If the secondary asks to describe hardships in your life.. do you really have to go into detail of exactly what happened? For example, I just said "family situations at home" instead of what really happened. Like.. being the one to discover my dad had an affair with someone. It's just so much drama that I don't feel comfortable talking about it.. so can I just not go into detail in my secondary? I guess the obvious answer is yes, but how can I talk about it but not give too much detail? Would it be looked negatively upon if I don't expand?
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"It's about your logical reactions to the challenge, the steps you take to overcome it, and the result. No one wants to read about how hard or how easy you had it, and no one is going to feel sorry for you. That's not the point. The important part is your thought process, reaction, crafting a logical plan, and a follow through. Even with the most trivial problem, you can at least still write a passable essay highlighting those points."
tl;dr: detail is not that necessary, you just need enough to frame your response
tl;dr: detail is not that necessary, you just need enough to frame your response
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Yes and no, if the OP is uncomfortable talking about it, then I suggest they find something else to discuss. You DO need to offer some level of detail to garner sympathy from your app reviewer. Staying vague might come off evasive. Furthermore, you might be prompted to discuss it more come interview time if this is the case. If you put it on the app, it is fair game for the interview.
Also, I understand how difficult this may have been for you - however I warn you that this could come off as slightly sophomoric to talk about in the eyes of some reviewers. Remember that your father, this person, and your mother were the key players in this. While you have played a supporting role, some might argue that this "hardship" may not be yours to talk about. Fair warning, and best of luck.
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Also, I understand how difficult this may have been for you - however I warn you that this could come off as slightly sophomoric to talk about in the eyes of some reviewers. Remember that your father, this person, and your mother were the key players in this. While you have played a supporting role, some might argue that this "hardship" may not be yours to talk about. Fair warning, and best of luck.
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You should not make a cursory discussion of things you're not willing to follow up on. "I'm uncomfortable with that question" is not a good reply, even if it is the most appropriate one. It is far better to not have to answer those topics in the first place--by not writing about them.
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You're going to have to get into a few details to explain how that was a hardship/obstacle. I would skip talking about the topic altogether if you're uncomfortable discussing it.
Furthermore, like vc7777 said, some people are going to doubt whether that is really a hardship or not. I guess it depends on how your family situation panned out (e.g. divorce, domestic violence, etc.).
Furthermore, like vc7777 said, some people are going to doubt whether that is really a hardship or not. I guess it depends on how your family situation panned out (e.g. divorce, domestic violence, etc.).
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