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It's far better she let you know she couldn't write you a strong letter than to get a lukewarm letter.
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I agree that she actually helped you by saying no. You should just move on and find someone who can say great things about you.
Your performance may still be acceptable even if you have some issues. There's a difference between acceptable and excellent and you may not get feedback if your performance is either. One thing you can do now is actively seek feedback from your current supervisor and see where you are and what you can do to improve.
Your performance may still be acceptable even if you have some issues. There's a difference between acceptable and excellent and you may not get feedback if your performance is either. One thing you can do now is actively seek feedback from your current supervisor and see where you are and what you can do to improve.
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I agree that if you're perseverating on this and now overly concerned about your current work, you should proactively ask your supervisors for direct feedback about what you're doing well and what you can improve. Sometimes you have to ask for it. That way you'll know what they think instead of catastrophizing in your mind that they think the worst of you. Even if they think there are areas you can improve (which undoubtedly there are and should be, as you're on internship and the whole point is to improve) they probably don't think as poorly of your work as you're thinking about yourself right now, so go get some more current feedback. I agree though that I'd be pretty upset if the old supervisor had issues with my work and didn't bother ever telling me about their concerns. I'm sorry you experienced that. Keep your head up though. You've got dissertation and all the craziness of last year behind you so you probably are doing much better at your clinical work this year just because you're not pulled in a million directions!
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If it helps, I had a similar situation on internship and I still got awesome letters from other people. I also landed my top choice post doc.
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Its good she let you know now. I'm sure its frustrating that she didn't let you know at the time.
This is also an opportunity to focus and grow. If you were overwhelmed and it impacted your work, do some reflection on that and work to balance commitments moving forward. As others have said, discuss with your current supervisor about your work and areas to grow now. Consider this an opportunity to use her feedback formatively.
This is also an opportunity to focus and grow. If you were overwhelmed and it impacted your work, do some reflection on that and work to balance commitments moving forward. As others have said, discuss with your current supervisor about your work and areas to grow now. Consider this an opportunity to use her feedback formatively.
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Agreed with the above, it's a good thing she let you know, and I would try not to take it personally. It doesn't sound like the supervisor is saying she doubts your competency as a future psychologist, or had major issues with your understanding of crucial concepts; she's saying she noticed there was a lot going on when you worked with her, and it impacted your performance. It happens. You've seemingly identified some of the key problem areas so that you can address them going forward (e.g., by not over-extending yourself). You've made the best of it and have done what you can do.
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