What an insult!

[quaileggs]

I just got back from the grocery store where I was in line behind a woman from the same suburb where I live. Our daughters are about the same age and recognized eachother so the other mom and I started chatting about our plans for our kids spring breaks this upcoming week. I mentioned that I hadn't given much thought to it yet because I just graduated from OSU on Friday. She said. "Oh! What kind of degree?" I replied "Microbiology. " Her: "And what are you going to do with that."
Me: "I'm going to medical school this summer."
Her: "Oh! When I went through MY midlife crisis, I got a job at the rec center as a lifeguard."
??????????????????
This offends me on several levels. 1st: MIDLIFE CRISIS? Excuse me.(hand on my hip) I am 32 compared to her 50 or so. Lady, please don't put me in your age group...She could be my mother.
Also- Comparing all the work that goes into deciding to go to med school, enrolling in college from scratch, applying and getting in,graduating , preparing for 4 years of arduous study, followed by 3 or more even more arduous years of residency does not exactly compare to your decision to "become a lifeguard at the rec center."
It is frustrating to me that so many of the women where I live are brain-dead. I just don't fit in nor do I want to. Thankfully, I will soon be in the company of intelligent, ambitious and interesting women (and men) in medical school. I CAN'T WAIT!!!!!!
Thanks for letting me vent. Love you guys.

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[KDMD]

I think it is FANTASTIC that you are pursuing what you truly want to do. I think it is unfortunate that you had to deal with a run-in like that at the grocery store. The best way to look at the situation is to realize that much of what that woman said to you probably stems from jealousy--you are doing something that this woman clearly does not have the will or ambition to do. You are aspiring to something great, a career that you will be not only increasing your own knowledge and abilities, but also by doing something truly incredible-helping others. You have the dedication AND the time (you have a good twenty years before you can blame things on a mid-life crisis)...send her your business card when you begin your practice

 

[Doctora Foxy]

wow, I always assumed you were a 21 year old male! <img border="0" alt="[Laughy]" title="" src="graemlins/laughy.gif" />

But I see how she upset you. Don't let it bother you too much, she doesn't know any better. Just feel proud to be a strong woman becoming a doctor!

This thread reminds me of that old thread, about how other people just don't understand. It's not that she's unintelligent, just unaware.

&lt;&lt;&lt;I edited this post because I don't want to offend anyone and I think I made a dumb comment comparing MDs to other professions. Sorry &gt;&gt;&gt;

 

[oldman]

i like that hands on your hips image.

anyway, med school is a tough path. it's great that it is no longer just a white male field. you go girls!

 

[Bustahimes]

yo quaileggs and especially foxy
y do u care so much about wut others think of you. is that y u want to become a doctor, so other ppl will admire and respect u.
if u spend more time on thinking an MD is what you truly wanna do regardless of how much others look up to you and perhaps just think about the paycheck difference between MD and eye doctors, then u wouldnt be all internally torn.

 

[intoxicatedtiger]

dude, this is gonna turn into another "those who don't go into medicine just don't understand" threads. I think that lady was trying to make some small talk, and she probably couldn't think of anything better to say at that moment. Don't be too peeved about that.

 

[jase133]

Come on people.
We're going to doctors.
We're going to be misunderstood everyday.
What's the big deal?
Let's not concentrate on these things. The last thing we need are doctors who think they are too good for all the non-MD people.

 

[Doctora Foxy]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Bustahimes:
•yo quaileggs and especially foxy
y do u care so much about wut others think of you. is that y u want to become a doctor, so other ppl will admire and respect u.
if u spend more time on thinking an MD is what you truly wanna do regardless of how much others look up to you and perhaps just think about the paycheck difference between MD and eye doctors, then u wouldnt be all internally torn.•••••ok, if you write in clear English I might better understand what you're saying. I really don't know why you are personally attacking me in every thread. You don't know me nor my reasons for pursuing an MD degree. This board used to be a place where premeds can find answers to their questions and a place to find support in a noncompetitive environment.

