I don't have EK but here is just some basic info as I understand it; hope it helps:
The focal length of a lens or mirror is characteristic of that lens or mirror. The focal point sits on the principal axis.
For spherical mirrors, the focal length is equal to half of the radius of the mirror.
For thin lenses, the focal length is found via the lensmaker's equation, namely:
1/f = (n - 1)(1/r + 1/R)
where r and R are the radii of the lenses comprising the thin lens, and n is the index of refraction of the lens. Be careful to note that this equation gives the inverse of the focal length.
Ray diagrams are key for visualizing what happens and for checking your work. When you do a ray diagram, how you use the focal point depends on the type of lens/mirror you have, and I suspect this is where you're running into a problem.
For each ray diagram, you can draw two rays to find the point of convergence (ie the image location). One of the rays can always be drawn as coming from infinity parallel to the principal axis and refracting through the lens in a direction determined by the focal point. Mirrors are simpler and I'm assuming your problem is with lenses, not mirrors, so I'll explain lens ray diagrams here.
- For converging lenses where o > f, you can draw a ray diagram where the first ray comes from infinity parallel to the principal axis and refracts through the lens toward the backside focal point. The second ray comes from the object, passes through the frontside focal point, and refracts to infinity parallel to the principal axis. The image is virtual and inverted.
- For converging lenses where o < f, the situation is more complicated. As before, the first ray comes from inifinity parallel to the principal axis, and refracts through the lens toward the backside focal point. The second ray is drawn as if it comes from the frontside focal point toward the object, and it travels toward the lens and refracts to infinity parallel to the principal axis. The image forms at the intersection of the backed up refracted rays; it is real and upright. (I believe it's enlarged but I'm not certain about that.)
- For diverging lenses (no matter whether o > f or o < f), as before, the first ray comes from infinity parallel to the principal axis; it refracts as if from the frontside focal point. The second ray travels from the object toward the backside focal point, and refracts to infinity parallel to the principal axis. Again, the image forms at the intersection of the backed up refracted rays. The image is real and upright. (I believe it is reduced but I'm not certain on this point.)
Sign conventions vary between lenses and mirrors. In general, light travels from left to right; the "real" side is on the left of the lens/mirror, and the "virtual" side is on the right of the lens/mirror.
Mirror sign conventions: Incident light approaches from the left; reflected right reflects to the left. On the left (the real side), o, i, R, and f > 0. On the right (the virtual side), o, i, R, and f < 0.
Lens sign conventions: Incident light is on the left; refracted light is on the right. On the incident side, o > 0 and i and R < 0. On the refracted side, o < 0 and i and R > 0.
I hope this helps!