Where to start...
I started on my journey to enter medical school during the Fall of 2014. I completed 3 classes while working full-time as an engineer. During the Spring of 2016, I had one more class to take (Biochemistry). I was wait-listed on this class and eventually had to drop it due to a spot not opening up. My plan was to take that class and study for the MCAT.
During that spring, I decided to explore online dating. I was 28 and ready to meet someone that I could have a relationship with. I feel extremely lucky to have met a beautiful girl and we have been together since then. However, when making that relationship work and spending time with her, I decided there was no way I could also work full-time and study for the MCAT, so I postponed my MCAT studying for an entire year.
I decided to start studying again this past January. I didn't do much studying and kind of kept putting it off because I couldn't decide if I wanted medical school anymore or not. I have/had all these doubts in my head of being too old, whether it was really what I wanted, and if the struggle for the next 7+ years would be worth the reward. I'm also a little worried that my relationship may crumble if I get into medical school due to not being able to spend enough time with my significant other.
Anyway, fast forward to last week and I received an email to meet with my manager and HR. My company decided to layoff about 1500 employees and my job was one of them. I wasn't let go for performance reasons necessarily, but due to restructuring and eliminating my position. I am able to either take severance, or apply for another position within the company or look for a job outside this company.
Right now as I see it, I have a few options:
1. Apply for another engineering position. Potentially study for MCAT, but likely won't be ready for a June-ish test date
2. Apply for another engineering position, pay off debt, get ready to pop the question to the gf, and prepare to settle down and eventually start a family in a few years.
3. Use unemployment + my severance and start studying full-time for the MCAT. I have 3.5 weeks left of work, but after that I could put in 40-80 hrs a week of studying to prep. My initial score without studying at all was around 501. I think that was a good starting point and that I can get to 510 and hopefully in the 514 area. After the application phase, I would need to find some sort of job to help pay the bills until medical school starts.
I'm really struggling making this decision. A part of me thinks that I will regret not going for the MCAT and that I would be unhappy to moderately happy with a new engineering job. Perhaps I could learn to be happy in a desk job if I reframed my way of thinking. Is personal life > professional life? Is it worth it to delay my personal life a bit and struggle financially to ultimately do something that I think I will love doing?
The other part of me thinks that if I go for the MCAT, my relationship could crumble over time and the stress of living off of just my gfs salary (she is a RN) may be too much. My gf says she will be supportive, but I know she is worried about it. I also know she loves me and wants me to be happy.
I've been thinking about why I wanted to get into medical school in the first place and see if I can reinvigorate my desire to go for it. I really want to get into psychiatry, but I'm not sure if or how much I will enjoy some of the other fields during medical school. Medical school may be harder for me for that reason. However, I know that if I get into a field I love and I am helping people everyday that I will get satisfaction in my job and be happy. For some reason, I can't get that satisfaction doing a desk job as an engineer working for a large company.
Any comments are appreciated as I continue to debate this decision in my head.
I started on my journey to enter medical school during the Fall of 2014. I completed 3 classes while working full-time as an engineer. During the Spring of 2016, I had one more class to take (Biochemistry). I was wait-listed on this class and eventually had to drop it due to a spot not opening up. My plan was to take that class and study for the MCAT.
During that spring, I decided to explore online dating. I was 28 and ready to meet someone that I could have a relationship with. I feel extremely lucky to have met a beautiful girl and we have been together since then. However, when making that relationship work and spending time with her, I decided there was no way I could also work full-time and study for the MCAT, so I postponed my MCAT studying for an entire year.
I decided to start studying again this past January. I didn't do much studying and kind of kept putting it off because I couldn't decide if I wanted medical school anymore or not. I have/had all these doubts in my head of being too old, whether it was really what I wanted, and if the struggle for the next 7+ years would be worth the reward. I'm also a little worried that my relationship may crumble if I get into medical school due to not being able to spend enough time with my significant other.
Anyway, fast forward to last week and I received an email to meet with my manager and HR. My company decided to layoff about 1500 employees and my job was one of them. I wasn't let go for performance reasons necessarily, but due to restructuring and eliminating my position. I am able to either take severance, or apply for another position within the company or look for a job outside this company.
Right now as I see it, I have a few options:
1. Apply for another engineering position. Potentially study for MCAT, but likely won't be ready for a June-ish test date
2. Apply for another engineering position, pay off debt, get ready to pop the question to the gf, and prepare to settle down and eventually start a family in a few years.
3. Use unemployment + my severance and start studying full-time for the MCAT. I have 3.5 weeks left of work, but after that I could put in 40-80 hrs a week of studying to prep. My initial score without studying at all was around 501. I think that was a good starting point and that I can get to 510 and hopefully in the 514 area. After the application phase, I would need to find some sort of job to help pay the bills until medical school starts.
I'm really struggling making this decision. A part of me thinks that I will regret not going for the MCAT and that I would be unhappy to moderately happy with a new engineering job. Perhaps I could learn to be happy in a desk job if I reframed my way of thinking. Is personal life > professional life? Is it worth it to delay my personal life a bit and struggle financially to ultimately do something that I think I will love doing?
The other part of me thinks that if I go for the MCAT, my relationship could crumble over time and the stress of living off of just my gfs salary (she is a RN) may be too much. My gf says she will be supportive, but I know she is worried about it. I also know she loves me and wants me to be happy.
I've been thinking about why I wanted to get into medical school in the first place and see if I can reinvigorate my desire to go for it. I really want to get into psychiatry, but I'm not sure if or how much I will enjoy some of the other fields during medical school. Medical school may be harder for me for that reason. However, I know that if I get into a field I love and I am helping people everyday that I will get satisfaction in my job and be happy. For some reason, I can't get that satisfaction doing a desk job as an engineer working for a large company.
Any comments are appreciated as I continue to debate this decision in my head.