How do you deal with a really annoying person!!!

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It has been three weeks of medical school for me and I've seen alot of drama already. It's all true. I saw the people who wants to join and run every single club in the school; the people who demonstrated that they know everything; the people who wants to be in the popularity contest. But things are settling down, because most are stressed out in preparationg for the upcoming exam on Monday.

It's really bugged me that my lab partner is really annoying. The chic doesn't read her dissector. And always hog the body just to blindly cut through all the tissues. She kept hijacking my dissector and put it next to her side and I don't have it to read with. In doctoring class, she attacked my comments. During the anatomy lab she tried to impressed the teacher but it appeared that he knew what she was trying to do. Therefore he said that she didn't read her dissector.

This is really stuck up. We all will be seeing each other in the next four years because we have a small class. I made efforts to be nice to her. But she's not nice at all. I want the group to work together but she just want to break it apart. Instead of saying "oh my god," the chic kept saying "OMG." I mean what the hell. Talk about being superficial.

Anyhow, she's really annoying and she's in my group so it's hard to block her out. Should I stop being nice to her and bring war if that is what she wants?

 

[ADeadLois]

I would advise taking the high road. Don't stoop to her level. If she takes your dissector, politely ask for it back. Ignore her attempts at intellectual superiority and her snide comments.

 

[SomeDoc]

@#$damn, those students are freaking annoying. I feel sorry for you, I really do. Sounds like she's still stuck in pre-med mode and needs to grow up.

 

[Wanna_B_Scutty]

I would advise taking the high road. Don't stoop to her level. If she takes your dissector, politely ask for it back. Ignore her attempts at intellectual superiority and her snide comments.

^^^ This is excellent advice!

 

[trevagandalf]

Gunner... I would say try to ignore her behaviour, but if you get really really really annoyed, just tell her to get her own dissector...

 

[PeepshowJohnny]

This sounds like your typical wannabe-gunner. Just wait, she'll probably tank on the first big exam and then she'll know her place.

Oh, how sweet it is when that happens.

 

[MSKalltheway]

Sounds like she's still stuck in pre-med mode and needs to grow up.

👍 I CANT STAND "pre-meds"

Definitely take the high road, dude. Stay as courteous and professional as possible, she'll realize that kind of behavior gets crapped on in med school real quick.

 

[njbmd]

It has been three weeks of medical school for me and I've seen alot of drama already. It's all true. I saw the people who wants to join and run every single club in the school; the people who demonstrated that they know everything; the people who wants to be in the popularity contest. But things are settling down, because most are stressed out in preparationg for the upcoming exam on Monday.

It's really bugged me that my lab partner is really annoying. The chic doesn't read her dissector. And always hog the body just to blindly cut through all the tissues. She kept hijacking my dissector and put it next to her side and I don't have it to read with. In doctoring class, she attacked my comments. During the anatomy lab she tried to impressed the teacher but it appeared that he knew what she was trying to do. Therefore he said that she didn't read her dissector.

This is really stuck up. We all will be seeing each other in the next four years because we have a small class. I made efforts to be nice to her. But she's not nice at all. I want the group to work together but she just want to break it apart. Instead of saying "oh my god," the chic kept saying "OMG." I mean what the hell. Talk about being superficial.

Anyhow, she's really annoying and she's in my group so it's hard to block her out. Should I stop being nice to her and bring war if that is what she wants?

Why waste time and energy analyzing and bringing "war" on anyone else? Instead, put that energy into making sure that you get everything that YOU need to get your work done and the coursework mastered. In the end, the best revenge is to do very, very well in spite of what is going on around you.

You just don't have the luxury in medicine, of liking and disliking folks because you generally have to work with the masses. Use this situation as practice for what is to come. You don't have to be "nice" but you do have to be professional no matter what the rest of the world is doing.

After all, you are paying good money for this instruction and you should be doing everything in your power to get every cent of your money's worth out of every class. You get one shot at doing well here so don't let your feelings (which are the only ones that you can change), create an atmosphere that interferes with your learning.

I promise you that the faculty while annoyed with your tankmate, isn't letting her get in the way of them getting their jobs done.

 

[MossPoh]

Gun, big trunk, shovel and lye. Maybe a plastic lining for the drunk too.........or you could just suck it up unless you have to deal with them for more than a couple years.

 

[mindquick]

ask her out on a date!

 

[SomeDoc]

LOL! Good one.

 

[Ladyfingers]

If it were someone you didn't have to work with, I would just not talk to them unless I had to. However, since you are required to be in contact with this person, I agree with most of the above responders, just be polite. I think people who are jerks like that the least actually. Plus, don't make an extra effort for her. Just do what you need to do and get on with it. I know it is frustrating though.

 

[CigarTragic]

Instead of saying "oh my god," the chic kept saying "OMG." I mean what the hell. Talk about being superficial.

Well there's your first mistake. Instead of wondering "what the hell", you should be wondering "WTF". If you find that too difficult, def bring it up with your bff Jill, k?

 

[samenewme]

I think it's important to use this opportunity to practice cheerful assertiveness. Be prepared to say things like, "I'm sorry, but I'm using my dissector right now," and "Please wait just a moment before you start cutting. I'd really like us to work together on this. I think it's Fred's turn to cut."

The thing is to try to be professional and at least act as if you assume she's trying to do this right and be a team player. There will be lots of people who drive you nuts over the next few years and learning to handle them professionally will be a huge asset. You might as well practice on someone you can't stand.

 

[Katya00]

I would ignore her all the time. Guard your dissector with your life. Keep one hand on it all the time. Your other group member probably think she's annoying too, I would work with them and try to "push" her out a little, so she is watching more than dissecting (or ripping apart, like it sounds like). This person is assertive, I think you need to be assertive right back (without being rude, of course). She will learn her place, or will start wandering around looking at other people's dissections. You really shouldn't have to deal with that, you are all there to learn and you shouldn't have to deal with one person hogging everything.

What I'm saying sounds terrible, but I think it would work. The most important thing is to be assertive WITHOUT being rude. DON'T start a fight, just push right back with your opinion. Good luck to you, it's so hard to work with people who are so different than you are.

 

[sprinkibrio]

It has been three weeks of medical school for me and I've seen alot of drama already. It's all true. I saw the people who wants to join and run every single club in the school; the people who demonstrated that they know everything; the people who wants to be in the popularity contest. But things are settling down, because most are stressed out in preparationg for the upcoming exam on Monday.

It's really bugged me that my lab partner is really annoying. The chic doesn't read her dissector. And always hog the body just to blindly cut through all the tissues. She kept hijacking my dissector and put it next to her side and I don't have it to read with. In doctoring class, she attacked my comments. During the anatomy lab she tried to impressed the teacher but it appeared that he knew what she was trying to do. Therefore he said that she didn't read her dissector.

This is really stuck up. We all will be seeing each other in the next four years because we have a small class. I made efforts to be nice to her. But she's not nice at all. I want the group to work together but she just want to break it apart. Instead of saying "oh my god," the chic kept saying "OMG." I mean what the hell. Talk about being superficial.

Anyhow, she's really annoying and she's in my group so it's hard to block her out. Should I stop being nice to her and bring war if that is what she wants?

Almost all your story is my story right now. Except this chic pulled a probe out of my hand and pushed me out of the way when I said I had found an artery we were all looking for and did about 80% of the cutting in the beginning. I just stick to my side of the body now and work with one of the two others in my group. I avoid working with her and I think she also avoids working with me because I took the probe and my spot back from her right after the incident.

Don't do anything you wouldn't want spread around the class, because you bet it will be told.