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Whether or not you were nice about how you said it, the message is legitimate and definitely a good suggestion.
You're not taking a lot of things into consideration; custom scrub sizes costs money, they will probably have to order more food for noon talks, and finding a bigger venue for the class picture will certainly be a pain.
I recently jumped into similar hot water for basically acknowledging that a friend of mine is overweight. I'd say it's a mistake to do and I wouldn't do it again.
It's like telling a smoker to quit. Not worth the time and effort.
Congrats on the 20 pound weight loss!I'm really overweight/obese, a URM and I'm going to med school next year. I got into to some decent state schools and some decent private med schools. I was wasn't always overweight, I played basketball in high school and was in good shape, but I battled depression and anxiety after high school, ate whenever I felt lonely or stressed and plus I was put on an anti-depressant that made me crave food even more, so I packed on the pounds... I'm trying to lose weight now, and have lost about 20 pounds, but I still have a ways to go...
It's good advice to tell your friend to lose weight, I mean as long as it done in a nice way I don't see anything wrong with that.
I sincerely hope you don't believe this stuff, but you repeat it all the time...You see, when adcoms look at applications they don't look at the person. No one cares about the person behind the numbers, they care about the numbers behind that number in their applicant pool. If you increase their MCAT average, you belong in that school. The only issue is whether your application will get shuffled to the "in" pile or the "out" pile. This is an arbitrary process, kind of like throwing darts and hitting the target on the wall. All darts are created equal (high grade manufacturing = high scores) but only some darts will arbitrarily hit the target (there's no rhyme or reason once the darts are made whether they will hit or not).
all the doctors I work with..well..none of them really tolerate overweight people or people who smoke/drink/do drugs.
I sincerely hope you don't believe this stuff, but you repeat it all the time...
I mean like heavy-end-up-in-the-ER-drinkers.huh. My buddies who are MDs all drink like fishes
OP- if he's truly pushing 3-hundo there's not really all that much he can do about it in short order before interviews come up, so all you really did was add to his neurosis, make him feel sh*tty while coming off as a jerky friend.
Further, I agree with poster above who mentioned you also probably didn't tell him anything he didn't already know.
right? I'm relying on my good looks to pull me through this one.
huh. My buddies who are MDs all drink like fishes
OP- if he's truly pushing 3-hundo there's not really all that much he can do about it in short order before interviews come up, so all you really did was add to his neurosis and simultaneously make him feel sh*tty while coming off as a jerky friend. (dieting: 4 months x 2lbs off per month --> 8lbs lighter off a 300lb dude? maybe down a belt notch or two, but otherwise not really gonna notice).
This is ridiculous, but if weight is TRULY a factor that he is concerned about for interviews, he could pull a smoke and mirrors job: invest heavy coin in an excellently cut, truly impeccably tailored suit (30lbs off), stand in for a slimming spray tan, get lifts in his shoes and wear a man spanx undershirt and boxers. Boom, I just made your buddy lose 50lbs. But yeah... all that is pointless and unnecessary if he has confidence in the interview, is genuine, likeable and has interesting stuff to say to back up his scores and gpa.
Further, I agree with poster above who mentioned you also probably didn't tell him anything he didn't already know.
There's nothing wrong with sharing opinions, but data show that the MCAT isn't the singular defining predictor of success that you think it is. Yes, it's an important test, but you reduce every single issue of discussion to an MCAT issue. Weight and bias against the obese is irrelevant because the MCAT is more important? Really? It's just an oversimplification to disregard every possible concern and defer to MCAT performance.sorry I'll try to keep my opinions to myself from now on...
I actually disagree with this to a certain extent. One of my closest friends is rather large, and although she "knows" she is large logically, in her head, she is still often shocked when she sees pictures of herself or really looks at herself in the mirror. On a day to day basis, she still thinks she looks "good" (her words, not mine) and is really surprised when she occasionally gets a shock of reality. Even though she knows her weight is high, she doesn't understand that she looks fat all the time - only when it surprises her, and then it goes away after a couple days.
