@#$*(%(*. I chose, but for some reason, I can't write this rejection e-mail/letter

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gonna catch a lot of flack for this, I'm sure.

I decided to go to Albert Einstein, but now I have to reject Pittsburgh. As a school, I liked UPitt more than Einstein (loved them both, though). But decided I just can't get up and move to Pittsburgh at this point in my life. I love NYC too much, and all my friends and family are here. But now it's time for me to write the e-mail to Pitt saying that I'm not going to go there. And for some reason, it just feels so wrong to write it. anyone else have this problem before?
 
Don't worry about it so much... I am sure they wont take it personally.
 
basupran said:
Don't worry about it so much... I am sure they wont take it personally.
I don't think I'm really concerned about them taking it personally. I'm worried that if this feels so awkward, maybe I'm making the wrong decision? I think I'm just going to write a rejection letter to each and see which one feels more wrong?
 
Rendar5 said:
I don't think I'm really concerned about them taking it personally. I'm worried that if this feels so awkward, maybe I'm making the wrong decision? I think I'm just going to write a rejection letter to each and see which one feels more wrong?

:laugh:

Write each school the meanest breakup letter you can come up with, then see which one sounds more sincere.
 
Just think of all the rejections you've gotten from other schools, now's your chance to finally reject one of them!

And if you haven't had any rejections, well then screw you :laugh:
 
Hi Rendar,

I totally understand where you're coming from... making that decision to go to one school over the other. I've decided on Pitt over Wake, but at the back of my mind, thought heavily about going to Wake since my family just moved to NC. However, after really weighing it, I have to go where my heart is telling me to go, and unfortunately, it's not Wake. Even though being near family may have it's benefits, it may also have it's headaches, and when I really think about it, I'm not going to have all that much time to spend at home anyway. Plus I was a little concerned about the curriculum at Wake (otherwise I think the schools are pretty similar in terms of clinical training). The good thing for you is that Albert Einstein has a relaxed curriculum with tests about every month and a half, so you will have time to spend with family as you so please. I'm a native Bronx Bomber that went to HS right up the street from AE, and I agree that it's an awesome place! 👍 However, I would also take a moment and listen to what your heart is telling you to do. It's been a rough weekend of indecision for me, but I am now the most comfortable and content now that I have made the decision that will work best for me.

I wish you the best in this decision.
H&T
 
i had a similar decision between pitt and einstein (waiting for another waitlist though). choice was pretty easy for me- i would've liked to be in nyc, but i definitely liked pitt a lot more after visiting both schools. i'm excited about pitt- wasn't the case with einstein for me.

einstein is great though. just that pitt seems to have better facilities and a really comprehensive hospital system. being in nyc is great, but i think living in the bronx is very different than being in manhattan, etc. (not making a judgement about which is better- to each their own)

i would just go with your gut- if you like einstein better, you should definitely go there. they seem to have a great student body, and certainly treat their students really well.

g'luck.
 
I would have to make a similar decision if I get off a waitlist. It's a tough decision and if it comes to it, I think I will be traumatized to have to turn down a reach school to stay local. On the other hand, I'd probably be just as traumatized if I passed up the chance to stay local. You probably already know this but Einstein matches better in NYC. Did you get into NYU? Their match list is more impressive than UPitt.
 
Wow. Screwing over fellow pre-meds? Going for that gunner label already? (j/k, sort of).
 
I was so embarassed to call and withdraw from Loyola that I chickened out and just wrote a letter. I felt like they treated me so well when I was there, I loved the admissions staff - we became friends right away, and I had a love for it. I would like to say that I am a humble person and I just felt wrong turning them down after they had been so nice to me. Maybe it's a cultural thing, but I felt ashamed. I guess I'm a weirdo?
 
Dude, I totally had the same experience writing my withdrawal. All I can say by way of comfort is having a tough decision about which med school to go to doesn't suck. Good luck with your choice.
🙂
 
I just wrote my rejection letter to Duke about an hour ago, and it was SOOO hard. I know it sounds crazy to reject Duke, and believe me I really loved it. It's a wonderful school. But I also loved Baylor in Houston. And I have all my friends and family in Houston and Dallas, and Baylor will be a lot cheaper overall. It has been an extremely difficult decision for me. But I am happy with my choice and grateful to even be making a choice.
 
When writing that letter of withdrawl just think of that eager kid on the waitlist who loves that school even more than you. Think of that kid getting that thick packet and having the best day of his/her life.

With med school this competitive no reason to feel bad. I called up one of my schools to let them know that I was going to be a no show...they were like "okay, there's the door."
 
