How to thank LOR writer after rejected?

[DameJulie]

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So, I procrastinated on giving my LOR writer a thank you gift until now, after my application is rejected.

Is it better to hand the gift to them in person (despite they are very busy), or dropping in their mailbox is courtesy enough? I definitely want the gift to show an appreciation.

Not a typical gift-giver, any advice welcome!

 

[honey0102]

So, I procrastinated on giving my LOR writer a thank you gift until now, after my application is rejected.

Is it better to hand the gift to them in person (despite they are very busy), or dropping in their mailbox is courtesy enough? I definitely want the gift to show an appreciation.

Not a typical gift-giver, any advice welcome!

I don't think a gift is required, many people I know who got letters did not give gifts. They typically sent a nice, courteous e-mail. But if you want to give a gift I don't see a problem with it. If you are close to them you could do it in person but e-mail them ahead of time, saying you have a small gift, and ask when you can come by for about five minutes to thank them.
But if you feel uncomfortable doing that, or don't want to discuss that you were rejected, the mailbox should be fine.

 

[Goro]

So, I procrastinated on giving my LOR writer a thank you gift until now, after my application is rejected.

Is it better to hand the gift to them in person (despite they are very busy), or dropping in their mailbox is courtesy enough? I definitely want the gift to show an appreciation.

Not a typical gift-giver, any advice welcome!

You don't need to do this, but if your Mama taught you to be polite, just write them a thank you note yourself.

 

[DameJulie]

I don't think a gift is required, many people I know who got letters did not give gifts. They typically sent a nice, courteous e-mail. But if you want to give a gift I don't see a problem with it. If you are close to them you could do it in person but e-mail them ahead of time, saying you have a small gift, and ask when you can come by for about five minutes to thank them.
But if you feel uncomfortable doing that, or don't want to discuss that you were rejected, the mailbox should be fine.

how would you say a possibility of a future visit without sounding like a request for a visit right now?

You don't need to do this, but if your Mama taught you to be polite, just write them a thank you note yourself.

A thank you note was delivered shortly after the receipt of the LOR. 🙂

 

[honey0102]

how would you say a possibility of a future visit without sounding like a request for a visit right now?



A thank you note was delivered shortly after the receipt of the LOR. 🙂

I mean you could say something like "I have a small gift I was hoping to give you and wanted to drop by for five minutes; I was wondering which day/time may work best for you"

 

[LizzyM]

how would you say a possibility of a future visit without sounding like a request for a visit right now?



A thank you note was delivered shortly after the receipt of the LOR. 🙂

If you sent a Thank You letter after the receipt of the LOR, you have done enough. An update email could be sent just saying that alas, you have not been selected for ___. That is more than enough for a LOR writer.

 

[DameJulie]

Thank you guys for all your comments!

 

[Goro]

how would you say a possibility of a future visit without sounding like a request for a visit right now?

A thank you note was delivered shortly after the receipt of the LOR. 🙂

You don't need to do anything else.

 

[Dr. Souk]

You don't need to do anything else.

Yeh I think a thank-you note is more than sufficient in this instance.