How to Connect with New People when self studying?

[wormboge]

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I admit that I do not know how to connect with others when not in classes or working with other people. This is the first time in my entire life when months have gone by without even talking to one person and it is so horrible I've been tearing up all day and all night, to sad to even sleep or think sometimes. I do not know anyone in the world anymore and last year, it felt as though I was popular, people visiting with me wherever I went, whenever I came to school. This year is the opposite. No one returns my emails or text messages. No one speaks to me. As far as I know I've done nothing wrong. Honestly, for the first or second time in my life, I have been suicidal, but realize that emergency rooms, inpatient programs, and professionals can do nothing for me. All I need is a friend or a friendly person to talk to once in a while. While it is not characteristic of me, I keep getting illogical thoughts, like I am so lonely and despirate that maybe I'll intentionally catch disease and get addictions so that I can go to support groups and not be alone. The last several times I got sick or injured, such as breaking bones, it felt wonderful as it relieved emotional pain. Has anyone else had this kind of experience? I think I need to learn to interact with others when not placed with them at school or work, and when I do not have friends in the area. My insurance does not cover talk therapy. Does anyone know where to start with a problem like this?

 

[907914]

I admit that I do not know how to connect with others when not in classes or working with other people. This is the first time in my entire life when months have gone by without even talking to one person and it is so horrible I've been tearing up all day and all night, to sad to even sleep or think sometimes. I do not know anyone in the world anymore and last year, it felt as though I was popular, people visiting with me wherever I went, whenever I came to school. This year is the opposite. No one returns my emails or text messages. No one speaks to me. As far as I know I've done nothing wrong. Honestly, for the first or second time in my life, I have been suicidal, but realize that emergency rooms, inpatient programs, and professionals can do nothing for me. All I need is a friend or a friendly person to talk to once in a while. While it is not characteristic of me, I keep getting illogical thoughts, like I am so lonely and despirate that maybe I'll intentionally catch disease and get addictions so that I can go to support groups and not be alone. The last several times I got sick or injured, such as breaking bones, it felt wonderful as it relieved emotional pain. Has anyone else had this kind of experience? I think I need to learn to interact with others when not placed with them at school or work, and when I do not have friends in the area. My insurance does not cover talk therapy. Does anyone know where to start with a problem like this?

Put the books down for a sec. Self study is not about isolating yourself. Don’t text and email, call or show up. Reach out in a physical manner. If you are not a student anymore, go find some new friends just by signing up for a few local dance or cooking classes. Be the object of your own design. If you are still a student just taking the quarter off, go study at your school’s library. You will run in to people you know there. Prioritize your well being over your studying. Feel free to PM if you need someone to talk to about anything.

National suicide hotline:
1-800-273-8255

 

[Lucca]

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