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It’s normal for someone who wants to pursue medicine to feel extreme empathy, but you have to be balanced and be able to focus it. What if a patient dies under your care as a physician and you later realize there is more you could have done? Or your favorite patient you’ve known and cared for for years died? Medicine can be a very rewarding but also draining profession. You have to have balance within yourself, starting now. When treating patients and doing exams do your absolute best, have no regrets, that’s all you can do, don’t worry past that.

Also medicine is not for everyone, but from your initial grades and empathy I think you could do it if you wanted. Just confirm within yourself that’s what you want and that drive will allow you to be the best physician and student you can be. It’s a special role to be entrusted with the healthcare of your fellow human beings.
 
jarednogeek said:
It’s normal for someone who wants to pursue medicine to feel extreme empathy, but you have to be balanced and be able to focus it. What if a patient dies under your care as a physician and you later realize there is more you could have done? Or your favorite patient you’ve known and cared for for years died? Medicine can be a very rewarding but also draining profession. You have to have balance within yourself, starting now. When treating patients and doing exams do your absolute best, have no regrets, that’s all you can do, don’t worry past that.
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I have no regrets of taking care of her whatsoever. I made her drawing that she loved, fed her, helped her walk around, played with her, paint her nails, talk to her and comfort her when she needed my support. She truly loved me counted me as a good friend. I was her little angel, that’s what she used to call me. But I wish she lived longer.

You’re right, I should have balance and should not feel this bad because I gave it my all. Thanks for the advice.


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Platinumabi said:
I have no regrets of taking care of her whatsoever. I made her drawing that she loved, fed her, helped her walk around, played with her, paint her nails, talk to her and comfort her when she needed my support. She truly loved me counted me as a good friend. I was her little angel, that’s what she used to call me. But I wish she lived longer.

You’re right, I should have balance and should not feel this bad because I gave it my all. Thanks for the advice.


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I used to work in a nursing home for 2 years and an end of life hospice. It’s a sad experience when a patient/friend dies, but it’s a very special thing to be with them in their final moments. For me as I experienced death more it didn’t become easier but it transitioned from an emotionally wrecking experience to one that I felt was sacred. If you made someone’s life a little better in their last moments it’s a special thing. It’s a sad thing you may never get “used to” but it’s a new feeling you may adjust to and learn to handle better. Just keep on keeping on, you got this! Study hard so you can help many more patients like her one day
 
jarednogeek said:
I used to work in a nursing home for 2 years and an end of life hospice. It’s a sad experience when a patient/friend dies, but it’s a very special thing to be with them in their final moments. For me as I experienced death more it didn’t become easier but it transitioned from an emotionally wrecking experience to one that I felt was sacred. If you made someone’s life a little better in their last moments it’s a special thing. It’s a sad thing you may never get “used to” but it’s a new feeling you may adjust to and learn to handle better. Just keep on keeping on, you got this! Study hard so you can help many more patients like her one day
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Oh this was so sweet and so true! I should study hard and help others like her in the future. Thank you!


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Platinumabi said:
I have two finals tomorrow, psychology and chemistry. I am a freshman so I’m all new to this premed journey and I’m already feeling anxious about everything. I feel like it is all because of what happened yesterday at the nursing home I volunteer at. One lady that I truly connected with and helped a lot was on a sickbed and she was extremely sick. She was asking me to help her because she was feeling pain but I could not do anything for her except from giving her a drink with a straw and encouraging her to sip a bit more. She was holding my hand and I was hysterically crying cause I felt powerless. Letting her go was one of the hardest decisions I had to make this year cause she really wanted to say goodbye to me. I feel useless cause I did not do much for her at the time she needed me the most. Now I have to study for my two finals tomorrow and I don’t feel prepared at all. All I think about is how cruel I am for letting her go. I have studied more than anyone I know but I feel like I don’t know anything. The things I already studied are gone and I can’t even remember them since I am not thinking appropriately. This might be due to me having that experience with the lady or maybe because I am not capable of getting good grades. I have an A- in one class and an A in the other. How do I cope with all of these and still manage to get good grades tomorrow?
I can’t even study the stuff I do not know, which is a small portion compared to what I have studied.

Thank you so much for reading my post! Any advice would be appreciated.


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Go see a therapist
 
Goro said:
Go see a therapist
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You always recommend me to see a therapist . I wish I could but it’s too late now and I have my finals tomorrow morning. Thanks for the suggestion. I will immediately see a therapist in the future when I have to.


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Goro said:
Go see a therapist
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@Goro specializes in giving bad advice. He always suggests go see your schools education specialist or therapist or whatever....thanks for not helping is what most people think from this toxic individual.

Anyways, the best way to overcome test anxiety is to be very familiar with the topics. Know them inside and out, front to back, and upside down in your sleep. Everyone is anxious so you're not unique. Don't let perceived anxiousness mask for lack of knowledge.
 
EIB Network said:
@Goro specializes in giving bad advice. He always suggests go see your schools education specialist or therapist or whatever....thanks for not helping is what most people think from this toxic individual.

Anyways, the best way to overcome test anxiety is to be very familiar with the topics. Know them inside and out, front to back, and upside down in your sleep. Everyone is anxious so you're not unique. Don't let perceived anxiousness mask for lack of knowledge.
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I see this user removed but OP, @Goro is right. A therapist will better understand your situation and know how to help you better than us internet dwellers ever will. A lot of the mods here take mental health very seriously as people should and it doesn't mean that they think you're nuts or that they're trying to offend you. Seeing a therapist will help give you the tools needed to form emotional and mental resilience, and experiencing first-hand the weight thrown on your shoulders throughout this process you should take it very seriously.
 
Kpw101 said:
I see this user removed but OP, @Goro is right. A therapist will better understand your situation and know how to help you better than us internet dwellers ever will. A lot of the mods here take mental health very seriously as people should and it doesn't mean that they think you're nuts or that they're trying to offend you. Seeing a therapist will help give you the tools needed to form emotional and mental resilience, and experiencing first-hand the weight thrown on your shoulders throughout this process you should take it very seriously.
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Yes, dear. I value Goro’s advice and will definitely visit a psychiatrist tomorrow. Thank you for the advice.


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