Holding your spot vs. Losing it all

[DrDDSman]

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Fair enough. We will leave it at that. And I agree with what your friend did. If I was in his situation I would have done the same thing.

I think you generalized the average applicant being a single 22-25 year old with little to none responsibilities. I usually do to, because thats where I fit. But I agree as well.

 

[Gbrando2]

This is a very sad story, but it's life. And you gotta get used to the fact that life will treat you like ****. What if my wife is applying to d schools. Our first choice is UCSF. I got accepted, I put down deposit. She got waitlisted there and puts down deposit at some other random school (or several, depending on other factors, assuming I don't get in all those other ones). Then we wait wait wait and she gets accepted to UCSF in April. YAY! The family is not separated! What if we have a baby? What if our relatives (with cancer) are in SF and it is better for us to go there? You will say it is unethical for her to hold deposits at multiple schools?

How about that??


For all those who say putting deposits at several schools is lame - you gotta think outside the box (outside the assumption that those people just cannot decide). It is just so much more complicated.
Besides, after all of the above, I have no problem with people putting multiple deposits at multiple schools just because they cannot decide. It is their choice! They deserved it, they don't know who are other applicants and thinking like "ooh.. there is probably that 2.0 14aa dude waiting for acceptance... oh, I am not gonna put deposit at ____ school" is just stupid. They got acceptance, they can do whatever they want with it.

In your scenario, I agree that holding other spots is perfectly fine, but that's not what the discussion is about. I think we all agree that holding spots with a good reason while still hoping for your #1 school is totally fine, it's when you simply hold spots because you can until August. That's where the difference lies. In my opinion, if you have a deposit down at the school that you KNOW you're going to attend, having deposits elsewhere for no good reason is a d-bag move. And because schools look at which other schools you have deposits at on May 1, and are willing to rescind offers because of it, they're on our side.

 

[Zubnaya Feya]

In your scenario, I agree that holding other spots is perfectly fine, but that's not what the discussion is about. I think we all agree that holding spots with a good reason while still hoping for your #1 school is totally fine, it's when you simply hold spots because you can until August. That's where the difference lies. In my opinion, if you have a deposit down at the school that you KNOW you're going to attend, having deposits elsewhere for no good reason is a d-bag move. And because schools look at which other schools you have deposits at on May 1, and are willing to rescind offers because of it, they're on our side.

Based on what I read FutureDent and Tommy both argued that holding multiple deposits is lame, period.

Of course it is stupid to deposit all the schools you are accepted to when you know which one you want to attend. It is just lame from financial point of view. But I am quite sure this simplicity never occurs in real world.
There are always considerations like tuition vs location, etc, which are important decisions to make. Whether it is a 2 day decision or 4 month decision - that is up to the applicant and I have no problem with it.

 

[doc toothache]

It's a good thing you guys have chosen dentistry instead of emergency medicine.

http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=619973

 

[Zubnaya Feya]

It's a good thing you guys have chosen dentistry instead of emergency medicine.

http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=619973

There is a good saying in Russian: "Don't compare a finger and an ass."🙂

I am sure emergency medicine doctors take forever to decide on non-job related issues 😀

 

[Gbrando2]

Based on what I read FutureDent and Tommy both argued that holding multiple deposits is lame, period.

Right here FutureDent says it's ok in certain situations:

Fair enough. We will leave it at that. And I agree with what your friend did. If I was in his situation I would have done the same thing.

And as for this:

Of course it is stupid to deposit all the schools you are accepted to when you know which one you want to attend. It is just lame from financial point of view. But I am quite sure this simplicity never occurs in real world.

I agree, I don't think someone would deposit at all the schools they are accepted to, just because they can even though they have no intention on going to most of them. What I was saying is that it's crappy to get a few acceptances and run out of your 45 days before you get around to deciding on one, and then just making deposits at several of them simply so that you can take your time deciding (crap or get off the pot). Then you finally do decide for sure and never tell the other schools that you have no intention on attending. Now, you have made up your mind about where you are going but still are taking up spots at a few other schools even though you have no intention of going there.

If someone has a couple deposits down because they truly have a personal situation where they need a little while longer to decide on where to go, I'm fine with that. It is a big decision to make. But, as soon as you know where you're going, withdraw from everywhere else so that those on waiting lists can still get their spots too.