Rendar5 said:
I don't think I'm really concerned about them taking it personally. I'm worried that if this feels so awkward, maybe I'm making the wrong decision? I think I'm just going to write a rejection letter to each and see which one feels more wrong?

i did that .. i pictured myself rejecting each school and tried to see which one felt more wrong .. which would i regret doing more .. it may not give you a definite answer, but i think it would help ..
 
mentoz said:
i did that .. i pictured myself rejecting each school and tried to see which one felt more wrong .. which would i regret doing more .. it may not give you a definite answer, but i think it would help ..

Or your could look at it like this...(think of it like choosing between two girls or guys)

Which one will you not think about in the future?

For instance I had to choose between three really good offers. However, I know that if I went to two of those, I would still wonder "what if" (How many times have we asked ourselves that when dating someone!)

what I mean is, I would have wondered even at those other two, "what would it have been like if, I had gone there?" I know that at the school I chose, I would not be wondering that about the other two...

Thats what helped me with my decision, I dunno if it will help you all but its just about perspective.

Another one that I heard (that I don't advocate) is to flip a coin. If you want to flip again after one school comes up, then you have your answer as to where to go. If you don't question the flip, then you also have an answer. Kinda like a soloman and the baby sort of thing.

Good luck with whatever you choose, its a great position to be in!
 
scrappydawg said:
Or your could look at it like this...(think of it like choosing between two girls or guys)

Which one will you not think about in the future?

For instance I had to choose between three really good offers. However, I know that if I went to two of those, I would still wonder "what if" (How many times have we asked ourselves that when dating someone!)

what I mean is, I would have wondered even at those other two, "what would it have been like if, I had gone there?" I know that at the school I chose, I would not be wondering that about the other two...

Thats what helped me with my decision, I dunno if it will help you all but its just about perspective.

Another one that I heard (that I don't advocate) is to flip a coin. If you want to flip again after one school comes up, then you have your answer as to where to go. If you don't question the flip, then you also have an answer. Kinda like a soloman and the baby sort of thing.

Good luck with whatever you choose, its a great position to be in!




is this my friend D??!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂


i'm grinning because i'm almost 100% sure i'll be seeing you in the fall (;

i remember when i was flipping a coin b/t stanford and ucsf, it landed on stanford.. and i flipped 9 more times until it landed on ucsf .. i think it was obvious.

anyway, D -- you are one of the coolest guys i met at UCSF and if i got the wrong guy .. whoops!
 
Yup thats me!

Hows the apartment scenario working out! 🙂 😉

Anyways, I saw that you posted so I wanted to give the OP some advice too!

Good luck with whatever you choose, PM me over the summer

later
 
mentoz said:
is this my friend D??!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂


i'm grinning because i'm almost 100% sure i'll be seeing you in the fall (;

i remember when i was flipping a coin b/t stanford and ucsf, it landed on stanford.. and i flipped 9 more times until it landed on ucsf .. i think it was obvious.

anyway, D -- you are one of the coolest guys i met at UCSF and if i got the wrong guy .. whoops!

ok, thanks for all the advice. I kept flipping the coin til I got Einstein, then didn't really feel the urge to reflip. I also realized that I would be wondering, "what if I stayed in NY", but not "what if I went to Pitt" cause I know I can always go there for residency if I do EM.
 
I totally understand how you feel. IN fact your posting is helping lots of people. I was deciding between UPitt, Case and Robert Wood Johnson. I haven't sent one withdrawl letter yet although I have told my family and friends I am going to Case. When I get nervous about my decision I often question what if... but its usually " what if I would have stayed home in NJ" not "what if I went to RWJ" or "what if I went to UPitt". I truly love Upitt as well but the feeling I got from some of the faculty and students was a bit colder than Case. In addition, they didn't give any free aid out. I just think in the long run we all know what we want but are AFRAID to make a bad choice. BUT truly is there such a thing?

What ever your destiny you will fulfill it at Einstein. WHich, by the way, is an awesome school. GOOD LUCK and i hope things are final. Never question, NEVER forget.
 
kyauna80 said:
I just think in the long run we all know what we want but are AFRAID to make a bad choice. BUT truly is there such a thing?

EXACTLY

in this case, there IS no wrong choice if you think about it.

I was literally trembling when I inserted my withdrawl letter to Drew/UCLA into the mail slot today even though for a long while I've thought that I would end up at Case. Even now that the mail is gone, I still dont feel good about it 🙁 , Cest la vie!

It hasnt been lost to me the gravity of my decision and how it'll completely alter my life from this moment forward!
 
Usually the most difficult decisions are the ones in which the choices are equal for different reasons. You can't go wrong either way.

I usually feel better after I have made the decision and don't look back.
 
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