•••quote:•••Originally posted by jhug:
•WOW!!! We have tried for some time now so we are super, super, super excited!! Many in my family have insisted i defer enrollment for a year but my heart tells me that isn't the solution-- any ideas/direction???•••••WOW!!!
Congratulations!!! Hubby and I have been trying for our first since the end of 99, and so I know what it is like to finally achieve your goal after a time of waiting.
I am terribly thrilled for you!
Only you can decide about deferring or not...you and your wife of course.
Having just one child can be a strain, but it really depends alot on the childs temperment, the spouse who will be at homes temperment, and the availbility of support. The last is key...will your wife have someone other then you available to help out alot?
I was wondering though, there is a good chance that your wife will deliver before full term, at that point, could you see how it 'feels' and then defer if that felt right?
I am thinking you will have some time between the birth of your children and the start of school to figure out what feels right for the both of you.
If you don't want to defer, and your wife doesn't want you to....then don't.....you can always change your mind later but if you defer without wanting to, you can't change your mind and actually enroll.
Good luck!! Let us know what you decide and congratulations again!!!
Wifty