You already have preconceived thoughts about me and despite anything I ever say to the contrary continue to spew out stuff like this in an open forum. Forgive me if I take that as disrespect.
So, to begin with, I've never met you. Don't know who you are. don't know anything about you other than what you've posted here. So it's not really possible to have preconceived thoughts about you. A preconceived thought is an idea you have about something with which you've had no interaction. My conceptions about you are entirely based upon what you've posted here. They're not preconceived. You can argue that they're inaccurate, but they are based upon what I've read that you have posted thus far.
Nextly, Yeah, if someone posts about Army ENT I'll respond. If someone asks about research opportunities in the Army, I'll respond. Because I know research, and I did research in the Army. So I have at least as much experience with it as you do, and you posted. So why not me? You're not an ID fellow. You didn't do ID research. You're not (you've stated) in the belt. So I'm not sure where you're going here. If someone posts a question about PM&R, you'll notice that I leave that alone. Or, perhaps, make a sarcastic response that neither supports nor condemns the military, but that's another issue entirely.
In fact it made it worse.
Starting to agree sometimes, but only because of the strife not because of your opinions.
People stopped posting and would just contact me directly for questions instead of posting due to knowing what kind of negative response they would get.
Believe it or not, everyone gets these. The danger in your case is that these kids are desperate, and you tend to oversell the product. They want to hear good news so that they can justify a very, very difficult decision.
I've definitely seen you post both sides, but sometimes you forget that there are two sides to the story. Or, at least, you certainly only highlight one side, which is exactly what you accuse everyone else of doing. Simply stating that "things can be super great, you know as long as you fit in" really need a balancing statement indicating what exactly fitting in means.
For example "there are great research opportunities in the military." (not a direct quote)
Yep. Ok. But there are a lot of things that have to happen in your favor, many based entirely upon circumstance, to provide you those opportunities. And most people don't have them. See, you feel like pointing out the former point is the most important part of that conversation. I disagree. I'm a plan for the worst, hope for the best kind of guy.
Also, sometimes you don't have perspective -like with regards to whether or not 15 million is a lot of money for a major DOD research grant. Now, that actually isn't a criticism at all. If you've never been involved in a grant application at a civilian research center, I understand that. A lot of people haven't. But that why there are other valid posts and opinions aside from your own - even if they happen to have a negative view of milmed.