Can someone blackmail me out of a med school acceptance

[Kingsmen2018]

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I always make sure no one takes a picture of me when I'm doing something like drinking or anything else bad. But I feel like an ex could have videos of me drinking or smoking. Can someone send these to schools they find out i get accepted to? Or am I just being overly paranoid?

 

[Toutie]

I always make sure no one takes a picture of me when I'm doing something like drinking or anything else bad. But I feel like an ex could have videos of me drinking or smoking. Can someone send these to schools they find out i get accepted to? Or am I just being overly paranoid?

Unless someone takes a picture of you killing someone you are being overly paranoid.

 

[deleted480308]

I always make sure no one takes a picture of me when I'm doing something like drinking or anything else bad. But I feel like an ex could have videos of me drinking or smoking. Can someone send these to schools they find out i get accepted to? Or am I just being overly paranoid?

Play the video here and we'll let you know

 

[Kingsmen2018]

Play the video here and we'll let you know

LOLOLOL

 

[juneaume]

I mean, if you're going to Loma Linda, they might care. Lol

 

[Goro]

I always make sure no one takes a picture of me when I'm doing something like drinking or anything else bad. But I feel like an ex could have videos of me drinking or smoking. Can someone send these to schools they find out i get accepted to? Or am I just being overly paranoid?

Take four of these please:

 

[Goro]

I often wonder how people this neurotic survive med school.

 

[libertyyne]

People get in with criminal offenses and Institutional actions. Those are probably more problematic then some video of you dragging on a hookah.

 

[Lawpy]

People get in with criminal offenses and Institutional actions. Those are probably more problematic then some video of you dragging on a hookah.

Kind of goes against the negative selection theory that's supported by many SDNers here, where adcoms are looking for opportunities to reject applicants. A criminal offense is generally a dealbreaker.

 

[libertyyne]

Kind of goes against the negative selection theory that's supported by many SDNers here, where adcoms are looking for opportunities to reject applicants. A criminal offense is generally a dealbreaker.

Schools have police comittees to determine if the candidate should move forward in the process. I am not saying it is easy, I am just saying that even with such a negative mark people make it through. Innocent video of being drunk or smoking probably wont exclude someone. Adcoms were young once too you know.

 

[LizzyM]

Kind of goes against the negative selection theory that's supported by many SDNers here, where adcoms are looking for opportunities to reject applicants. A criminal offense is generally a dealbreaker.

It depends on the crime. Felonies would be a dealbreaker. Some misdemeanors are not a big deal.

 

[Lawpy]

Schools have police comittees to determine if the candidate should move forward in the process. I am not saying it isnt easy, I am just saying that even with such a negative mark people make it through. Innocent video of being drunk or smoking probably wont exclude someone. Adcoms were young once too you know.

I don't disagree (although i'm still surprised people get in with criminal offense). The fact that adcoms are willing to overlook a negative like drinking/smoking/minor IAs/other blips in app simply show that admissions is not a negative process. Also schools reward reinvention. I think adcoms are a lot more realistic than portrayed here on the forums.

 

[Lawpy]

It depends on the crime. Felonies would be a dealbreaker. Some misdemeanors are not a big deal.

What about if an applicant got arrested and was in jail for few days? Does it still depend on the crime? It seems comparable to an academic IA like plagiarism.

 

[libertyyne]

What about if an applicant got arrested and was in jail for few days? Does it still depend on the crime? It seems comparable to an academic IA like plagiarism.

What did the applicant get arrested on ? Was the applicant convicted ?

 

[Lawpy]

What did the applicant get arrested on ? Was the applicant convicted ?

So this depends on the context right? Which means negative aspects of the application are flagged and given a closer look as opposed to directly rejecting the application without much thought?

 

[libertyyne]

So this depends on the context right? Which means negative aspects of the application are flagged and given a closer look as opposed to directly rejecting the application without much thought?

I dont think context matters as much as legalities surrounding the actual incident. If you are arrested on the charges of murder and then released, most schools would not even find out. However, if you are convicted of a Felony sex offense for peeing in public in your own back yard, your chances are probably nil, regardless of the context.

Felony=automatic dismissal.
Misdemeanors surrounding drug diversion, crimes of dishonesty/abuse= in all likelihood automatic dismissal.

Misdemeanor speeding ticket= no big whop
etc etc.

Context in my mind means the context surrounding the incident. death in the family and a subsequent DUI @.09 vs .08 (legal limit). No one cares about context its fairly binary IMHO.

 

[Gauss44]

However, if you are convicted of a Felony sex offense for peeing in public in your own back yard, your chances are probably nil, regardless of the context.
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This reminds me of a true story about someone's coworker at the post office. He needed the bathroom and it seemed everyone on his route had gone to work (and no businesses nearby) so he desperately resorted to peeing behind a bush next to a house and overlooked a basement window. He was fired.