I dunno, between the ng tube diet and some lipo I'm sure you could clean things up a lot before august. Some clenbuterol probably wouldnt hurt.
Have you ever heard of a joke...Have you ever wondered if there was more to life, other than being really, really, ridiculously good looking?
Have you ever heard of a joke...
Please don't let any miscers get into this thread, it's been pretty good so far.
Please don't let any miscers get into this thread, it's been pretty good so far.
I think there should be a government sponsored program that forces fat people to misc 1 hour a day. It would probably help them.
I can see an argument being put forth that doctors should emulate the weight they want their patients to have.
4-5 months he could legitimately lose like 20 pounds, but if he's pushing 300 pounds like you say he is, then it's not going to make much difference.
But I'm also curious if Adcoms are starting to consider weight level of applicants. Given it's already becoming difficult to separate quality students at schools (lots of high stats) it seems this could be a viable metric.
Especially since America's biggest health problem is essentially obesity and obesity related illness. I can see an argument being put forth that doctors should emulate the weight they want their patients to have.
I'm pretty sure this is how the convo went:
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first of all, the patients would be the ones emulating, not the doctors.
secondly, there's a valid argument that some bariatric patients may appreciate, listen to and be more highly compliant when working with a larger doctor who'd maybe been there and could empathize with struggling with his or her weight instead of twiggy dweeb.
Interestingly, there was a recent study published showing that overweight doctors were less likely to counsel their patients on weight. Yikes.
4-5 months he could legitimately lose like 20 pounds, but if he's pushing 300 pounds like you say he is, then it's not going to make much difference.
But I'm also curious if Adcoms are starting to consider weight level of applicants. Given it's already becoming difficult to separate quality students at schools (lots of high stats) it seems this could be a viable metric.
Especially since America's biggest health problem is essentially obesity and obesity related illness. I can see an argument being put forth that doctors should emulate the weight they want their patients to have.
So physicians now have to become models of perfect health and what the mass media pictures as an ideal body image? Give me a break.
I don't see how the way a person looks should creep into a decision on whether or not they would make good physicians.
It isn't worrying about "mass media ideal body image"; it's a health concern now. The man has a 44 BMI. That is just insane. There is no way he can handle the stress of being a doctor with such an unhealthy lifestyle. Whether it's just disgusting pigging habits or coping mechanisms, it's better to address them before he considers a stress-inducing career in medicine, where his risk of getting a heart attack are just so high.
lol, +1i'm sure you approached your friend with all the tact, respect and consideration you have made so evident in your posting history on sdn.
So no wonder he's pissed at you.
Interestingly, there was a recent study published showing that overweight doctors were less likely to counsel their patients on weight. Yikes.
Isn't this all based upon appearance though? Someone could smoke, drink, eat fast food all the time, and have a ridiculously high metabolism so they're skinny. No one cares about their habits because aesthetically, they look fine. I would be willing to say the same about someone who may be overweight/borderline obese if they carry their weight in a way that does not look like he/she is obese. The fact that OP's friend carries his weight in a way that makes him look obese does not help his situation.
It has nothing to do with how he carries his weight. If you're 5'9 and >300 lb, you're obese. (inb4 someone mentions Ronnie coleman)
He's probably struggled with his weight for most, if not all of his life. He's probably been made fun of for it throughout that time. It is a difficult topic for us fatties to talk about, and depending on how you approached it, he may have thought you were attacking him.
Isn't this all based upon appearance though? Someone could smoke, drink, eat fast food all the time, and have a ridiculously high metabolism so they're skinny. No one cares about their habits because aesthetically, they look fine. I would be willing to say the same about someone who may be overweight/borderline obese if they carry their weight in a way that does not look like he/she is obese. The fact that OP's friend carries his weight in a way that makes him look obese does not help his situation.
I fully agree that's obese, but my point is...say if someone is 5'9 and 275 yet carry their weight well and do not look as if they weigh 275, I'd be willing to bet there wouldnt be any discrimination towards this person. Even though it is a double standard, this is probably only true for males. And I am not referring to someone who is a body-builder.