"Men who are unhappy, like men who sleep badly, are always proud of the fact."
-Bertrand Russell
People are always whining about how much they work. At every level, from the pre-schoolers who are gunning to get into the right private school, to high schoolers gunning to get into the right college, to college students gunning to get into the top MSTP, etc etc etc. It never ends.
My dad is an academic surgeon-scientist at a top department, endowed chair, the whole shabang, and I can tell you that he made the time when I was growing up to just be my Dad. And he still does. Of course there were nights when he was on call and had to be in the OR, and there are days over Christmas when we're watching football and he's writing papers on his laptop. He was the only guy at my football games wearing a shirt and tie, because he came straight from work at 7 on a Friday. But he made the time and he came. He also had time to raise my two siblings, volunteer extensively, and pursue a number of different hobbies including learning a new instrument and a new sport, both from scratch and in his 40s. He sleeps 7 hours per night. (To be fair, my mom stayed at home, but that is another discussion entirely, for the ladies
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Having gotten to know many of his colleagues, and having many friends whose parents were also faculty at the med school, and in getting to know many faculty at my current MSTP, I've concluded that people are full of **** when they whine about how much they work. Do college students work hard to get into med school? Yes, I did it and nearly worked myself into nervous exhaustion at one point. Do med students work hard? Yes, obviously, I currently do it often. Do residents work hard? Yes, obviously. Do faculty work hard? Yes, of course they do. Does ANYBODY work as hard as they complain they work? I really think the answer is usually no.
We were all lucky enough to grow up in a society where talented individuals have many career options available to them. At any point, any of us could quit the rat race, PARTICULARLY us because we aren't supposed to have any debt. A few months ago I was the 2nd year med student in the room for the assistant chief of the fire department for the large city I live in. I mentioned that I always wanted to be a fire fighter but I never really pursued it--he offered me a job on the spot based on my medical background. I declined, because I really, really like what I do now.
But if you don't like the rat race, just get out. I don't understand why people keep on doing something that they hate. Life is too short. Chances are if you're constantly whining about how hard you work, it's because you wish you weren't working. The solution is not to work less, or to whine less, it's to be happy, and you should find a way to do that, and find it fast.