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To make a (very) long story semi-short, every college student's worst nightmare came true for me freshman year. For myself and a girl I was having casual sex with (actually the first girl I ever had sex with), condoms and birth control were not enough. It was the second time she had got pregnant. The first time, the guy rushed her to the abortion clinic. I stayed with her and supported her for the worst several weeks of my life, often skipping nights out with my friends to hold her in her down room while she cried. The minute her parents found out they sent her a wedding ring. We considered all options, and since her family had a history of miscarriages, the strong likelihood of birthing an unhealthy baby made things even more complicated. Amidst all this Hell, I pledged a fraternity and maintained a 3.9 that semester. As the decision to adopt or abort drew near, she miscarried.
This part of my past is not something that I'm proud of. The only people that actually know about it are my parents and one of my brothers. However, when questions like "What was the most difficult time of your life, and how did you overcome it" surface in essays and interviews, it's hard to think of anything else. It was by far the most difficult time of my life, but also the time that I feel really shaped the person I am today. I became a man that semester, and learned more about myself than any other time in my life.
Obviously, my question is what would ADCOMS think of this "life experience"? I feel like it could either really help me or really hurt me. I am a strong applicant (3.7 GPA, 35 MCAT) but am applying to top schools, and feel that the way I handled things is desirable for a MD candidate (I have always though of human life as sacred). I have been hesitant to talk about it thus far, even to my advisors, out of respect for the girl (I go to a small school). Also, would it be morally acceptable to use something like this as leverage to gain acceptance? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
This part of my past is not something that I'm proud of. The only people that actually know about it are my parents and one of my brothers. However, when questions like "What was the most difficult time of your life, and how did you overcome it" surface in essays and interviews, it's hard to think of anything else. It was by far the most difficult time of my life, but also the time that I feel really shaped the person I am today. I became a man that semester, and learned more about myself than any other time in my life.
Obviously, my question is what would ADCOMS think of this "life experience"? I feel like it could either really help me or really hurt me. I am a strong applicant (3.7 GPA, 35 MCAT) but am applying to top schools, and feel that the way I handled things is desirable for a MD candidate (I have always though of human life as sacred). I have been hesitant to talk about it thus far, even to my advisors, out of respect for the girl (I go to a small school). Also, would it be morally acceptable to use something like this as leverage to gain acceptance? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.