Thanks for f*cking it up .

 

[Bustahimes]

sure no problem anytime

 

[Bustahimes]

oh yeh foxy, i guess jase agrees with me
if you stop worrying about your status in the eyes of others, and stop looking down on non-MDs, you will feel better. hope that helps.
i dont need to worry about grammar. just focusin on making bling bling for my family. i grew up as an immigrant in the ghetto and my few friends would take a bullet for me. that's better than living your life of eloquence and husband cheating behind your back. give me a break. quit looking down on non-MD and ppl talkin with grammar mistakes. then u will realize life is more than about status. u have a lot to learn as a 32 year old.

 

[Boundless Energy]

Foxy, no te preocupes. Estas sigiendo el camino que deseas en tu vida. Debes de no pagar attencion a estas personas que no darte respecto. Ten paciencia amiga, es una virtud de una doctora acertada.

 

[Sanman]

To quaileggs:
I hate stupid people too, unfortunately I'm surrounded by them. Good luck w/ medical school.

 

[Doctora Foxy]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Bustahimes:
•oh yeh foxy, i guess jase agrees with me
if you stop worrying about your status in the eyes of others, and stop looking down on non-MDs, you will feel better. hope that helps.
i dont need to worry about grammar. just focusin on making bling bling for my family. i grew up as an immigrant in the ghetto and my few friends would take a bullet for me. that's better than living your life of eloquence and husband cheating behind your back. give me a break. quit looking down on non-MD and ppl talkin with grammar mistakes. then u will realize life is more than about status. u have a lot to learn as a 32 year old.•••••1) I am not 32 you are confused. I just turned 21.

2) I DO NOT look down on non-MDs at all.

3) I was not making fun of your grammar. I know you are purposely writing like that. It's just that I didn't understand what you meant because your sentence didn't make sense to me. When you wrote to consider the differece in paychecks, etc, I really don't know what you meant by that:

•••quote:••• if u spend more time on thinking an MD is what you truly wanna do regardless of how much others look up to you and perhaps just think about the paycheck difference between MD and eye doctors, then u wouldnt be all internally torn. ••••I'm sorry you had such a hard life. No need to insult people that just happened to be lucky though. One of my reasons for becoming an MD is actually to help out immigrants. So please don't be so quick to judge.

 

[Sm00th13]

YOu know what would be ironic, if you were referred to her as a her doctor. You can always bring up the situation (in a subtle way) whether being a doctor was a midlife crisis. I actually have several students that are applying to med school in their 30's, so you're not alone. Good luck in med school.

BTW: Duke should have won.

 

[Bustahimes]

I'm not gonna waste any more of my time with this foxy hoe from florida.

 

[quaileggs]

Believe me I don't live my life caring excessively what other people think of me. I can look myself in the mirror and my husband and family are satisfied with me. The incident in the grocery store was not a big deal. I have learned to let stuff like that roll off my back. I really don't think she had malicious intent and it actually was kind of funny. I can laugh at life. That's what gets me through the hard times.
And you obnoxious people who are giving a hard time to Foxy, buzz off! She doesn't need a lecture from you "learned" people. This is troll weekend for sure.

 

[megkudos]

hmmm...here come the trolls again....jeeezzzzz...

We love you Foxy..... Don't let the trolls bother you. You are always very helpful and considerate.

qualeggs--I totally understand what you are saying Your post made me laugh, too. I had recently started a similar thread about people just not understanding. It was really funny with perfectly good intentions. I eventually deleted it because certain people for some reason just can't chill out a little oh well Thanks for sharing

 

[EMDrMoe]

quaileggs,
Vent anytime I can definitely see the need to! Too many people misunderstood your post, I think. Congrats on going for your dreams!

