Fall '05 matriculants and RELATIONSHIPS

[OnMyWayThere]

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I've been reading a lot about long distance relationships, polls about who will be matriculating with a significant other, etc. and I've been very interested being an applicant now and in a serious relationship.

I must say... DO NOT base your decisions on a relationship. I have been in a very serious relationship and been dreading the whole moving away for medical school because of her. I broke up with her tonight and all of those sad thoughts about leaving have turned out to be unneccesary.

My thoughts: just move on towards your goal and what must stay with you will stay with you and everything else will vanish. If it's meant to be, then it will be.


Just wanted you guys to know that it's not definite that it will even last until the tim you matriculate... Time for me to go be sad for a while and move on to better things... 🙁 😡

 

[bigdan]

OP-

That's sad, I think. Are you sad or not?

I whole heartedly agree with moving toward your goals. It seems that you've gotta do what makes you happy...if you live trying to please others at your expense, you run the risk of making NO ONE happy.

Sorry to hear you had to end things, but I'd have done the same. Be strong.

dc

 

[principessa]

OP-

That's sad, I think. Are you sad or not?

I whole heartedly agree with moving toward your goals. It seems that you've gotta do what makes you happy...if you live trying to please others at your expense, you run the risk of making NO ONE happy.

Sorry to hear you had to end things, but I'd have done the same. Be strong.

dc

This is such an individual matter. A lot of people would be happiest remaining near their significant other. Just because some relationships don?t work out doesn?t mean others won?t. I?d say keep your options open at this stage - if you?re with someone now, you could break up, but things could also get more serious. You would want to be able to make a choice in the end.

 

[dankev]

I must say... DO NOT base your decisions on a relationship.

I imagine by relationship, you meant "people who are dating." I have to throw in, though, that some of us are in more serious relationships. I certainly had some major discussions with my wife before we decided to move across the country. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but it will for many people. Remember, family comes first. Medicine is just a job.

 

[thewebthsp]

if you're close to marriage consider your spouse. otherwise focus on career

 

[OnMyWayThere]

I imagine by relationship, you meant "people who are dating." I have to throw in, though, that some of us are in more serious relationships. I certainly had some major discussions with my wife before we decided to move across the country. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but it will for many people. Remember, family comes first. Medicine is just a job.

Thanks for adding that. I wouldn't put anything before my family. This was dating... and doesn't generalize to everybody. We broke up due to other reasons, not medical school. If I get accepted, I wouldn't be moving for another year. So dreading over moving away from my girlfriend in a year was just unnecessary. Oh well...

 

[BaLeavaMD]

Dankev...you are sooo right.. Medicine is just a job!! You need a support system when you're in med school!! It may not be a girlfriend/boyfriend for YOU, but you need somebody. I think significant others keep us grounded and keep our minds off just medicine..you need a change of scenery and venue sometimes!! My hubby is my cool counterpart and I can't imagine going to med school without him! I'd be nuts!!

 

[Lion-O]

If it's meant to be, then it will be.

I hate that saying.

 

[DrWuStar]

if you're close to marriage consider your spouse. otherwise focus on career

i say focus on creating a life that will make you happy for many years to come. for some people that means sacrificing romantic relationships for the most successful career possible. for other people, it means maintaining a really special relationship no matter what the cost. there is no one answer here. just my $.02