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Or is that too unmanly? I've never been kissed unfortunately so I'm wondering how to tackle this challenge.
Or is that too unmanly? I've never been kissed unfortunately so I'm wondering how to tackle this challenge.
Lol at the macho men ITT
Or is that too unmanly? I've never been kissed unfortunately so I'm wondering how to tackle this challenge.
No, don't do it. Yes, it is unmanly.Or is that too unmanly? I've never been kissed unfortunately so I'm wondering how to tackle this challenge.
I like WTFs approach. I'm a talker and there's ways to phrase things to make it more sexy, not less.It's not even about it being unmanly, it's that it just wrecks the mood much of the time. There's a flow to things you need to kind of just feel.
I like WTFs approach. I'm a talker and there's ways to phrase things to make it more sexy, not less.
I like WTFs approach. I'm a talker and there's ways to phrase things to make it more sexy, not less.
I hate itA kind of creepy song/ romance, if you really pick apart what is happening.
Or is that too unmanly? I've never been kissed unfortunately so I'm wondering how to tackle this challenge.
Yeah,A kind of creepy song/ romance, if you really pick apart what is happening.
Or is that too unmanly? I've never been kissed unfortunately so I'm wondering how to tackle this challenge.
Yeah... I wouldn't advise this with anything more than a kiss.Don't ask, tell them you are going to kiss them and then do it. That way you preserve their autonomy (you informed them what you were doing and they passively accepted) and you still got to get your kiss on.
I can't say exactly why but this particular strategy rubs me the wrong way.Don't ask, tell them you are going to kiss them and then do it. That way you preserve their autonomy (you informed them what you were doing and they passively accepted) and you still got to get your kiss on.
Don't ask, tell them you are going to kiss them and then do it. That way you preserve their autonomy (you informed them what you were doing and they passively accepted) and you still got to get your kiss on.
I can't say exactly why but this particular strategy rubs me the wrong way.
I'm not seeing any sort of acceptance, active or passive, if someone just physically does something to you without awaiting any sort of response or reaction.
Or is that too unmanly? I've never been kissed unfortunately so I'm wondering how to tackle this challenge.
Assumed OP wanted to take a more aggressive approach.
Thanks for putting into words how I felt about that comment.I can definitely say why. It's boorish unless you have a very, very solid expectation that she wants you to, as discerned from previous interactions/signs. And even then there are increasing levels of sketch depending on the intensity of whatever physical interaction we are talking about - such an attitude can quickly become rapey af.
I can definitely say why. It's boorish unless you have a very, very solid expectation that she wants you to, as discerned from previous interactions/signs. And even then there are increasing levels of sketch depending on the intensity of whatever physical interaction we are talking about - such an attitude can quickly become rapey af.
Fair point, though I interpreted OP's dilemma as not being able to proceed once he reached the point bolded in quote. Certainly I do not endorse forced sexual interactions; I think my attempted deadpan on consent failed. Merely trying to establish a dialogue on more aggressive (yet acceptable) options...
There's nothing wrong with being confident and taking the first step - even being "aggressive" about it (although I don't like the connotations of the word, but I understand where you are coming from) as long as you don't overstep and you have a good read on the other person. But when we are talking about someone who has very little dating experience based on their post history and has never kissed a girl, being too aggressive in the face of inexperience in being around women in a romantic/sexual context can lead to disasters.
Did it occur to you that perhaps the girl is just as nervous as you? Maybe she's just as bad at being flirty and showing interest as you. You seem to have trouble 'escalating,' perhaps she has trouble/is too nervous to show said interest back.Or is that too unmanly? I've never been kissed unfortunately so I'm wondering how to tackle this challenge.
also, in addition to this, the vibes you give off, in any situation really, are infectious. If you are visibly nervous, the person you are with will likely be nervous as well.Did it occur to you that perhaps the girl is just as nervous as you? Maybe she's just as bad at being flirty and showing interest as you. You seem to have trouble 'escalating,' perhaps she has trouble/is too nervous to show said interest back.