if it's earplug time, it's already too late. now, when we get 8-9cm, +1 station, 100% effaced "requests" for epidurals, they are usually subsequently met by an attending-attending discussion. no excuse to make a mom suffer like that... unless she wants to. if you are truly acting as a consultant when you assess that mom, you'll "advocate" for her as well, not based on your feelings or what you think is right, but by what is the best evidence base. you should pick that battle, unless you're content being nothing more than a technician and someone else's order filler.