How to stop comparing yourself to others

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[Ad2b]

That's a therapist's job, honestly. That's something a good counselor can help you with... and given you are a premed, overcoming that is unlikely. We ALL compare ourselves to each other.

BUT ... one tip I do have, is don't ask how the others did on tests, don't ask how hard they thought it was, don't ask how they liked so and so, don't ask them if they've interviewed yet, don't ask.

By asking, you're starting down the bunny hole of comparison... just don't. When you do well, focus on that and be happy. When you don't do as well as YOU wanted, focus on why and fix it.

There really is no other way.

 

[Brah of Science]

I constantly struggle with this and I think that many others do as well. I don't think there is a secret remedy for this. Instead, I feel that improving yourself is something you should focus your energy on.

 

[Oncie]

Don't.

 

[beatro]

Honestly? Start being a little self-centered. Set goals for yourself. And don't let those goals be based on other people's performance, but instead on what you want to accomplish.

 

[BluMist]

serenity to accept the things you cannot change
courage to change the things you can
wisdom to know the difference

 

[BaeDreaming]

Focus on your own blessings. We get so used to our blessings and the good things in our live that we don't really realize how blessed we are. But then we see someone else with their brand new blessing and we automatically think its better. As premeds it can be very challenging , especially when you are applying to med school, but all you can do is focus on yourself. Its a struggle sometimes, I've been there, but just trying to genuinely be happy for the other person and focusing on my own blessings has helped me the most.!Good luck!!

 

[pageantry]

Therapy. Yeah. But also, I found it helpful when I understood that I was only able to recognize other people's awesomeness because it was something that was also inside me, waiting to come out. There are lots of people who are not impressed by 4.0's and high MCAT scores. But maybe (in some ways) I am. Somehow, I am more like those high scoring people than I am different, because I can appreciate them.

That cheers me up and gives me reason to work harder at achieving my goals. But it's tough, I know. Good luck!

 

[Lost in Translation]

Just don't give a ****.

Actually, one of my talking points about one of my hobbies listed involves that epiphany moment where I realized I compare myself to others too much (aka over competitive). And since then I've done it much, much less.

 

[Sailor Senshi Dermystify]

I constantly struggle with this and I think that many others do as well. I don't think there is a secret remedy for this. Instead, I feel that improving yourself is something you should focus your energy on.

Love your avi! Did you see my thread on the med school holistic process lol

 

[Satire5Texul]

When you catch enough people lying about their academics - you tend to treat every statement as overarching and peppered with sugar.

Its always good to strive to be like someone. Also its good to see people sleeping in cars, doing 150 practice problems a day and staying up for 2 days. Then you know you havent pushed yourself enough.

Gotta use it to the right angle. Also gotta know when to shut it all out. Its not gonna come fast. Takes some mental gymnastics, but trust me it feels good to have a very strong bending will thats you are in control of.

 

[Meeehai]

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Come on based milf slayer, you always delete your posts before I read them. 🙁

 

[Turkishking]

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[summergirl]

It helps a lot if you stop focusing on "stats"-related things like looks, intelligence, charisma, etc. Focus on internal things that make you special, like how much you care about people, your great relationship with your best friend and family etc. Maybe people are better than me in terms of looks, intelligence and whatever, but having my family and my friends are better than all of that combined. If you look at it that way, you'll see you have the best life in the world.

 

[deleted647690]

Come on based milf slayer, you always delete your posts before I read them. 🙁

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[Brah of Science]

Love your avi! Did you see my thread on the med school holistic process lol

Hahaha thanks! That guy is hilarious! And yeah I saw that. Looked like a pretty intense thread!

 

[Sailor Senshi Dermystify]

Hahaha thanks! That guy is hilarious! And yeah I saw that. Looked like a pretty intense thread!

Intense for no reason, lol
I don't think they understood the video or the meme :/

 

[Gingy]

Its always good to strive to be like someone. Also its good to see people sleeping in cars, doing 150 practice problems a day and staying up for 2 days. Then you know you havent pushed yourself enough.

And that someone is the best version of yourself.