heartbreak

[crystalgreen]

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hey guys, i've been pretty down the past few weeks. my boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me a month before medschool. we did the long distance thing for the past year b/c i graduated and moved home. we were very close and solid...or i thought until one day he just stopped calling me for a week....it just went downhill from there until he finally broke it off. it's like this breakup came out of nowhere and i was devastated. he called me 2 wks after we broke up but i didnt call him back b/c i was just so hurt and didnt know what to say. few weeks ago i called him and just couldnt hold myself back from asking him to get back together. he said that one of the reasons why he broke up with me was b/c he felt like he was trying to be with someone who didnt wanto commit to the relationship...it's true that i told him i wasnt sure about marriage yet b/c i was still young. so i said sorry and that i really want to try to make it work and that i will go and see him over thanxgiving. he said that he'd think about it b/c this time if he gets back together with me it'd mean that he'd be planning to marry me..?? but it's been two wks and i havent heard from him...i called him many times without him picking up and left msgs saying that i'd respect any decision he makes but to at least just let me know what's up...but till now, no word. i feel like i cant study and feel really down all the time...should i just give up? is it really over? any advice/insight will be appreciated.

 

[eternalxdemon]

just wait and be hopeful. i'm sorry it happened to you, but honestly i think give him time and space and let him think about it. if you don't get anything by thanksgiving... i think it'd be time to let go.

as for the studying, just try to focus. i kno it's hard, but u gotta try. i mean you've worked soooo hard to get in to med school... are u really going to let anything stop you from achieving your goal? if you are then maybe med school isn't ur real goal, maybe it's something else...

but anyways... good luck with this! feel better... you're not the only one who's going thru/gone thru this. *hugs*👍

 

[crystalgreen]

thank you!

 

[Long Dong]

hey guys, i've been pretty down the past few weeks. my boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me a month before medschool. we did the long distance thing for the past year b/c i graduated and moved home. we were very close and solid...or i thought until one day he just stopped calling me for a week....it just went downhill from there until he finally broke it off. it's like this breakup came out of nowhere and i was devastated. he called me 2 wks after we broke up but i didnt call him back b/c i was just so hurt and didnt know what to say. few weeks ago i called him and just couldnt hold myself back from asking him to get back together. he said that one of the reasons why he broke up with me was b/c he felt like he was trying to be with someone who didnt wanto commit to the relationship...it's true that i told him i wasnt sure about marriage yet b/c i was still young. so i said sorry and that i really want to try to make it work and that i will go and see him over thanxgiving. he said that he'd think about it b/c this time if he gets back together with me it'd mean that he'd be planning to marry me..?? but it's been two wks and i havent heard from him...i called him many times without him picking up and left msgs saying that i'd respect any decision he makes but to at least just let me know what's up...but till now, no word. i feel like i cant study and feel really down all the time...should i just give up? is it really over? any advice/insight will be appreciated.

Sorry to hear that. I know how you feel the same thing happened to me when I started med school and again with a different girlfriend when I was mid way into internship. I was pretty devastated both times, and both girls wanted to talk about marriage but I kept on saying I have to finish med school first and with the other one I said I had to finish residency first. I just kept on putting my career first and they booth started being distant stoped calling or texting good night or luv u. They booth ended up dating other guys for a while and both eventually came back but it wasn't the same knowing they'd been with other people. I hate to brake it to you but most of the time when your gf or bf does something like this it is usually someone else they are fielding out their options with. Not to fear though you'll be better off in the long run. Who knows when one door closes another one opens and you might hook up with someone at school who never approached because they knew you had some body else. If you are even some what attractive, residents are always hitting on the female med students. My sister and her husband meet in med school, they find that they can relate to alot of things cuz they are both docs. Like coming home and talking about a tuff day on call etc. Anyways best of luck, it may seem tuff right now, I know it was really hard for me. But in a month or two, you'll be like what was I thinking being all said over him.

 

[DOCTORSAIB]

Sorry to hear that. I know how you feel the same thing happened to me when I started med school and again with a different girlfriend when I was mid way into internship. I was pretty devastated both times, and both girls wanted to talk about marriage but I kept on saying I have to finish med school first and with the other one I said I had to finish residency first. I just kept on putting my career first and they booth started being distant stoped calling or texting good night or luv u. They booth ended up dating other guys for a while and both eventually came back but it wasn't the same knowing they'd been with other people. I hate to brake it to you but most of the time when your gf or bf does something like this it is usually someone else they are fielding out their options with. Not to fear though you'll be better off in the long run. Who knows when one door closes another one opens and you might hook up with someone at school who never approached because they knew you had some body else. If you are even some what attractive, residents are always hitting on the female med students. My sister and her husband meet in med school, they find that they can relate to alot of things cuz they are both docs. Like coming home and talking about a tuff day on call etc. Anyways best of luck, it may seem tuff right now, I know it was really hard for me. But in a month or two, you'll be like what was I thinking being all said over him.

Oh man LD, story of my freakin life bro! haha.

OP, sorry to hear of your break-up. Six years is A LONG time. It's the memories that hurt the most. Damn hippocampus!

Keep your head up. Time is the great healer.