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Is this a negative factor in marriage quality?
Is this a negative factor in marriage quality?
I think the occupation of the spouse highly depends on the actual person. There are many physicians (even surgeons) in healthy fulfilling marriages. There are many who are not. Likewise, why would be married to a physician be any worse than being married to a lawyer?
I think if both people in the relationship are realistic about time management and expectations, things go a lot better. Individual people have differing levels of tolerance for what they perceive as "crap."
Feel free to expound.
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If you plan to have a family, it can be challenging to balance work/school/study and family. I'm married to a physician and we've had our share of struggles. Fortunately, our career paths and schedules have worked out well.
I think the largest challenge to two-intense-career families is having kids. You will need help. Big help. Like parents-moving-in-with-you help. Like full-time nanny help. Medical spouses pick up a lot of slack, even if they also work full-time. Two residents married and with kids? Yikes! When would you see each other? I suppose it would be the same with one resident and one big-law-firm associate or wall-st-bond-trader, but still - trouble.
The question of avoiding who to date is a serious one - your medical school class will be small and everybody will know. So dating within the class is tough. It has worked out for some but they were all very serious about the relationship and spent a lot of time as friends before jumping into a dating scenario. Dating people from different years actually works out well since if it ends badly you are not as likely to see this person often.