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Should I mention being gay in my interview even if it has a lot to do w/ my PS?

Discussion in 'Pre-Dental' started by LionDDS, Sep 27, 2014.

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  1. LionDDS


    Sep 5, 2014
    They ask you about your challenges and overcoming something... I want to talk about to coming out gay in a D1 sport where there are relatively no out gays... I'm still caught in a crux over this. Btw the interview is at an East Coast school!
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  3. Fondue

    Fondue 5+ Year Member

    Apr 11, 2009
    If your PS talks about the challenges you've overcome coming out of the closet, then I would assume admissions has already read it before calling you for an interview. If what you're concerned about is that you might possibly face discrimination. I think you'll be fine. Admission boards that are biased against you being gay most likely wouldn't call you for an interview.

    But if what you're asking is if it's a good idea that rehash what your PS says, then I don't think that's a problem either. I wouldn't quote it exactly, though.
  4. sgv

    sgv ...crumbling 2+ Year Member

    Sep 5, 2013
    what does coming out as gay mean? like i would think it's inappropriate for a heterosexual man to go to a locker room full of dudes and pretty much say, "I love plowing [insert genitalia]". why do people have to announce it? just live your life as a gay man or woman like it's a normal thing instead of telling everyone how you're different and special in one very particular aspect of your life which is private almost 99% of the time in a bedroom behind closed doors.

    usually people announce things only if they're vices that require recognition that it is a problem prior to overcoming that particular coming out as gay, does it mean that you view being gay as a vice? #showerthoughts

    anyways, that qualifies as a challenge that you overcame even at the risk of suffering persecution and becoming ostracized.
    Last edited: Sep 27, 2014
  5. MasterDental

    MasterDental 2+ Year Member

    Jan 10, 2014
    I agree with you. To be honest OP, no one cares. They already gave you an interview. If you decide to mention it as an answer to a question regarding struggles, then you could mention it. Otherwise, it is completely irrelevant.

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  6. FlossFloss


    Jan 19, 2014
    I personally am attracted to donkeys.... it's been a tough life getting judged for it when I'm seen with one. It's in my personal statement... Will dental schools pity me and give me acceptance? =(. Serious question. I haven't come out to my friends and family yet that I'm currently sharing a flat with one.
  7. LionDDS


    Sep 5, 2014
    i think you should!
  8. Jbrowndds

    Jbrowndds SMILE ON!!! 2+ Year Member

    Oct 31, 2012
    Unless your struggles somehow had a major impact on your journey to becoming a dentist, don't. If you don't want to be judged on sexuality but the hard work that got you to were you are then leave it out. I am pretty sure they legally can't reject you for being gay but it's really not that important for this process.
  9. LionDDS


    Sep 5, 2014
    Got in Maryland but rejected from one other school so alls well :)
  10. FlossFloss


    Jan 19, 2014
    im so confused.....thougth they dont give out acceptance till dec.. there are exceptions?
  11. Bottle

    Bottle 2+ Year Member

    Oct 22, 2012
    I agree with the majority here. Writing about it in your PS should be ok if it means a lot to you, but don't try to bring it up during interview unless someone mention it. If I were interviewer and you randomly started talking about how you are gay, I would assume that you are trying to play the gay card as URM status and I'll call you out on that/reject you.
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  13. SM555

    SM555 2+ Year Member

    Sep 26, 2013
    Gay in a D1 sport, username "liondds" has an O I S and so does Missouri.
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  14. CogNeuroGuy

    CogNeuroGuy 2+ Year Member

    Aug 13, 2013
    As a gay man myself, I can really empathize with what you are trying to do. In regards to others thinking this is no big would be wrong. You try being part of a marginalized group that is still fighting to have equality in the work place, school, in social settings, public venues, transportation, etc. At any rate, I think you shouldn't mention it for the sole purposes of pulling some type of minority card unless you feel your minority status somehow provides you a certain level of competitiveness that is not evident in your overall application. Certainly put your marriage status on the application (if you are gay and married), fill the appropriate sections out as any of our heterosexual counterparts would, and if they catch on to that in the interview, I would use it as a means to help them see why being out, gay, (and married?) has somehow impacted your life in the pursuit of becoming a professional dentist.

    I grew up in a traditional conservative household in central is Catholic and mom is Baptist, so I get to hear the snide, smartass comments about black people, latinos, gays, etc. when I was growing up. Seriously, when you are part of a historically marginalized group of do start to voice that concern, identify with others and let people know that it is bull**** to pass judgement without knowing someone.

    The way I see it is, if you are out and comfortable as you say you are, then if you find a program that has their heads up their asses, seriously, run the other way, you do not need to give them thousands of dollars and 4+ years of your time to deal with dip ****s when you can go to a different program that would treat you well. (This is coming from someone who has applied to Ph.D. programs and previous master's programs).
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  15. Upperbyte

    Upperbyte 2+ Year Member

    Nov 26, 2012
    I would not mention this in an interview. Unless-they specifically ask about an adversity you faced. They likely will not. They last 20 minutes sometimes longer up to 45 (many variations in different schools), and they have standard questions they usually ask. Many of those would not dictate opening up that door. If I was interviewing you, and I asked you a question that had nothing to do with your sexual orientation, yet you brought it up, I think I might feel like a sympathy card was pulled. But, if I asked you about overcoming a particular hardship in your life and you mentioned it, I would feel like you answered the question incredibly well-because it would be coming from the heart. I don't feel schools are rejecting applicants due to their sexual orientation (or, not being straight). I could be naive, but I am at a school that has one gay student (that we know of), and another just got accepted in the freshman class. We only have two classes because the school is new. So, I think that is a good start.

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