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Ok guys,
I am not sure how to approach this whole topic. My fiancee and I plan to go to India this December (we are actually going through the rituals of engagement etc there) for 2-3 weeks. lately, people have been telling us, "why not just get married???"
Few things you need to know--
Both of us are from India, met in the US.
Both our families are in India.
We plan to go to India sometime anyway, to get married. We are just not sure if NOW is the time.
if we don't get married this Dec, the next time we can go (money, vacation time issues) is Aug 2004. I think by that time, I might get too antsy and end up kidnapping my fiancee and taking him to Vegas. I know that this will definitely not go well with the parents. <img border="0" alt="[Laughy]" title="" src="graemlins/laughy.gif" />
So, it's either this Dec or Aug 2004. I am applying to med schools this year (will submit soon) and really hope to get into my state school. If i have to move away, it's going to be a @#$@$# because we would have been married for 6 months and then I may have to move. His job is such that he can't really move that easily (he has a wonderful job, and it's very stable in a poor economy. I don't want him to risk it).
I am lost. We have been brainstorming this for weeks now and don't have any answers. could you shed some light on this topic? What are your thoughts? Oh yes, both of us are *emotionally* ready for a marriage, just not sure if other things such as med school location etc can fall into place. He says we will work it out no matter what, I don't have enough faith in myself. I have never been away from home and don't know if I can live alone without him next to me.
Yours confused,
Tweetie
I am not sure how to approach this whole topic. My fiancee and I plan to go to India this December (we are actually going through the rituals of engagement etc there) for 2-3 weeks. lately, people have been telling us, "why not just get married???"
Few things you need to know--
Both of us are from India, met in the US.
Both our families are in India.
We plan to go to India sometime anyway, to get married. We are just not sure if NOW is the time.
if we don't get married this Dec, the next time we can go (money, vacation time issues) is Aug 2004. I think by that time, I might get too antsy and end up kidnapping my fiancee and taking him to Vegas. I know that this will definitely not go well with the parents. <img border="0" alt="[Laughy]" title="" src="graemlins/laughy.gif" />
So, it's either this Dec or Aug 2004. I am applying to med schools this year (will submit soon) and really hope to get into my state school. If i have to move away, it's going to be a @#$@$# because we would have been married for 6 months and then I may have to move. His job is such that he can't really move that easily (he has a wonderful job, and it's very stable in a poor economy. I don't want him to risk it).
I am lost. We have been brainstorming this for weeks now and don't have any answers. could you shed some light on this topic? What are your thoughts? Oh yes, both of us are *emotionally* ready for a marriage, just not sure if other things such as med school location etc can fall into place. He says we will work it out no matter what, I don't have enough faith in myself. I have never been away from home and don't know if I can live alone without him next to me.
Yours confused,
Tweetie