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Hi,
I hope you are all well. I am at the library right now, taking a break from studying for a Public Health midterm I have on friday (on Biostats). It's rainy outside and I feel alone. I feel alone even if I have "everything I need." I am safe, I have a home, I have a close family, and I have a great boyfriend. Right now, however, I am not getting along with my father for many reasons and we have stopped talking to each other altogether. As well, ever since I started my master's program (and about a month before that), my med student boyfriend has noticed that I am not as likely to have sex every day and that I fall asleep at 10:30 or 11. This has made us argue about (1) me not being able to stay awake (I work better in the morning) long enough so that we could have sex when he's finished studying, and (2) about having sex once (when we do have it) instead of the 4 or 5 times we used to have it when we first started.
Last night, I fell asleep before my boyfriend did. I woke up at 3 (not intending to) and realized that I had missed the opp. to have sex. I knew he would be upset (or not so happy) in the morning. So I tried to caress him to see if he would respond (I wasn't actually expecting him to! It was 3 am after all!) and he said he was too tired. I was totally cool with that. So I got up to write him a letter. My letter said that I was really sorry about not being as "sexual" as usual and that I wanted to work something out with him so that we felt satisfied while also allowing him to stay up late and allowing me to sleep. Perhaps have sex earlier in the day?
He read the letter in the morning and his response was not a happy one. I asked him what he thought and he said, "I don't know--whatever. I don't know why this is an issue." Well.. I thought... it IS an issue because I feel like you're mad at me every time we miss a chance to do it. So I asked if he wanted to talk about it... NO! I NEED TO GET TO SCHOOL. I AM LATE. ... Okay, so I kissed him goodbye at the front door and have called him on my cell several times today. Just to see how he's doing... maybe just to reassure myself that everything is okay.
There's a lot more to this story... such as the fact that I cleaned up his roommate's mess (just a pile of newspapers) that my boyfriend was upset about. I knew his roommate wouldn't clean up the mess-- so I did it... just to relieve some med student stress. I mean, since I'm not as busy as a med student, I figured I could help a little. Well... my BF got mad at me for that. He said that that was bothersome and that I should not clean his roommate's mess because otherwise he wouldn't learn his lesson.
I also made the mistake of asking my BF why he was distant yesterday. I take it I'm stupid and should have thought that he was just tired from being on call the night before.
Anyway, I just need to vent. I feel really alone right now. I've cried... and I don't know if it is because of the weather or because of the idea that I have so much on my plate. I have always been a source of support for my BF, but now that I can't be as much because I'm a student, I have to support myself, too. I just wish I had someone calling me as much as I call my BF... just reminding me that things will be okay with school and that I am doing a good job... and that I am great and wonderful and all that silly stuff that people say when they're trying to get you to smile. I hope this feeling passes. I hope that I get into the swing of being in school again soon. Am I weak for feeling like I need someone to cheer me on? Am I doing something wrong? Should I set the alarm for the time my BF goes to bed, so that I don't miss having sex with him?
I love him and care about him very much. And I want him to be happy. I just don't know how I'm going to be a great student, keep a balance with family, and meet my BF's needs. I guess that's the 1 million dollar question, huh?
I hope that I look back on this and smile--- very soon!!!
I hope you are all well. I am at the library right now, taking a break from studying for a Public Health midterm I have on friday (on Biostats). It's rainy outside and I feel alone. I feel alone even if I have "everything I need." I am safe, I have a home, I have a close family, and I have a great boyfriend. Right now, however, I am not getting along with my father for many reasons and we have stopped talking to each other altogether. As well, ever since I started my master's program (and about a month before that), my med student boyfriend has noticed that I am not as likely to have sex every day and that I fall asleep at 10:30 or 11. This has made us argue about (1) me not being able to stay awake (I work better in the morning) long enough so that we could have sex when he's finished studying, and (2) about having sex once (when we do have it) instead of the 4 or 5 times we used to have it when we first started.
Last night, I fell asleep before my boyfriend did. I woke up at 3 (not intending to) and realized that I had missed the opp. to have sex. I knew he would be upset (or not so happy) in the morning. So I tried to caress him to see if he would respond (I wasn't actually expecting him to! It was 3 am after all!) and he said he was too tired. I was totally cool with that. So I got up to write him a letter. My letter said that I was really sorry about not being as "sexual" as usual and that I wanted to work something out with him so that we felt satisfied while also allowing him to stay up late and allowing me to sleep. Perhaps have sex earlier in the day?
He read the letter in the morning and his response was not a happy one. I asked him what he thought and he said, "I don't know--whatever. I don't know why this is an issue." Well.. I thought... it IS an issue because I feel like you're mad at me every time we miss a chance to do it. So I asked if he wanted to talk about it... NO! I NEED TO GET TO SCHOOL. I AM LATE. ... Okay, so I kissed him goodbye at the front door and have called him on my cell several times today. Just to see how he's doing... maybe just to reassure myself that everything is okay.
There's a lot more to this story... such as the fact that I cleaned up his roommate's mess (just a pile of newspapers) that my boyfriend was upset about. I knew his roommate wouldn't clean up the mess-- so I did it... just to relieve some med student stress. I mean, since I'm not as busy as a med student, I figured I could help a little. Well... my BF got mad at me for that. He said that that was bothersome and that I should not clean his roommate's mess because otherwise he wouldn't learn his lesson.
I also made the mistake of asking my BF why he was distant yesterday. I take it I'm stupid and should have thought that he was just tired from being on call the night before.
Anyway, I just need to vent. I feel really alone right now. I've cried... and I don't know if it is because of the weather or because of the idea that I have so much on my plate. I have always been a source of support for my BF, but now that I can't be as much because I'm a student, I have to support myself, too. I just wish I had someone calling me as much as I call my BF... just reminding me that things will be okay with school and that I am doing a good job... and that I am great and wonderful and all that silly stuff that people say when they're trying to get you to smile. I hope this feeling passes. I hope that I get into the swing of being in school again soon. Am I weak for feeling like I need someone to cheer me on? Am I doing something wrong? Should I set the alarm for the time my BF goes to bed, so that I don't miss having sex with him?
I love him and care about him very much. And I want him to be happy. I just don't know how I'm going to be a great student, keep a balance with family, and meet my BF's needs. I guess that's the 1 million dollar question, huh?
I hope that I look back on this and smile--- very soon!!!