 

[Zubnaya Feya]

Right here FutureDent says it's ok in certain situations:



And as for this:



I agree, I don't think someone would deposit at all the schools they are accepted to, just because they can even though they have no intention on going to most of them. What I was saying is that it's crappy to get a few acceptances and run out of your 45 days before you get around to deciding on one, and then just making deposits at several of them simply so that you can take your time deciding (crap or get off the pot). Then you finally do decide for sure and never tell the other schools that you have no intention on attending. Now, you have made up your mind about where you are going but still are taking up spots at a few other schools even though you have no intention of going there.

If someone has a couple deposits down because they truly have a personal situation where they need a little while longer to decide on where to go, I'm fine with that. It is a big decision to make. But, as soon as you know where you're going, withdraw from everywhere else so that those on waiting lists can still get their spots too.

I agree with that.

 

[Gbrando2]

I agree with that.

Haha perfect, glad we found a common ground.

 

[StirrinIt]

ugh, im glad that these people have so much money to squander, but its you indecisive punks who have to put down 3 deposits cuz you cant make up your mind in 45 days that makes it neccesary for some schools to require secondary deposits in march or whatever. For those of us WORKING for our money, unable to take out student loans or pinch daddys wallet, an additional $1000 is kind of a big deal! as in 3 weeks of work..... 😡 I hope you can decide between a filling or a crown better than you can between picking a school...or you'll be doing a lot of root canals.

 

[Tommy43087]

This is a very sad story, but it's life. And you gotta get used to the fact that life will treat you like ****. What if my wife is applying to d schools. Our first choice is UCSF. I got accepted, I put down deposit. She got waitlisted there and puts down deposit at some other random school (or several, depending on other factors, assuming I don't get in all those other ones). Then we wait wait wait and she gets accepted to UCSF in April. YAY! The family is not separated! What if we have a baby? What if our relatives (with cancer) are in SF and it is better for us to go there? You will say it is unethical for her to hold deposits at multiple schools?

How about that??


For all those who say putting deposits at several schools is lame - you gotta think outside the box (outside the assumption that those people just cannot decide). It is just so much more complicated.
Besides, after all of the above, I have no problem with people putting multiple deposits at multiple schools just because they cannot decide. It is their choice! They deserved it, they don't know who are other applicants and thinking like "ooh.. there is probably that 2.0 14aa dude waiting for acceptance... oh, I am not gonna put deposit at ____ school" is just stupid. They got acceptance, they can do whatever they want with it.

WOW!

First I still dont see how that scenario you made justifies putting down multiple deposits(i dunno maybe i just dont see it?)? If you are waitlisted at UCSF put a deposit down at the most feasible school that you gain an acceptance, i dont see why you would hold spots at 4 other schools while waiting for SF?

And it doesnt have to do with a person with a 14AA and 2.0.....actually you know what i am done arguing about this, i dont care...

If people wanna hold multiple spots go ahead and do it, obviously the people who are going to do that are gunna do it either way, so whatever....have your fun, be greedy and waste your money.

 

[doc toothache]

There is a good saying in Russian: "Don't compare a finger and an ass."🙂

Apparently quite a bit is lost in the translation.

 

[DrTootle]

Wow, strong controversy in this thread.

Not that my opinion matters, but I agree with this guy...

Just put a deposit down at the first school that accepts you. If another school accepts you that's cheaper, or better for you, put a deposit down there and notify the other school.

 

[yuppers]

Wow, strong controversy in this thread.

Not that my opinion matters, but I agree with this guy...

Just put a deposit down at the first school that accepts you. If another school accepts you that's cheaper, or better for you, put a deposit down there and notify the other school.

tim's advice doesn't make sense unless it is very late in the cycle and you don't expect any more acceptances.
You can't justify placing a deposit at every school until you get your top choice for financial reasons (no refunds on deposits). At least wait till the deadline is close if you are hoping for another school.
However, once you get your top choice send the deposit and notify the other schools.

 

[doc3232]

So, having multiple deposits is acceptable and not always unethical. 😀
I'm kidding, there are always extreme reasons for both sides of the argument.