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*Sigh*. It's that time of year again....acceptances have arrived and we get to compare (very subtly) who got into where. I just found out my parents' friends' daughter got into a top 10 med school phd/md program---along with her pick of other top schools. It's not that I'm unhappy with what I got, but it does seem dim compared to the options available to wondergirl over there---and it seems my parents are thinking it too.
I'm Chinese so a lot of Chinese parents like to brag about their kids' academic exploits. So I'm feeling a little bit...dumb lately. Didn't score the 99th percentile on my MCAT, didn't get straight A's in college, went to a top 15 college, not Harvard/Stanford/Yale/Princeton variety though.
I even worked before deciding on med school! Not exactly the medical school success story that most Chinese expect their children to be. My mom insists she's proud of me, but she refuses to tell people I got into med school, and I think it's out of fear that people may actually know that it's a DO school is and think it's a 'fake' or 'unaccredited' school---she insists it's not, she just wants to wait until I "finalize" my med school decision (yeah, the $250 deposit wasn't enough).
So today, I find out a family friend's daughter got into a top 10 med school program, with 'full scholarship'---I think it's a Phd/MD program. Another family friend's daughter got into a top 20 law school.
My parents aren't saying anything other than that everyone seems to be doing good, but I'm starting to feel jiffed----it seems my DO acceptance is just not 'good enough' for them. I think the only reason my parents seem happy I got an acceptance is that they know I'll graduate a doctor and make 'six figures'.
But I feel they act like they have to 'hide' the fact that's it's a DO degree---as if anyone knows the great MD vs. DO debate at all. I mean if I say I'm going to attend Midwestern Chicago med school----is it going to jump out at people my school is somehow illegimate?
Does anyone else ever feel this way sometimes? Like you're not practicing up to standard and that all your achievements cannot compare to others?
I know I shouldn't care, but I'm feeling a bit down today because of this. I should be happy family friends are so successful, but I think I'm feeling jealous. I'm not considered dumb by my parents' friends. I went to a top college and majored in engineering, and got a good job out of college but I'm feeling like an ugly stepchild sometimes when hearing about others' success.
I think I'm a bad person for thinking this though.
I'm Chinese so a lot of Chinese parents like to brag about their kids' academic exploits. So I'm feeling a little bit...dumb lately. Didn't score the 99th percentile on my MCAT, didn't get straight A's in college, went to a top 15 college, not Harvard/Stanford/Yale/Princeton variety though.
I even worked before deciding on med school! Not exactly the medical school success story that most Chinese expect their children to be. My mom insists she's proud of me, but she refuses to tell people I got into med school, and I think it's out of fear that people may actually know that it's a DO school is and think it's a 'fake' or 'unaccredited' school---she insists it's not, she just wants to wait until I "finalize" my med school decision (yeah, the $250 deposit wasn't enough).
So today, I find out a family friend's daughter got into a top 10 med school program, with 'full scholarship'---I think it's a Phd/MD program. Another family friend's daughter got into a top 20 law school.
My parents aren't saying anything other than that everyone seems to be doing good, but I'm starting to feel jiffed----it seems my DO acceptance is just not 'good enough' for them. I think the only reason my parents seem happy I got an acceptance is that they know I'll graduate a doctor and make 'six figures'.
But I feel they act like they have to 'hide' the fact that's it's a DO degree---as if anyone knows the great MD vs. DO debate at all. I mean if I say I'm going to attend Midwestern Chicago med school----is it going to jump out at people my school is somehow illegimate?
Does anyone else ever feel this way sometimes? Like you're not practicing up to standard and that all your achievements cannot compare to others?
I know I shouldn't care, but I'm feeling a bit down today because of this. I should be happy family friends are so successful, but I think I'm feeling jealous. I'm not considered dumb by my parents' friends. I went to a top college and majored in engineering, and got a good job out of college but I'm feeling like an ugly stepchild sometimes when hearing about others' success.
I think I'm a bad person for thinking this though.