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I do not, and this isn't my problem with getting jobs in vet med. I know this for certain because I have only had one single interview for any vet med related paid position, so it's definitely my resume/cover letter (or the many, many versions that I continue to try to develop) that's stopping me there. Most likely there's just no way to improve how I write either, and people just want someone they can plug into their clinic with minimal training because they're busy. The people I volunteer with never say anything like this about me. They usually say the opposite (that I am a good team member/communicator).
I misspoke then regarding vet med jobs specifically - I was referring to you saying this in your first post about your struggles:
“ I have a long list of nightmare stories where, for example, people will hire me then give me zero hours because they see me as a liability (I'm not, it's just ableism; there are a very small handful of jobs that exist that I *would* be a liability for due to my disability, but I have never, and will never, attempt to get any of those jobs because that's not my jam). Or, people will be very excited about me on paper, then I show up for the interview and they look visibly shocked when they see I am disabled. Some people will literally stare with very wide eyes at my assistive device, like it's a cobra about to strike them. Obviously they do not hire me. Or most recently someone invited me to interview, then when I told them about my disability accommodation request for the interview, they ghosted me, even after two follow up emails. A couple weeks later, they posted the job listing again. Meanwhile, people who either have been around disabled people plenty and don't jump to conclusions, or are willing to learn, literally tell me I'm great to work with, etc. (And I got a 4.0 in two very intense graduate programs where it was absolutely possible to fail out - my PhD program considered more than 1 B grounds to be put on probation.) So I know peoples' weird attitudes about me are an ableism problem, not a me problem”
I’ll say this gently but….have you really done enough introspection to be certain of this? Perhaps you are inherently more pleasant and less defensive with people whom you know have been around people with disabilities more, because you assume they will be more accepting, and with people you know less about you present yourself in a (perhaps unconsciously) with more of a wall? Or come out of the gate too hard because you are assuming the worst? The best defense is a good offense? Just food for thought.
You definitly have to work on your writing. You come off as condescending, as several
others have also said. For example, let’s be honest, everyone under the age of 60 knows what infodumping is. Explaining it to us in a pious academic tone isn’t necessary. As someone with several flavors of neurodivergence myself, I’m all too well aware because I do it a ton and it has taken a lot of work to mold myself into an efficient educator (read: mask). I’m very successful at it now while keeping…let’s just call it my quirks, which my students thankfully find charming, lol. But it took work.
The reason I bring this up is I see elements of how I used to write/speak when I was in my early 20s (not sure how old you are) in your writing and tone - and looking back a decade and a half later, I realize how insufferable I probably was to some people back then (regardless of whether I knew it or not, and even though it wasn’t a fault of mine or something I did on purpose) and that contributed to my struggles with school and connecting with others. Once people got to know me, it was totally different - similar to what you report. I will never forget a classmate telling me in fourth year (when we finally worked in groups on clinics) “WhtsThFrequency wow. You’re actually really nice”. It really made me evaluate how I was coming off to people and do a deep dive into my brain-mouth connection.
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