Grad school and relationship

[Dr.Biassi]

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If you were in this situation: You've just met a girl that you like and she likes you. You know you are moving 5 hours away in about three months for gradschool (MD/PhD). Would you start a relationship with that person ?

 

[OncDoc19]

If you were in this situation: You've just met a girl that you like and she likes you. You know you are moving 5 hours away in about three months for gradschool (MD/PhD). Would you start a relationship with that person ?

Yes. I started seeing someone a few months ago knowing that I was going to England for 1-2 years for a masters and after that to an MD/PhD far away from where he is currently. Not only that, we are already 4 hours apart. It can work if you want it to.

 

[solitude]

If you were in this situation: You've just met a girl that you like and she likes you. You know you are moving 5 hours away in about three months for gradschool (MD/PhD). Would you start a relationship with that person ?

No. I think if there's not even a remote possibility of being reunited for 7-8 years, you are wasting your time. You either need to convince her to move to where you are, or forget about her.

 

[delirium81]

I started a relationship about a year before I left for grad school. For the first year of school we were on opposite coasts, and now we're a couple hours apart. Obviously it's not easy but if you know you want to be committed to that person then you make it work. I've known people who are on different continents and still make it work. Assuming the girl knows that you will be gone in three months, I don't see why you shouldn't see where the relationship leads. Maybe it will work out and maybe it won't, but you might regret it if you don't at least try.

 

[gbwillner]

If you were in this situation: You've just met a girl that you like and she likes you. You know you are moving 5 hours away in about three months for gradschool (MD/PhD). Would you start a relationship with that person ?

Woulda shoulda coulda?
It's not like you're getting married here. Go for it. There's a slim chance things will work in the end but so what? It doesn't mean you will regret anything. At worst you have an annoying girlfriend that is 5 hrs away and will make for booty-call weekends.

 

[QofQuimica]

If you were in this situation: You've just met a girl that you like and she likes you. You know you are moving 5 hours away in about three months for gradschool (MD/PhD). Would you start a relationship with that person ?

Sure. Not every relationship you have has to be with someone you fall in love with. Not every person you fall in love with has to be someone that you marry. Take things one day at a time and enjoy the relationship for what it is. As long as she knows that you are going to be moving away and you are both willing to accept that, there is no need to put unreasonable demands on a relationship that could be very special and enjoyable even if it's not for a lifetime.

 

[Maxprime]

I agree with the majority - go for it, just don't be that lame guy that goes home every single weekend. If you break up after a year, everyone else will have friends and you'll be tasked with breaking into an existing group. Naturally, she'd better be worth the effort.