the rest of us asians look like we come from some anarachist culture.

Yes, a few people do get forced into medicine, but the majority of the people that say they got "Forced" really just mean there parents pressured them. Pressured and forced are completely two different things. Pressure is because your parents love you and just want you to do something that they think would benefit you. Forcing is a whole other thing and I don't think I need to expalin that. Most people that say there parents "forced" them, actually like the idea of being a doctor because they share the same values as their parents (money over everything else). It's just convenient to say "yeah my parents forced me" when you don't have a personal reason of your own.

Just by 2 cents.

And because I know people take things way too seriously here, let me restate: Yes a few people do get forced but not the majority
 
Originally posted by spaz
my mom too! pharmacy is shorter... blah blah... think about your responsibilities as a wife and mother blah blah.

my parents push me hard to succeed, but medicine was entirely my own choice. the only thing that sucks is they don't truly understand my reasons for choosing medicine. and that makes the process that much more difficult.
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Amen to both of you (except I'm a dude). I'm opting to take two years off beforehand, and the madre keeps reminding me of the quick and "easy" (yeah, OK) 60 or 70 grand I could make as a pharmacist.
 
Who cares what your parents want you to be, what do you want to do? Will you marry who your parents want you to marry or who you want to marry?

Imagine at the interview......."so why do you want to be a doctor?"

"My mom said I look cute in a white coat.....tee..hee"
 
Originally posted by bamboo5280
my mom wants me to be a pharmacist!!! She thinks that being a doctor is too much for a girl.
🙄
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OMG same here! My mom thinks I can't handle medicine because, as a girl, I won't be bright enough. 🙄

Granted, my mother is very old-fashioned, even for her generation ... *sigh*
 
Originally posted by verbalassasin
Who cares what your parents want you to be, what do you want to do? Will you marry who your parents want you to marry or who you want to marry?

Imagine at the interview......."so why do you want to be a doctor?"

"My mom said I look cute in a white coat.....tee..hee"
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Thanks. That thought never occurred to any of us.🙄
 
Originally posted by bamboo5280
my mom wants me to be a pharmacist!!! She thinks that being a doctor is too much for a girl.
🙄
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same here.. she keeps on telling me how one of her friend's son killed himself b/c of all the stress of being a doctor.
 
I remember one of my parents' friend saying how happy they are that their daughter is not going into medicine because girls shouldn't go into something that stressful. One month later, they were celebrating that their daughter got accepted into a med school. The way asian honor system sure makes things cryptic.

I really never heard of asian parents telling their daughters not to go into medicine. It's usually the other way around except to outsiders like the case above.
 
Happens with all kinds of ethnicities, not just Asian parents. Jewish parents in particular.

My parents gave up on me when I decided not to go to the Naval Academy... a whole different kind of pressure...
 
When I was in high school, My mom suggested that I quit high school, so I can start working and make money

when I got into college, she suggested that I pursue something like dental assistant, again, quick money

During college, I was constantly discouraged to apply to med school.

When I got into med school, she was so excited and started bragging.....

I can't figure her out.
 
I think that my family is happy I'm applying to med school but they'd be happy no matter what I do as long as it's personally satisfying for me. When I told them my decision last year everyone was really pleased and they said this career fits my personality well.
 
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