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So my school gives us a little over 2 weeks of winter (or Christmas, for the less politically correct!) break...and so I have to make a flight to go visit my family then. Actually I should have already made the flight, given the rising ticket prices, but oh well!
Anyway, my mom has been kind enough to look around for decent deals on flights...and she just emailed me one that she thinks will be good. Only thing is, it has me coming home the day after final exams and only getting back the day before spring classes start. Which would be OK...only I would rather have some time to myself and not have to spend all that time at home.
That probably sounds bad...and I do need to go home since this will be probably the only time I'll see my parents and sister at least until spring break (and maybe even until this summer or later). There's nothing horribly wrong with any of them...I just don't really enjoy going back into the role of the "child" in the family, having my mom watch what I eat, wake me up in the mornings, etc...and I feel like my parents feel some pressure to "entertain" me by planning activities (when I really don't want to be entertained!).
So I'm wondering what to do. I guess the best and most obvious thing would be just to talk to my parents and kindly explain what I've said here...but I feel like that is very likely to hurt their feelings. Even saying I'll spend only one week there will probably upset them, I imagine. So maybe I should just suck it up and spend the entire time at home?
In my defense, I am very aware that I am lucky to have the family situation I do (which is not a great situation by any means, but not actively abusive or anything). So am I just being whiny and mean? What would you all do?
Edit: Oops...maybe this would be better off in the lounge?
Anyway, my mom has been kind enough to look around for decent deals on flights...and she just emailed me one that she thinks will be good. Only thing is, it has me coming home the day after final exams and only getting back the day before spring classes start. Which would be OK...only I would rather have some time to myself and not have to spend all that time at home.
That probably sounds bad...and I do need to go home since this will be probably the only time I'll see my parents and sister at least until spring break (and maybe even until this summer or later). There's nothing horribly wrong with any of them...I just don't really enjoy going back into the role of the "child" in the family, having my mom watch what I eat, wake me up in the mornings, etc...and I feel like my parents feel some pressure to "entertain" me by planning activities (when I really don't want to be entertained!).
So I'm wondering what to do. I guess the best and most obvious thing would be just to talk to my parents and kindly explain what I've said here...but I feel like that is very likely to hurt their feelings. Even saying I'll spend only one week there will probably upset them, I imagine. So maybe I should just suck it up and spend the entire time at home?
In my defense, I am very aware that I am lucky to have the family situation I do (which is not a great situation by any means, but not actively abusive or anything). So am I just being whiny and mean? What would you all do?
Edit: Oops...maybe this would be better off in the lounge?
