Deciding between DMU and DCOM

[danaronuf]

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Hey guys I'm trying to decide between DMU and DCOM. Besides the more obvious factors i.e. reputation, emphasis on primary care, etc. there are a few additional personal issues:

1) My best friend got into DCOM too.

2) My girlfriend (very serious) is going to be an accountant next year and can only move to big cities. DMU would work because there is a branch for the firm she signed a contract with downtown but if I go to DCOM there is a chance I won't see her for all four years because I might not be able to obtain rotation sites in an area where she can work.

So my question to you guys is taking everything into account, what would you do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated...

 

[Krazykritter]

Considering DCOM (from what I understand from people who have interviewed there) is going to be a heavily, heavily primary care school...I would have a really hard time passing up DMU (I know I am biased). You might say that right now you want to go into primary care, but what happens if you go into rotations & decide that you really like one of the surgical specialties...then going to DCOM be a little of an obstacle.

DMU rotations are moving more & more to the point where you can stay around should you choose & right now, most of the students who wanted to, got to stay here so that shouldn't be a problem.

I guess I could do w/out my best friend considering that your fiancee would be w/ you. I guess, for me, it would be a fairly simple decision considering DMU rocks & has a great reputation in pretty much any field you could want to go into.

 

[MJB]

Not going to try to sway you for or against, but keep in mind that Knoxville is not far away. Not sure what accounting possibilities may be in Middlesboro.

 

[Doctor Bagel]

Unless you have a really strong preference for the DCOM area, I'd go for DMU. DMU is one of the oldest osteopathic schools and has tons of grads and a really solid match list. New schools can be great, but there's always a level of uncertainty in attending a new school.

 

[USArmyDoc]

DMU hands down.....Honestly, if you are that serious with your girlfriend than this should be a no brainer. Why would you pick your best friend over a very serious relationship? Its not like your best friend can't visit you.

 

[mshheaddoc]

Most people with two acceptances in hand, one being DCOM are going with the other school I'm noticing. For various reasons but being the first class of a school can be frustrating at times which I know some people are leary since there is a fantastic staff but no reputation yet.

If I were you I'd go to DMU, but please remember not to go some where because of someone else ... you're asking for a heap of karmatic trouble upon you if you end up unhappy. Go where YOU are most happy and you feel would suit your academic needs. Not b/c that is where your best friend is going or your girlfriend is getting a job.

 

[Trevelyan]

I agree with those saying DMU.

 

[mletter]

Probably should stay with the girlfriend. 👍

 

[NjD00]

It may look like it's the right way to think by believing that you need to pick the school where you feel best, but if you like both schools, going to the school where you girlfriend could excel also is a great way of supporting her, in return for her supporting you in the tough years ahead.

Trust me, if you love her, and eventually do/may want to marry her, you have to take the opportunity to stay with her. It will mean a lot to her.

 

[Dr.Inviz]

i cant believing you are actually asking this

i guess unless you're considering marrying your best (male) friend in the future, id think it would be wise to go with the girlfriend especially if its "serious"

 

[PatDO12]

little saying you might be familar with....bros before h%es . I wouldn't base my medical school education on a girl unless she had a ring on her finger.

 

[mshheaddoc]

It may look like it's the right way to think by believing that you need to pick the school where you feel best, but if you like both schools, going to the school where you girlfriend could excel also is a great way of supporting her, in return for her supporting you in the tough years ahead.

Trust me, if you love her, and eventually do/may want to marry her, you have to take the opportunity to stay with her. It will mean a lot to her.

See I would maybe buy into this but I guess I'm a little older and wiser after being in a long relationship and then not having things work out. If you are like maybe 25-30 and have a gf and are going through this, that's great, but if you are under 25, I really have to beg that you give this some thought. ALOT of relationships DO NOT last through med school. Because of the demands. Unless you have a ring on that finger (and trust me, that doesn't always work either) I'm only looking out for your best interest in mind.

I don't know you or your relationship, but that is just a smaller pie of the pie of a big picture. Just my $.02 from what I have seen and experienced in my life. Love isn't always around, no matter how long you've been together and no matter what you think of the future. Sometimes you have to look out for number one or you end up unhappy. I'm just throwing out that perspective. 🙂

 

[RollWave11]

little saying you might be familar with....bros before h%es . I wouldn't base my medical school education on a girl unless she had a ring on her finger.

agreed.

 

[USArmyDoc]

little saying you might be familar with....bros before h%es . I wouldn't base my medical school education on a girl unless she had a ring on her finger.

