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As we speak, I'm taking a year off before applying to medical school and I'm living with my parents. Don't wish to disclose too much about the situation for privacy reasons.
Basically, I'm really concerned about my parents' mental health. My dad is sick (physically and mentally) most of the time and my mom has to act as his caregiver. This relationship is a strain on them both. While my mom has realized the severity of my dad's condition, my dad, it seems, has not. He thinks that he is perfectly healthy and believes that we (the family) are trying to attack him for suggesting otherwise (in fairness to him, sometimes the suggestions are not phrased quite as nicely as they should be -- the atmosphere is very tense). My mom, on the other hand, is entirely overwhelmed by the amount of work she has to do to take care of him, even when I'm helping out.
Right now the only thing that's keeping them sane at all is having 'the kids' around because we are a shared 'goal' for them (I have a younger brother who is going back to college in the fall).
Are any of you scared to leave you parents for medical school? Are you worried that your world might just implode when you leave? Do you have psychiatric/psychological resources that you can make available to them? My parents are both pretty stubborn about not seeking psychological help...
I'm at my wits end I love my parents very much, but they are very stubborn people and they are making themselves miserable. I'm worried that if I go away to medical school the added loans will only create more of a strain for them.
How do you plan to help ease the burden on your family during medical school?
Basically, I'm really concerned about my parents' mental health. My dad is sick (physically and mentally) most of the time and my mom has to act as his caregiver. This relationship is a strain on them both. While my mom has realized the severity of my dad's condition, my dad, it seems, has not. He thinks that he is perfectly healthy and believes that we (the family) are trying to attack him for suggesting otherwise (in fairness to him, sometimes the suggestions are not phrased quite as nicely as they should be -- the atmosphere is very tense). My mom, on the other hand, is entirely overwhelmed by the amount of work she has to do to take care of him, even when I'm helping out.
Right now the only thing that's keeping them sane at all is having 'the kids' around because we are a shared 'goal' for them (I have a younger brother who is going back to college in the fall).
Are any of you scared to leave you parents for medical school? Are you worried that your world might just implode when you leave? Do you have psychiatric/psychological resources that you can make available to them? My parents are both pretty stubborn about not seeking psychological help...
I'm at my wits end I love my parents very much, but they are very stubborn people and they are making themselves miserable. I'm worried that if I go away to medical school the added loans will only create more of a strain for them.
How do you plan to help ease the burden on your family during medical school?