A less funny caution: I know about a pre-med who was studying with other pre-meds at a campus other than his own. After the group disbanded, he kept studying and the building closed without his knowing. The police showed up, asked for an ID, and then banned him from that campus for trespassing. He said that the officer said that if they wanted to they could have charged him with breaking and entering, a felony, since the doors had locked. (For those unfamiliar with this process, a charge is different than a conviction. I doubt he could get convicted given all of the evidence that he was invited to campus and was already inside when the doors locked. Yet, for now, he will be banned unless the police decide otherwise.)

 

[aldol16]

You do realize that drinking is completely legal and normal people do it, right? Now if the video was showing you doing something stupid while you were drunk, that's a different story, although I find it hard to imagine a school rescinding an acceptance due to that (unless it was stupid to the point of being illegal).

 

[Goro]

What about if an applicant got arrested and was in jail for few days? Does it still depend on the crime? It seems comparable to an academic IA like plagiarism.

It does depend upon the crime. Blocking traffic during a protest vs selling drugs is a big, big difference. Felony possession at age 17 is also different from, say shoplifting at age 22.

 

[AttemptingScholar]

You also have the upper hand--blackmail/extortion is also illegal. You can ruin their lives as much as they could ruin yours, maybe more. It's a standoff, and you win the standoff because you prefer no change.

If they aren't making demands, just threatening, I think the statute of limitations (legally) is one year. I know med schools can use it against you even if there isn't a legal record, but overall this seems like relatively weak blackmail. I think you're fine.

 

[FlowRate]

It depends on the crime. Felonies would be a dealbreaker. Some misdemeanors are not a big deal.

Probably best to reject them before they put in all the work to finish med school, only to find out that they're having issues getting boarded and credentialed.

 

[miniman]

Take four of these please:

And I got two last time. DANG @Goro you trying to chill him out of life. Lolol

 

[gyngyn]

And I got two last time. DANG @Goro you trying to chill him out of life. Lolol

Interestingly, it is almost impossible to overdose on benzos alone.
To be sure, this is not a dose I have ever seen irl.

 

[miniman]

Interestingly, it is almost impossible to overdose on benzos alone.
To be sure, this is not a dose I have ever seen irl.

Uggg I was trying to not do a gunner. And just be a funner... person. Lol.

Thanks for the interesting fact though. 🙂

 

[miniman]

Take four of these please:

I'll get the camera. And lights camera action!!

 

[gyngyn]

I'll get the camera. And lights camera action!!

Your movie reference is well-taken.
The number of celebrities who died of barbiturate OD (plus or minus EtOH), was a major reason for the shift to benzodiazepines.

 

[COMMANDER CLOWN]

I heard of a guy from my school who got his acceptance rescinded because his ex sent in pictures of private facebook conversations that showed racist and sexist comments.

 

[CommyO]

If you were drunk and doing something that would bring the school into a negative light for accepting you, I don't see why they wouldn't revoke their admission or give you the boot. For example, doing inappropriate activities to pay college tuition although that is slightly different.

 

[bengirlxD]

If you were drunk and doing something that would bring the school into a negative light for accepting you, I don't see why they wouldn't revoke their admission or give you the boot. For example, doing porn to pay college tuition although that is slightly different.

Keep those ex's in check. From personal experience, women can and will ruin your life depending on the amount of crazy they contain (usually high amount). My buddies crazy ex keyed his deep impact blue mustang deep after he cheated on her. Also worth noting; the film Gone Girl. Enough said.

So you're going to use a fictional movie reference to highlight that women can be crazy? Anyone who has intentions of ruining your career are capable of doing these things buddy.

 

[CommyO]

So you're going to use a fictional movie reference to highlight that women can be crazy? Anyone who has intentions of ruining your career are capable of doing these things buddy.

No. I clearly gave a real life example of my friend getting his car keyed by an ex causing thousands of dollars of damage needing paint on an entire side. Don't be salty.

 

[bengirlxD]

No. I clearly gave a real life example of my friend getting his car keyed by an ex causing thousands of dollars of damage needing paint on an entire side. Don't be salty.

You're using that one real life event to make generalizations about all women

 

[CommyO]

You're using that one real life event to make generalizations about all women

I really don't want to get into this while being on Probationary Status. Can we get back on topic please. Unless you can contribute to the thread, please don't reply to me but give OP some insight instead.

 

[cactusman]

If you were drunk and doing something that would bring the school into a negative light for accepting you, I don't see why they wouldn't revoke their admission or give you the boot. For example, doing inappropriate activities to pay college tuition although that is slightly different.

Keep those ex's in check. From personal experience, women can and will ruin your life depending on the amount of crazy they contain (usually high amount). My buddies crazy ex keyed his deep impact blue mustang deep after he cheated on her. Also worth noting; the film Gone Girl. Enough said.

No. I clearly gave a real life example of my friend getting his car keyed by an ex causing thousands of dollars of damage needing paint on an entire side. Don't be salty.

Right... because there aren't countless examples of violence against women as retaliation for leaving men or even just turning them down.

If you were trying to joke, your casual sexism wasn't funny. Either way it was unnecessary. I won't put you on Ignore because I really want to see when the banhammer strikes.

