Awful verbal communication skills, ideas ?

[Slytheryn]

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I don't know how many of you have heard about Nassim Nicholas Taleb, he's a mathematician and philosopher also, who writes phenomenal books, but once he started to give interviews and speeches, everyone agreed that it's a huge disappointment when you hear him speak, because he's nothing like the humorous, confident fella he seems in the books.

I've realized that I'm the same way, and people have told me also this, that somehow when I write I can write in an incredibly interesting way and I catch people's attention, but when I speak, it's exactly the opposite : it sounds in a strange and unpleasant way, but I couldn't explain what's the problem.
Now the reason I ask this is that we're going to have many presentations in front of the class and in front of doctors and other people at conferences or when we present a research, and many other times.
It's very important to speak in a way so that people are paying attention to me and they are excited about what I am talking about, but I don't know what's the error that has to be fixed.

 

[Azete]

This sounds a lot like me when I was in my early 20s. The best thing I ever did was get a job as a bartender, where I was forced to talk to people of every background imaginable. Just like anything else; the more you do something, the better you get at it.

As a med student you obviously don't have the time to get a job, but there are other similar things you could do. Try hosting tutoring sessions for people in your class, even if only 1 or 2 people show up, you'll get to practice verbal communication while studying at the same time. Also, make sure you're signed up for all the local dating apps and go on as many dates as you can -- even if you're not attracted to the person. Just get practice talking to new women in an uncomfortable setting, if you can do that then you can talk to anyone. You'll also know if you're getting better at it if you start getting more second dates.

 

[Podstar]

Do you identify yourself as you the writer or as you the speaker?

 

[Goro]

Take a public speaking or acting class.

I don't know how many of you have heard about Nassim Nicholas Taleb, he's a mathematician and philosopher also, who writes phenomenal books, but once he started to give interviews and speeches, everyone agreed that it's a huge disappointment when you hear him speak, because he's nothing like the humorous, confident fella he seems in the books.

I've realized that I'm the same way, and people have told me also this, that somehow when I write I can write in an incredibly interesting way and I catch people's attention, but when I speak, it's exactly the opposite : it sounds in a strange and unpleasant way, but I couldn't explain what's the problem.
Now the reason I ask this is that we're going to have many presentations in front of the class and in front of doctors and other people at conferences or when we present a research, and many other times.
It's very important to speak in a way so that people are paying attention to me and they are excited about what I am talking about, but I don't know what's the error that has to be fixed.