Advice Needed!!!!

[Kay23]

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Hello SDN,

Im new here and I really need some advice on my situation I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks

Background Info
New graduate, Bachelor's of Science in Business Administration. I have ALWAYS wanted to purse my dream of becoming a pediatric dentist since elementary school. But once I went to college in 2009; I was a Biology Major Pre- Dental. I went to the first meeting looked at the required classes for pre dental got scared and RAN AWAY from my dream. (Didnt have a strong science background) for 5 yrs I jumped from major to major trying to find myself and ended up in business, which I didnt enjoy and that is shown in my gpa 2.5. 🙁

Okay Present Info
Im a waitress!! I have been looking for business jobs, medical job (no cerfication), etc but NOTHING has came my way. I HATE waiting table because I feel like it time for a change in my life. I have done it since my sophomore yr in college. Its time to more on.

Im in engaged!! Yay!!! I love him n my future step daughter. Oh, Im 23 and he is 27. He is Chemist and is working on is masters degree. He is the sole provider of our household and has been for awhile.( Im a waitress remember so not much money only work weekends; due to school.) 🙁

Okay, so I decide to go back and get a Second Bachelors in Biology and try to purse my dream. (Just started this fall) But it will take 6-7 yrs to get D.D.S behind my name. And I NEED a better job but working an 8-5 and trying to get prerequisites done seem impossible because of the class times/ conflict. My future husband thinks i shouldnt do biology rather something thats easier to land work. I know he doesn't want to keep doing everything on his on, which makes me feel horrible and inadequate partner. He is really to LIVE. Buy house.. Have more children. Etc... you know be a family.. 🙂

So Im going to run out of money (lifetime undergraduate limit) before I can finish the the second degree. So what I was thinking about was to apply to a Master of Biomedical Science, which the school Im currently attending has one with different professional track studies.( They have an awesome DO school) 🙂 But I'm not sure if will be done with the prerequisites my next June for Fall 2015.


Now Dilemma
1. Should I go do a certification should as teaching or lpn; just to get a REAL job to work to contribute to my household? (I applied this past cycle n didn't get into the program)
🙁

2. Should I maybe do a Second Bachelor's in nursing so if I happen to not get into dental school I would have a plan B career; Not just a job?
(I would re- apply)

3. What other jobs could I do RIGHT NOW and still be able to take prerequisites???

Thanks 4 advice
Kay20

 

[youngy]

Everyone's situation is different and nobody can tell you what is right.
There are supportive fiancess/spouses, but there are also some who's really not that supportive and want their
spouse/fiancee to contribute to the household, rather than following the dream.

If your fiancee is willing to let you do it, follow your dream.
But it seems like he is struggling and wants you to get more practical instead.

We all make sacrifices and settle because we can't always have what we want.
If you want it badly enough, do it, but if you can live without it, settle and get a bachelor's in nursing and get hired.

After you get BSN, I am sure there will be more doors open for you, such as nurse practitioner or nurse anesthetist, both of which are very good professions.


Good luck.

 

[Kay23]

Everyone's situation is different and nobody can tell you what is right.
There are supportive fiancess/spouses, but there are also some who's really not that supportive and want their
spouse/fiancee to contribute to the household, rather than following the dream.

If your fiancee is willing to let you do it, follow your dream.
But it seems like he is struggling and wants you to get more practical instead.

We all make sacrifices and settle because we can't always have what we want.
If you want it badly enough, do it, but if you can live without it, settle and get a bachelor's in nursing and get hired.

After you get BSN, I am sure there will be more doors open for you, such as nurse practitioner or nurse anesthetist, both of which are very good professions.


Good luck.

Thank you

 

[hugomaaf]

It seems like u and your husband need to sit down and simply be honest to each other.

The most important part is, u have a family, and communication is the key for a successful relationship.

When my wife went to school for engineering, I work full time to support her. Then I went back to school after she got a job. We finish our undergrads (she have an engineering degree and I have a BS in Chem, BA in language) with less than 15k student loan.

After working in the medical engineering field for a while, my wife decided to do DO, I always wanted to do DDS. We sit down and simply talk, plan and decide.

We decided she apply first then let her employer pay for her med school (Air Force), and I will apply next year (this cycle). All these decision came from careful planning and comprising on each other's wish. She got into the DO school in Nevada, so we moved from Oklahoma and come to NV and I apply to the dental school here in NV. Again, we planned for this to happen 2 years ago. We built a list of DO schools that have dental school near by and narrow it down to a list of 5 schools only.

I am not trying tell u whether u should/shouldn't apply for your dream. What I want to advise is to sit down look at the situation u and ur family have.

How much total debt do u have, what is the monthly payment require for the mortgage, car, auto insurance, health insurance(u mentioned step kid) educational expenses (not just books, the test prep, DAT, dental school application fees), toys for the kid, clothing, gas money, food and all other misc. expenses.

My wife and I went through a finical planning course to make sure what we want to do is not just "doable" academically, but also finically, because we both know the finical peace that u will NEED during the highly stressful DO or Dental school.

Most importantly, we are honest to each other about what we think about others' dream. My wife is proud to tell people that she was able to apply and get in to med school because of the support I gave her, I think that's very true in our case because we decide thing together and comprise on things. Our biggest compromise is we decided to have kids later, we love kids and have kids long time ago, but after lengthly discussion and consideration, we decided to wait.

This is getting a bit too long but I guess u can get a feeling what I am trying to tell u. Wish the best for u and ur family.