i Know peops have talked about this before, and i usually roll my eyes, but now im stooping to posting online for advice.
i had everything figured out. i was moving to ny for a yr to have a great time before med school, to pursue all the things i had always wanted to do but never got a chance to, to party, all that good stuff. then i was going to go to med school fresh, new, no strings attached. i had just gotten out of a serious relationship, and i had no intentions of getting into another one. but then, 6 months after moving to ny, i met a wonderful boy, who i fought being with for a while, but finally succumbed. i knew i was going to med school, and tho i knew i loved tulane when i met him, i also knew there was a possibility i would still be in ny for med school, and i just couldnt resist him. so now, on one hand, i have my original plan, of deciding on a med school solely based on me and that med school - our own little love affair. but i also have the option of going to downstate, living in brooklyn (where the boy lives), being near my family, and paying less money. tulane inspired me soo much more than downstate, and it just feels more right for me, but staying in ny is so appealing too.
we've only been together 4 months now, which no matter how in love we feel, doesn't seem like long enough to base such a big decision on. right? he's thinking about applying to grad school in NO because loyola happens to have a really good music therapy program (what he's into), but so does NYU, and he isn't Sure how he feels about moving to NO next yr (not this yr, but if we make it thru a yr of long distance strong). so there's no guarantee we could be together after a yr. and we're both very social and have kind of been hobags in the past, so i just dont know if distance would be good for us hedonist types. sigh. i was just so sure i should make this decision completely independently of him, and now im just not so sure anymore. because it seems like if i go to tulane, there is a very good chance we wont make it. i used to think: if it's meant to be, it'll happen, but i don't know if thats true. i think if i went to downstate, we would definitely stay together..so i know med school is a big deal, but so is a relationship, if you think it has a forever component to it. should i go with my individualistic, im going to tulane for me mentality, and let fate decide if we are supposed to be together?
i just feel like if i move down to tulane, i'll prob go a little crazy for a while, want to party a bunch and be a hedonist NOLA style..which is fine, cause we could always come back together. but i cant expect him to move down there if we dont have a strong relationship, even if it is long-distance. this is just all very confusing. sorry to be the relationship person, i know those people are annoying, but if you have any insights on how keeping a long-distance during med school works, let me know. also, he's a teacher right now, so he has most of august off (he's teaching summer school), so he was planning to spend a bunch of time in NOLA with me..but im a little concerned that that's the very beginning of school (tulane starts on aug 4th or 7th or something like that). is it a bad idea to have my boyfriend around then?
thanks people.
i had everything figured out. i was moving to ny for a yr to have a great time before med school, to pursue all the things i had always wanted to do but never got a chance to, to party, all that good stuff. then i was going to go to med school fresh, new, no strings attached. i had just gotten out of a serious relationship, and i had no intentions of getting into another one. but then, 6 months after moving to ny, i met a wonderful boy, who i fought being with for a while, but finally succumbed. i knew i was going to med school, and tho i knew i loved tulane when i met him, i also knew there was a possibility i would still be in ny for med school, and i just couldnt resist him. so now, on one hand, i have my original plan, of deciding on a med school solely based on me and that med school - our own little love affair. but i also have the option of going to downstate, living in brooklyn (where the boy lives), being near my family, and paying less money. tulane inspired me soo much more than downstate, and it just feels more right for me, but staying in ny is so appealing too.
we've only been together 4 months now, which no matter how in love we feel, doesn't seem like long enough to base such a big decision on. right? he's thinking about applying to grad school in NO because loyola happens to have a really good music therapy program (what he's into), but so does NYU, and he isn't Sure how he feels about moving to NO next yr (not this yr, but if we make it thru a yr of long distance strong). so there's no guarantee we could be together after a yr. and we're both very social and have kind of been hobags in the past, so i just dont know if distance would be good for us hedonist types. sigh. i was just so sure i should make this decision completely independently of him, and now im just not so sure anymore. because it seems like if i go to tulane, there is a very good chance we wont make it. i used to think: if it's meant to be, it'll happen, but i don't know if thats true. i think if i went to downstate, we would definitely stay together..so i know med school is a big deal, but so is a relationship, if you think it has a forever component to it. should i go with my individualistic, im going to tulane for me mentality, and let fate decide if we are supposed to be together?
i just feel like if i move down to tulane, i'll prob go a little crazy for a while, want to party a bunch and be a hedonist NOLA style..which is fine, cause we could always come back together. but i cant expect him to move down there if we dont have a strong relationship, even if it is long-distance. this is just all very confusing. sorry to be the relationship person, i know those people are annoying, but if you have any insights on how keeping a long-distance during med school works, let me know. also, he's a teacher right now, so he has most of august off (he's teaching summer school), so he was planning to spend a bunch of time in NOLA with me..but im a little concerned that that's the very beginning of school (tulane starts on aug 4th or 7th or something like that). is it a bad idea to have my boyfriend around then?
thanks people.