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So I have recieved one acceptance at a lower ranked US allo school (according to the US news, not my personal opinion, I love the school).
There is only one problem. One of my parent is a serious "asian parent" and swear to the US news ranking list (never mind the fit)
She began to constantly belittle me for getting into a school that happened to not be Yale, UCSF or UCSD. never mind the fact that I think that particular school is an excellent fit for me.
Now everytime I come home, I have to deal with constant arguments.
"mom, I like to choose a school base on the amount of fin aid or tuition so I won't be as indebt"
"NO YOU MUST GO TO THE HIGHEST RANKED SCHOOL" (irregardless of the fact that I will have to be very, very much more indebt)
She doesn't really understand the concept of fit.
I already made the mistake of going to an undergrad by rank, and was miserable in it. How would you guys deal with this problem?
UPDATE:
I ended up becoming accepted into a top 20 school that happened to be CHEAPER than the lower tier first acceptance. The first acceptance was a smaller private college in a COLD COLD COLD location. I would go there in a heartbeat if I didn't have other choices because interview day impressed me so much.
I gained another acceptance beside the top 20, but this middle tier school is mind bogglingly expensive, costing 15k per year more than the top 20 school.
But a 80 or so increase in rank/NIH funding (I like research and want to go into academic medicine) and 5k lower tuition per year made the choice pretty obvious.
It boggles my mind why schools with more reputation have even lower tuition, massive endowment, perhaps. You would think lower ranked school is cheaper to attract more matriculants.
There is only one problem. One of my parent is a serious "asian parent" and swear to the US news ranking list (never mind the fit)
She began to constantly belittle me for getting into a school that happened to not be Yale, UCSF or UCSD. never mind the fact that I think that particular school is an excellent fit for me.
Now everytime I come home, I have to deal with constant arguments.
"mom, I like to choose a school base on the amount of fin aid or tuition so I won't be as indebt"
"NO YOU MUST GO TO THE HIGHEST RANKED SCHOOL" (irregardless of the fact that I will have to be very, very much more indebt)
She doesn't really understand the concept of fit.
I already made the mistake of going to an undergrad by rank, and was miserable in it. How would you guys deal with this problem?
UPDATE:
I ended up becoming accepted into a top 20 school that happened to be CHEAPER than the lower tier first acceptance. The first acceptance was a smaller private college in a COLD COLD COLD location. I would go there in a heartbeat if I didn't have other choices because interview day impressed me so much.
I gained another acceptance beside the top 20, but this middle tier school is mind bogglingly expensive, costing 15k per year more than the top 20 school.
But a 80 or so increase in rank/NIH funding (I like research and want to go into academic medicine) and 5k lower tuition per year made the choice pretty obvious.
It boggles my mind why schools with more reputation have even lower tuition, massive endowment, perhaps. You would think lower ranked school is cheaper to attract more matriculants.
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