No one is asking anyone to base their medical education on a girl, but if the relationship has real substance to it and they are "very serious" like the OP mentioned what kind of question is this really? The answer is simple if you ask me.

 

[MadHopsMD]

Hey guys I'm trying to decide between DMU and DCOM. Besides the more obvious factors i.e. reputation, emphasis on primary care, etc. there are a few additional personal issues:

1) My best friend got into DCOM too.

2) My girlfriend (very serious) is going to be an accountant next year and can only move to big cities. DMU would work because there is a branch for the firm she signed a contract with downtown but if I go to DCOM there is a chance I won't see her for all four years because I might not be able to obtain rotation sites in an area where she can work.

So my question to you guys is taking everything into account, what would you do? Any advice would be greatly appreciated...

You best friend must be really special. Because you basically choosing him instead of regular SEX. haha. 😛

 

[Orthodoc40]

Wow - I would have to say that you can't base this decision on EITHER your girlfriend or your best friend or anyone else at all. You're the only one living your life and you'll be going through this experience alone. Yes, you'll have your support system, but you're the one living it. I say this because your best friend may not be your best friend next year, or 10 years from now, and your girl friend may not be your girl friend by the time August comes around, or 5 years from now, either. (I truly love & respect NjDO0's response to this question, by the way, but I do think that it's important to consider this if nothing between you two is permanent at this stage.)

If you personally like DCOM lots better than DMU, find a way to get your g/f a job in the area - like someone said, it's close to somewhere, isn't it??!
If you personally liked DMU better, it's a no-brainer - GO!
If you really liked them equally - just decide on the 3 most important things to you, chose which school wins. I don't know. Personally, I wouldn't have to blink to make my mind up with this one... (DMU! For just about every conceivable reason! 😎 )

 

[USArmyDoc]

See I would maybe buy into this but I guess I'm a little older and wiser after being in a long relationship and then not having things work out. If you are like maybe 25-30 and have a gf and are going through this, that's great, but if you are under 25, I really have to beg that you give this some thought. ALOT of relationships DO NOT last through med school. Because of the demands. Unless you have a ring on that finger (and trust me, that doesn't always work either) I'm only looking out for your best interest in mind.

I don't know you or your relationship, but that is just a smaller pie of the pie of a big picture. Just my $.02 from what I have seen and experienced in my life. Love isn't always around, no matter how long you've been together and no matter what you think of the future. Sometimes you have to look out for number one or you end up unhappy. I'm just throwing out that perspective. 🙂

I think you have some valid points, but looking beyond the girlfriend issue I think he would be better served going to DMU.

Back to the girlfriend now......Granted, you can't plan your life around a girl, but you can definitely make all attempts to make your relationship work if you really care. If it doesn't work out, it was not meant to be. Why make it harder on you and your relationship if you don't have to? Another good point that I can speak for from personal experience is that having someone outside of the medical world, especially a girlfriend, can be refreshing. My gf and I see each other quite often and she helps me relax, unwind, and just forget about medical school for a moment. Its nice to have that support system.

 

[Kuba]

DMU... sorry DCOM lovers, just too big a risk

 

[NjD00]

Great responses here.

From what the OP said, I assumed that he liked both schools, and if he likes them equally and loves his gf, ring or not, then that is just one more reason to tip the scales DMU side.

I'm not saying anything about basing a whole med school career on a girl, but if you seriously feel good at both schools, then it kinda is a no brainer (unless you're subconsciously lookin to play the "single future doctor" card with the women 😉)

 

[USArmyDoc]

Great responses here.

From what the OP said, I assumed that he liked both schools, and if he likes them equally and loves his gf, ring or not, then that is just one more reason to tip the scales DMU side.

I'm not saying anything about basing a whole med school career on a girl, but if you seriously feel good at both schools, then it kinda is a no brainer (unless you're subconsciously lookin to play the "single future doctor" card with the women 😉)

Agreed with you here NjD00.....The best friend can come and visit very easily and vice versa. In this sense, everybody is happy.

 

[Dr.Inviz]

little saying you might be familar with....bros before h%es . I wouldn't base my medical school education on a girl unless she had a ring on her finger.

not just that ... but DMU vs DCOM .. no-brainer IMO. ... the "serious" relationship is like cherry on a sundae.

 

[NjD00]

And we all know how good that cherry is...especially when you can have it every night

 

[Dr.Inviz]

And we all know how good that cherry is...especially when you can have it every night

yea ... too bad though ive decided to pass all that up to focus and concentrate on gettin into med school ... 😀