abuse??

[vishu]

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hi there everyone

I have friend who says she is being abused.In her words ''her husband finds fault with her with each for small things,her inlaws who are living with them now do not help her ,for thats the main reason they got them here as she is a student.she has to cook for the kid [2yrs old,],in laws and husband,breakfast and lunch before she leaves to school[6.30 am usually]''.her husband is doc too who is doing residency!Off late it has gone out of hand as Imet her once saw bruises in her hands .And my biggest worry is she hardly spoke anything ,who was very charming , bubbly before!
what would u do
--if u were in her position

fight back,leave him,make peace & live with it,.......????

And one more question is why do men treat their wives like that?

 

[chouhan_0]

hi vishu
U have come up with an issue that is very serious and I see that no one really has replied to ur message or should I say ''who cares?''attitude.
anyway
No one has any rights to abuse anyone.
first i would try to put some sense in to him.but if hes the same I am on my way out.
To come to think of it dont u think men really have prblms with their egos??
Mostly i have observed these qualities of husband and MIL in indian families.And the daughter in law has to put up with it.No matter what u are---doc,dentist,CEO of a comp/..I do not know abt others
And I bet hardly few will anwer u question !even tho many of them r undergoing the same!!!

 

[Henna]

Why is she putting up with all this ? Where is she living, IN or US ?

If I were in her position.

I'd never be cooking for the whole lot by myself ( if at all ).
The more you put up with such crap the more abuse you will come across.

 

[vishu]

No one has any rights to abuse anyone.first i would try to put some sense in to him.but if hes the same I am on my way out

u make sense there chouhan

''To come to think of it dont u think men really have prblms with their egos? Mostly i have observed these qualities of husband and MIL in indian families.And the daughter in law has to put up with it''



I think its universal.

 

[Smilez4me]

First of all, I think abuse is a very serious issue. As mentioned, no one has the right to hurt anyone else. 🙁

vishu,

I think it's important that your friend gets some help, either through counseling or going away for a while. You said she's not even herself anymore and she hardly talks to anyone about it. Eventually, the "faults" that her husband instill in her will get to her, and she can break down...

At this time, it's vital that you reach out to her. She needs to talk to someone about it. Most importantly, she needs to realize it's not her fault. She doesn't need this kind of treatment.

 

[gwyn779]

As was said before, this is a very serious issue. My best friend in high school was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 5 years before she finally woke up this week. It was so hard for all of us to sit there and watch it happen, but whenever anyone tried to bring it up, she would cut off communication with that person. So the few of us remaining decided not to bring it up and instead just be there for her so she would have somewhere to go when she realized what was going on. If your friend actually realizes what's happening to her, that's a huge step, because so many women are in denial about it. She definitely shouldn't just suffer through it. She should try to get changes made, if that doesn't work, she needs to get out of there. Even though that would be hard on the kid, staying around and being abused would be worse for both.