from one med student to another

[canal]

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I have a dilemma here and I just about want to kill someone...not literally. I am in med school and doing a pretty rigorous rotation. I really enjoy this rotation...except for this particular med student. The problem is she is lazy so I have to pick up her slack, she ask very inappropriate and personal questions. Now, the residents complain about her behind her back but they don't say anything to her despite the fact that she comes in late and leaves early and plays with the surgical instrument during surgery. One of the residents often speak to her in their native language all the time. So basically, she is not reprimanded because she is a female and shares the same ethnic background with the residents? I feel like the harder I work, the easier it is for me to be a target for abuse and then the more cocky some students are, the less they get pick on...how is this possible? How can I deal with this lazy girl with her whining and inappropriate questions? How do I reconcile with some of the things that she is overtly getting away with? Sorry, just needed to VENT.

 

[tabula0rasa]

Just do her😉.

 

[Drawing Dead]

Well, why don't you vent in the MED STUDENT forum? Although, it's good that you brought this up, because this will happen at every step of the way the rest of your life, especially in residency. Sounds like you have somewhat of a cocky attitude yourself. And guess what, as a student, if someone is slacking off, it's not really your problem. There have been incidences this year where people have called out last minute, been late, been lazy. And you know what happens? The other house staff has to pick up for them. Am I on here bitching and complaining, and hoping someone reads it? No. Suck it up dude. You're more hardworking than her, and I'm sure you feel you're one of the best med students in your class. Yeah, that's like being the best single A baseball player in the country. And guess what, sometimes people get away with stuff because they have an "IN". Maybe she's out with her fellow language mate resident having beers when you're still at the hospital kissing ass, trying to prove you are so much better.

 

[canal]

"cocky?" "kissing ass?" oh, this is what you call someone who is left picking up after someone who doesn't want to finish...or start their work...someone who mistreats their patients...bravo, what an assessment! Talk about cocky!

 

[Drawing Dead]

I have a dilemma here and I just about want to kill someone...not literally. I am in med school and doing a pretty rigorous rotation. I really enjoy this rotation...except for this particular med student. The problem is she is lazy so I have to pick up her slack, she ask very inappropriate and personal questions (eg..why do you work so hard? why don't you have children? you took time off because you didn't want to work hard?--to which I answered both my parents died during my leave of absence) Now, the residents complain about her behind her back but they don't say anything to her despite the fact that she comes in late and leaves early and plays with the surgical instrument during surgery. One of the residents often speak to her in their native language all the time. So basically, she is not reprimanded because she is a female and shares the same ethnic background with the residents? I feel like the harder I work, the easier it is for me to be a target for abuse and then the more cocky some students are, the less they get pick on...how is this possible? How can I deal with this lazy girl with her whining and inappropriate questions? How do I reconcile with some of the things that she is overtly getting away with? Sorry, just needed to VENT.

Dude, you're a student. If you stop picking up her slack, maybe someone will notice she's not working as hard as they think.

And, maybe people unfamiliar with your situation may have thought you were lazy when you took time off. Don't always draw assumptions when you don't know all the details.

And, I guess I forgot sexist in my analysis. But yes, I did feel as if your post came off as cocky. The kissing ass part I just concluded because types like you are usually too busy with their heads up the resident's butt to realize that maybe their perception of things are not always what everyone else sees.

 

[canal]

talk about drawing assumptions...there is no dude here

 

[dragonfly99]

canal-
not much you can do.
Just because the residents are being nice to her does not mean that she will get a good grade...she might get a bad grade.
Med school grading is subjective and pretty unfair anyway, IMHO, so all you can do is learn as much as you can and if you want a good grade, try to make sure the attending sees what you are doing. The residents often don't have as much influence on your grade as you think...those they tend to have some input on the surgical clerkship.

Don't feel compelled to always do the other student's work, if it doesn't adversely affect a patient and won't make you look bad. Don't do her work at the expense of neglecting your own or getting "face time" with an attending.

People like this will crash and burn in residency if they don't start to work harder...however, getting people to like you is also important to evaluations in med school and residency, and that's something you have to realize also. So remember to smile at everybody a lot...LOL!

 

[mjl1717]

whatever you do. take the high road!

 

[canal]

thanks dragonfly99 & mjl1717. Many of the ideals I had coming into medicine is slipping real fast. I am not working hard only to get the grade, I feel that everyone benefits...the patient, my superior and I. But you're right, I am certain that this won't be the last time I will have this kind of encounter. So take the high road it is!

 

[scube]

Fair is where we eat cotton candy and ride ferris wheels.

 

[Impromptu]

Canal,
After reading your posts and pondering some of the grammar, I am pressed to ask if you are also a foreign medical student? Being able to communicate in standard American English (what is spoken on national news programs) is very important. Learn to speak with a flawless American accent. Let appropriate conjugations of verbs flow out of your mouth without thought. If you want to be fancy, learn a southern accent (I'm partial to Alabama). While there may be many foreign residents who form their own cliques, they will always be outnumbered by those who speak flawless American English, and you will find advancement much faster if you take that approach.

 

[Labslave]

Canal,
After reading your posts and pondering some of the grammar, I am pressed to ask if you are also a foreign medical student? Being able to communicate in standard American English (what is spoken on national news programs) is very important. Learn to speak with a flawless American accent. Let appropriate conjugations of verbs flow out of your mouth without thought. If you want to be fancy, learn a southern accent (I'm partial to Alabama). While there may be many foreign residents who form their own cliques, they will always be outnumbered by those who speak flawless American English, and you will find advancement much faster if you take that approach.

Hilarious post.