Dra Foxy,
Please don't let this guy get to you. You give too much wonderful advice and support to go anywhere. Take care & keep posting

 

[brandonite]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Bustahimes:
•I'm not gonna waste any more of my time with this foxy hoe from florida.•••••C'mon, Jaimer2, can we get this guy removed? I realize that you would rather not do things like that, but this is just too much...

 

[souljah1]

Busta,

Seems like you are going out of your way to start a conflict. Foxy didn't say anything to you or about you, but you feel the need to insult her. So, you have friends that will take a bullet for you. Me too. I'm sure Foxie does too. What relavence does that have? If you are from a rough neighborhood, more power to you for staying strong. But, just b/c you have experienced 'the hard knocks life', don't let your ego get inflated.

You should just try to stay more on the positive.

 

[gel1]

brandonite, I don't think there will be any mods helping out here.

•••quote:•••Originally posted by lilycat
As for posters who are "negative" or are not being "constructive" with their comments, while I or the other administrators may not always agree with or support such behavior, personally I would feel too much like Big Brother or the Thought Police if I went around editing every post I didn't agree with or didn't feel was being "constructive," helpful or generally positive in tone. Those terms are too ambiguous and too "grey" to really act upon -- what I may construe as "negative" other posters may consider a healthy dose of realism, or just dark humor.••••

 

[brandonite]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by gel1:
•brandonite, I don't think there will be any mods helping out here.•••••Calling Foxy a hoe, generally insulting various members, and threatening an adcom... I think that that goes well beyond comments that are not constructive... I can understand their reluctance to get involved in a lot of situations, but IMHO, this situation needs to be resolved. I've moderated large groups before, so I know the conflict that goes on in their minds, but a few bad individuals making very distructive comments can ruin an entire group...

 

[Bustahimes]

Did I say i was not going to waste my time with her anymore. why cant you let it go. all i see is a bunch of actors in here, pretending to act nice and polite. if only one medical school spot were left, you would pick urself to take that over every person in here. dont try to act all polite and philantropic. pleez.
nice to see some of u made a cult up in here too.

 

[gel1]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by brandonite
Calling Foxy a hoe, generally insulting various members, and threatening an adcom... I think that that goes well beyond comments that are not constructive... I can understand their reluctance to get involved in a lot of situations, but IMHO, this situation needs to be resolved. I've moderated large groups before, so I know the conflict that goes on in their minds, but a few bad individuals making very distructive comments can ruin an entire group...[/QB]••••I completely agree with you. My point is that on this particular board there is usually little done about these types of situations.

 

[brandonite]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Bustahimes:
•Did I say i was not going to waste my time with her anymore. why cant you let it go. all i see is a bunch of actors in here, pretending to act nice and polite. if only one medical school spot were left, you would pick urself to take that over every person in here. dont try to act all polite and philantropic. pleez.
nice to see some of u made a cult up in here too.•••••Perhaps what you can't understand is that we are all (mostly) nice and polite. Why don't you just make things a lot easier on all of us and stop posting?

 

[Bustahimes]

brandonite, what you fail to understand is you are not as philantropic as you try to seem. all u try to do is try to get popular support. do i seem to care about popularity and gettin my ass kissed. dont come all up to my face and talk ish and tell me not to post.

 

[brandonite]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Bustahimes:
•brandonite, what you fail to understand is you are not as philantropic as you try to seem. all u try to do is try to get popular support. do i seem to care about popularity and gettin my ass kissed. dont come all up to my face and talk ish and tell me not to post.•••••I'm not afraid to take an unpopular stand. I've you refrained from judging others on your second day as a member, you might know that. But this isn't about me.

If you want to make things right, then you might start by apologizing to those you have insulted, such as Foxy and Jalbrekt. But I doubt that you'd be interested in that...

 

[Bustahimes]

Why should i apologize, because you are assuming you are always right and i think i am wrong. why dont they apologize to me. and do u know this is my second day here, or maybe i'm a senior member and this is my new name. u're tellin me not to quick to judge but you are the one doing that. i'm not going to waste my time with you anymore either becaues you are just plain stupid.