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I'm just an (older) premed, but have recently come across an ethical dillema that I was hoping somebody here could help me out on.
A girl I work with has been telling me recently how sick her baby is. The child is a 3-month old girl, who hasn't been able to keep anything down for almost two weeks now. Every time she eats/drinks she pukes, and she is now very underweight. The girl was telling me how her Pediatrician told her to take the baby to a GI specialist, but the earliest appointment she can get is in about three weeks. She's upset about this, but seems completely resigned to the situation. When myself and a few other co-workers tried to tell her she should either, a) take the baby to an ER or b) call the doctor back and make sure they know the seriousness of the situation and that the baby needs to be seen soon, she just kind of changes the subject, saying stuff like, "I can't talk about this. It just makes me so upset to think about how sick my baby is." From what it sounds like, the kid goes through long periods without being able to hold down ANYTHING, and even as a non-parent, non-doctor, it seems like the possibility of dehydration is a real one (a number of my co-workers also expressed this concern). But this mother seems to react to any unpleasant situation with a pattern of avoidance.
What do all of you think about this? My initial reaction is that, however well-intentioned, this girl is neglecting her baby's needs, and possibly jeopardizing her long-term health, maybe even her life. I've been contemplating contacting social services in my state about it. But on the other hand, as an outsider, I don't know all of the details. I have no reason to believe that this girl doesn't genuinely love her child, even if she is a bit dysfunctional as a mother, and I would hate to possibly get a family broken apart. Beyond that, I don't have a lot of faith in social services in general; I worry that if they did decide something was wrong, the baby might end up in the foster system, with possibly worse consequences. Or that conversely they might take the baby away from its mother without good reason.
Please, please, weigh in on this. I just want to do what's best for this child.
Thanks,
Pemulis
A girl I work with has been telling me recently how sick her baby is. The child is a 3-month old girl, who hasn't been able to keep anything down for almost two weeks now. Every time she eats/drinks she pukes, and she is now very underweight. The girl was telling me how her Pediatrician told her to take the baby to a GI specialist, but the earliest appointment she can get is in about three weeks. She's upset about this, but seems completely resigned to the situation. When myself and a few other co-workers tried to tell her she should either, a) take the baby to an ER or b) call the doctor back and make sure they know the seriousness of the situation and that the baby needs to be seen soon, she just kind of changes the subject, saying stuff like, "I can't talk about this. It just makes me so upset to think about how sick my baby is." From what it sounds like, the kid goes through long periods without being able to hold down ANYTHING, and even as a non-parent, non-doctor, it seems like the possibility of dehydration is a real one (a number of my co-workers also expressed this concern). But this mother seems to react to any unpleasant situation with a pattern of avoidance.
What do all of you think about this? My initial reaction is that, however well-intentioned, this girl is neglecting her baby's needs, and possibly jeopardizing her long-term health, maybe even her life. I've been contemplating contacting social services in my state about it. But on the other hand, as an outsider, I don't know all of the details. I have no reason to believe that this girl doesn't genuinely love her child, even if she is a bit dysfunctional as a mother, and I would hate to possibly get a family broken apart. Beyond that, I don't have a lot of faith in social services in general; I worry that if they did decide something was wrong, the baby might end up in the foster system, with possibly worse consequences. Or that conversely they might take the baby away from its mother without good reason.
Please, please, weigh in on this. I just want to do what's best for this child.
Thanks,
Pemulis