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sex and medical school (and pre-med undergraduate school)

Discussion in 'Pre-Medical - MD' started by Osler Penfield, Nov 20, 2001.

  1. Osler Penfield

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    I was reading a couple of weeks ago on the allopathic med forum a post by a young female in med school who was sharing her fear of possibley never having sex again due to the busy schedule that school imposes as well as the lack of opportunity of meeting people. The med student on the forum said that she feels like crying whenever she thinks of such a gloomy prospect. This topic is often not discussed but I know is a very serious concren that many of us have. Her post got me thinking of my own situation and how it is equally as depressing as hers even though I am not in med school yet. I brought this issue up with a good female friend of mine (I am male)and she was relieved that someone else was feeling just like her and she was glad I had the guts to bring up the issue. Well upon discussing this matter for quite some time we agreed that it could be quite beneficial for both of us if we hook up together. The benefit of such an arrangement is that there is a mutual agreement based on respect without the heavy emotional concerns that a heavy relationship entails. I recommend that a lot of students try this arrangement out...it certainly has worked in the most fantastic ways for me and my friend. HOWEVER, such an arrangement is VERY dangerous for those who are not comfortable with casual sex...for those people, i do NOT recommend this at all!

    This is just something to think about. I just thought I would share my personal experience and how it has been very positive for me and my friend and I hope some of you might benefit from such a post and such an idea.
     
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    I think that's too dangerous. No one goes into the "friends with benefits" relationship thinking it will go wrong, but it usually does (at least for me). If I slept with my friends, I would end up in med school without friends
     
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    Dude, that's the dopest sh!t i ever heard. Way to go! --Trek
     
  4. Scooby Doo

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    Hellz yea!

    I gotta find me a woman like that! :)
     
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    I dont think anybody should really worry about it. In the grand scheme of things, sex is trivial.
     
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    not too shabby, not too shabby.
     
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    A) Well in the grand-grand scheme of things, sex is all there is, or our species dies.

    B) Wait till you graduate med school, then you can get all you want with your porsche...and what do you think they make supply closets in hospitals for? Duh.... ;)
     
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    Easy sex with no strings? Sounds too good to be true. Enjoy it while it lasts, I guess.
     
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    FANTASTIC. :eek:
     
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    Sex in a sense is trivial but in an another sense it's a NEED.

    Nonetheless, personally I think it's perfectly normal to go months or even a year without having sex, especiallly in between relationships. I dislike thus people who make a big deal because they haven't got laid in two weeks. I have a cousin like this and at times I feel like back-slapping him.

    As far as the whole friend with benefits deal, as mentioned it's extremely dangerous, but hey if it works then all the power to you. I can't think of any female friend who is open-minded enough and at the same time that I am sexually attracted to.
     
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    If this is true you have no clue how fortunate you are! Just be ready for her to start changing her song when it gets close to application time... If you hear, "Maybe we should apply to the same schools?" RUN!!! Don't look back! As much we would like to believe that sex without emotional strings attached exists, I urge everyone caution!
     
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    Frequent Sex. No long term commitment. What are you guys crazy, this is the best freakin deal I've heard of. Keep keepin on.

    Great recommendations!!!
     
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    personally, i think this is dumb. but that's only my opinion, and i'm speaking from personal experience. i don't think of sex and just sex. it's impossible to separate the emotional aspect from the physical aspect. that's why we have things like "relationships" and feelings of intimacy, etc. i have NEVER heard of a friends-with-benefits relationships working out and ending without any hitch. whether you like it or not, you will get attached beyond the friendship level, and begin expecting things that one would in a relationship, like contacting one another on a regular basis, spending time together in a non-sexual way, and acting a certain way around each other. also, it will completely **** up the group dynamic when you are hanging out with other friends. things will be awkward and uncomfortable. it may sound nice, but the costs are too great. plus, PLEASE you will never have sex because of busy schedules. i don't buy that. if you're a decent person, you'll end up with someone and have enough sex. plus it takes only 15 minutes, haha.
     
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    15?! What you doing the other 14 and a half???? --Trek :)
     
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    well, when i get into whatever medical school, i'll need to find a sex buddy (a girl, i'm a guy)... anyone interested? =)
     
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    Suddenly I feel the urge to apply to a few Canadian schools ;)
     
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    Well upon discussing this matter for quite some time we agreed that it could be quite beneficial for both of us if we hook up together. The benefit of such an arrangement is that there is a mutual agreement based on respect without the heavy emotional concerns that a heavy relationship entails. I recommend that a lot of students try this arrangement out...it certainly has worked in the most fantastic ways for me and my friend. HOWEVER, such an arrangement is VERY dangerous for those who are not comfortable with casual sex...for those people, i do NOT recommend this at all!

    Wow! Good for you! I believe that this is wonderful idea, especially since there is mutual agreement. Glad to see you both have such a healthy attitude about sex (esp. the woman). Best of luck to you and your friend!
     
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    Well upon discussing this matter for quite some time we agreed that it could be quite beneficial for both of us if we hook up together. The benefit of such an arrangement is that there is a mutual agreement based on respect without the heavy emotional concerns that a heavy relationship entails. I recommend that a lot of students try this arrangement out...it certainly has worked in the most fantastic ways for me and my friend. HOWEVER, such an arrangement is VERY dangerous for those who are not comfortable with casual sex...for those people, i do NOT recommend this at all!

    Wow! Good for you! I believe that this is wonderful idea, especially since there is mutual agreement. Glad to see you both have such a healthy attitude about sex (esp. the woman). Best of luck to you and your friend!
     
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    To each his own, and congrats if you've discovered an arrangement that works for you. I suppose I just don't understand though...how can sex even be all that enjoyable if there are no emotions attached? Personally, I've always found that the love for each other, the irresistability and the flowing forth of emotions, is what MAKES sex enjoyable. I couldn't imagine appreciating it at all without that emotional base. I'd have to numb myself to bar the thoughts running through my head and focus on the sensations...how would that be fulfilling in any way?

    Just curious. But congratulations if you've discovered a working arrangement. :)
     
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    This is by far the greatest topic I've ever read on SDN!! Wow!! First off, way to go my pimp-daddy brotha!!! At first I was reading your post like "hey it's no big deal just tell her to go masterbate or something", but then it turned good! Wow! I know I'd like to try an arrangement like that, but it is very risky so I'd have my reserves about it. Did any women post to this message? I'm sorry...I have a hard time telling people apart on the internet. But, anyways, what did you think about this plan? Sounds good, heh? I'd like to know if any women med or pre-med students would be interested in doing something like this...not with me...but in general. I must say that man who started this post must be one smooth cat to find a female classmate and come to a mutual agreement about sex. If you were my son (I'm only 20), I'd be damn proud! lol.

    Atlas

    P.S. If things go well, you might be showin her your "OH! :oops: face!"
     
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    sex is trivial?? what?!

    good to hear that people are at least thinking this - most med schools i have visited have a pretty healthy level of incest going on. how many single doctors do YOU know?

    but for what it's worth, sex without strings has never worked for me.
     
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    Do you notice how guys tend to think this is a great idea? The problem is finding a woman who has the same outlook. Like it or not, most women cannot separate sex and emotion and such an arrangement holds little appeal. But guys you can always find a willing partner for no strings attached sex from the traditional source- hookers. But watch out for those nasty STDs.
     
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