 

[miniman]

Your movie reference is well-taken.
The number of celebrities who died of barbiturate OD (plus or minus ETOH), was a major reason for the shift to benzodiazepines.

Now I have finally found the person ( only this far) that gets my humor. Wow. Lucky?? You!

 

[PreMedMissteps]

I always make sure no one takes a picture of me when I'm doing something like drinking or anything else bad. But I feel like an ex could have videos of me drinking or smoking. Can someone send these to schools they find out i get accepted to? Or am I just being overly paranoid?

How is this blackmail? It would be a lousy thing for someone to do, but it's not blackmail.

Blackmail would be something like, "give me a $1000 or I'll send those pics to your med school."

 

[Kingsmen2018]

You guys crack me up🤣. Thanks for the insight i can chill now LOLOL

 

[libertyyne]

I'm having a hard time picturing an admissions committee accepting private material that may not even be real from a person claiming to be an ex girlfriend. Why would they respect the legitimacy of a blackmail or revenge attempt at one of their students or applicants?


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Without going into details this was an incident that occurred at one of the schools I was interviewing at. Social media posts have the possibility of haunting you. So clean up your profile or go ghost during admissions season.

 

[Kingsmen2018]

Without going into details this was an incident that occurred at one of the schools I was interviewing at. Social media posts have the possibility of haunting you. So clean up your profile or go ghost during admissions season.

Yeah my social media is clean, my friends and who else probably/do have some humiliating photos and videos of me. Nothing really illegal except drinking and me ripping one(before CA legalized it)

 

[Mad Jack]

Unless someone takes a picture of you killing someone you are being overly paranoid.

Paging @NotASerialKiller for advice on dealing with nonexistent evidence of events that definitely didn't happen

 

[libertyyne]

It seemed to me that OP was originally talking about instances in which someone else sends a school copies of private conversations or unpublished photos, not stuff that's available already on Facebook etc. I don't disagree with you about social media; that stuff is all public and should be as clean as possible in the current sociopolitical climate. I just wonder if a school would respect a third party's attempt to share private stuff for the purpose of maligning a current student, especially when the person sharing the information could have unknown motives or fabricated information.


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Here is a hypothetical. You hire an Uber driver to take you around town. Before that Uber driver arrives someone texts you , "be careful that Uber driver hurts animals, and sends you a video of the ubr driver abusing animals". Would you cancel the ride ?

 

[kuzy]

This is Winston Wolfe. He solves problems. Where is the body?

 

[PreMedMissteps]

Ok...all jokes aside, I actually know a student who was estranged from one parent (mentally ill) and that parent was threatening to call each of her applied med schools and bad-mouth her. She called her med schools and they said that they wouldn't accept phone calls, etc, from outsiders.

Now, I don't know if that's really true if someone were to contact an SOM with serious really serious info.

 

[CyrilFiggis]

1) how about you just don't tell your crazy ex where you got into med school?
2) University of Cincinnati asks if you've ever gotten and moving violations, including speeding tickets. So it seems some med schools are neurotic about "criminal offenses"

 

[Sharknad0]

Why are people calling him neurotic? 10 incoming freshmen got kicked out of Harvard for having a meme groupchat which is pretty terrible but still legal, meanwhile he's actually worried about drugs and alcohol while underage. Y'all need to relax with calling everyone with semi-valid concerns neurotic.

 

[cactusman]

1) how about you just don't tell your crazy ex where you got into med school?
2) University of Cincinnati asks if you've ever gotten and moving violations, including speeding tickets. So it seems some med schools are neurotic about "criminal offenses"

I believe most traffic violations are misdemeanors in Ohio, so Cincy may just want the same detail of legal history for all applicants.

 

[IcedAmericano]

You could speak to a counselor at the school....

 

[libertyyne]

I wouldn't take the ride lol, but that's also a different scenario because a decision has to be made immediately.


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I think the same concept applies though.

 

[PreMedMissteps]

1) how about you just don't tell your crazy ex where you got into med school?
2) University of Cincinnati asks if you've ever gotten and moving violations, including speeding tickets. So it seems some med schools are neurotic about "criminal offenses"

Absolutely. Don't tell anyone who might share the info with her. Just tell your parents. Hell, confuse her and let her think you got into a few schools you didnt apply to, if necessary. Don't share your real app list with people you can't trust. Just be vague. Many don't understand the app process anyway, so you can just say you're applying later this fall and haven't figured out where you're applying.

Always remember, you never owe someone the truth if you believe they will misuse the info or they have no right to the info.

I think all schools are concerned about social media and pics that demonstrate racist or sexist behaviors. However, a pic of someone chugging from a red cup probably won't be an issue for someone already accepted.

 

[bbbcccppp]

Here is a hypothetical. You hire an Uber driver to take you around town. Before that Uber driver arrives someone texts you , "be careful that Uber driver hurts animals, and sends you a video of the ubr driver abusing animals". Would you cancel the ride ?

That's why I use Lyft


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[Stanfordgrad]

LOL