I think he's wondering why the hydrogen "bond" - more like intermolecular association force - between OH and N and OH and O vary in strength - specifically, why is the former stronger, despite EN considerations (which would suggest otherwise).
OP: try considering the relative sizes of N and O; nitrogen is less EN than O, true, but nitrogen is also smaller than O. This may serve to increase the negative charge density on a nitrogen atom versus an oxygen atom.