1. Programs DO find out where you did match if you didn't match with them. 2 program directors at other programs (besides the Brigham) emailed me to congratulate me. More proof that they know where you ended up.
2. The program where you matched only know that you matched with them; they have no clue whether they were your #1 or not.
3. You will never know where you were ranked by the program where you matched (unless they tell you).
P.S. Thanks scootad. It's a great feeling to know that this phase in my life is over.