I feel ya. I even made a little weighted chart to compare cost (including additional cost with loan interest), location, curriculum, research, fieldwork, class size, and degree.
For me, I like Tufts curriculum a little bit more, but BU has great research opportunities. Tufts' faculty seems extremely flexible in making sure you get to do what you are interested in though. Fieldwork between the two programs seems pretty similar to me (Tufts has some places abroad and BU has a ton of place across the US). Also, I was really sold on getting an OTD, but now I am wondering if I should save money with a master's while I can. For me, BU will be 50k more when I take into account my scholarships, rent, and loan interest rates. I feel like if i really wanted a OTD, I could easily get one right after for less than 50k.
Most of those things are my impressions though! I know I value certain aspects over things that may be important to other people.
I was not able tour the campuses. Anyone have input on how the campuses "felt"?