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Experiences on moving with your partner? I'm applying to Ph.D. programs right now where my boyfriend and I would not know a soul. We've been living together for one year, dating for five years, and we have a great relationship in a wonderful town where we can see mutual friends, visit family, etc.
I am a little nervous about hauling ass somewhere else, even just an 8 hour drive, due to the sort of... relationship isolation or bubble I am foreseeing (as in the only people we will know will be each other!) I know that being in a doctoral program, I would have a built in set of friends, but I worry about my SO- will he make friends? will it just be him and I every weekend? is it easy to make friends out of the blue in a brand new city? I don't want him to feel socially unsupported where we live.
I know this is not uncommon in our field, so any experience sharing would be great. Thanks guys!
Most of the spouses/SOs in my program befriend the grad students and the other spouses/SOs.
My friends started a "spouses night" with a couple rules: 1. No grad students. 2. No psychology. All the partners go out once a week to the bar, bowling, movies etc. It's kind of nice for my partner because he gets to look forward to something that doesn't revolve around grad school.
Hey CBTFTW, I am in a very similar situation! My partner also works from home, and is also not terribly outgoing. Even now, in my M.A. program, I do have to encourage him and remind him to go out with friends, leave the house for errands, etc. I hope it is okay if I message you sometime next year to see how your transition has been and if you have any solid advice! It seems like we are in a similar boat, I feel the situation is unique as he does not have an office job.