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I went to a job interview and was required to recieve a physical. It was a female doctor and she told me to pull down my pants. She grabbed my parts and said turn your head and cough. I understand that is a normal procedure for a physical, what bothered me though is that she smiled at me uncomfortably and blushed and said do it again. I felt dirty and violated. Should only males gives physicals to males and females only give physicals to females? Please say you understand.

I hated the experience.
 
Regardless of how many have pranked this forum, this is a serious inquiry and I think mature of those that regard it as such.
 
Strong user name to post content ratio
 
They did a full physical right at the interview? What kind of job were you trying to get?
 
A CDL trucker job. That I left immediately.
Lets be honest, it is inappropriate for a sexually lustful doctor to be grabbing the opposite sex's danglies all day long.
 
SunsFun said:
They did a full physical right at the interview? What kind of job were you trying to get?
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It was a week training course to get a CDL license. On the second day they said we needed to get a physical. I complied. A 50 year old female doctor told me to drop my pants, I did so and then said the underwear too. I did so. She grabbed my gibblies and said turn your head and cough, i did so. I looked at her and she was blushing and smiling and proceeded to speak to me with a turned on smile on her face.

Please answer the question. Should a male Dr give male's physicals and female Dr,s give female's physicals.

I dig the sexuality between a male and a female. I have a girlfriend, at the time of the physical as well. But dont you think that is inappropriate for the opposite sex to give physicals to one another? How would your partner respond to that? Be honest.

I felt violated. I happen to love my partner. As hard as that is to understand for some. Picture the opposite sex feeling your privates and the reaction of your partner.
 
medstud104 said:
It was a week training course to get a CDL license. On the second day they said we needed to get a physical. I complied. A 50 year old female doctor told me to drop my pants, I did so and then said the underwear too. I did so. She grabbed my gibblies and said turn your head and cough, i did so. I looked at her and she was blushing and smiling and proceeded to speak to me with a turned on smile on her face.

Please answer the question. Should a male Dr give male's physicals and female Dr,s give female's physicals.

I dig the sexuality between a male and a female. I have a girlfriend, at the time of the physical as well. But dont you think that is inappropriate for the opposite sex to give physicals to one another? How would your partner respond to that? Be honest.

I felt violated. I happen to love my partner. As hard as that is to understand for some. Picture the opposite sex feeling your privates and the reaction of your partner.
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If I were you, I would simply get over it and move on.

You just learned what a teenage mother would have felt when a male OB/GYN delivers her baby, while he was all smiling and blushing but she couldn't do anything about it. Take that lesson and the next time you do a physical on your opposite-sex patients when you become a doctor, you will realize how vulnerable these patients feel and how important it is to explain what you are about to exam on, so that they feel reassured.

My PCP is also opposite-sex so I understand what you mean. But I would keep things professional. You have more important things to do in your plate than complaining about this.

When you get a chance, read "Complications" by Atul Gawande. In one of his chapters, he talks about a woman with excessive, uncontrollable blushing. The blushing that the female doctor had might not be as intentional as you might think, so before you judge her and feel violated, I would first try and change your point of view.


Hope you did well on your job interview.
 
medstud104 said:
It was a week training course to get a CDL license. On the second day they said we needed to get a physical. I complied. A 50 year old female doctor told me to drop my pants, I did so and then said the underwear too. I did so. She grabbed my gibblies and said turn your head and cough, i did so. I looked at her and she was blushing and smiling and proceeded to speak to me with a turned on smile on her face.

Please answer the question. Should a male Dr give male's physicals and female Dr,s give female's physicals.

I dig the sexuality between a male and a female. I have a girlfriend, at the time of the physical as well. But dont you think that is inappropriate for the opposite sex to give physicals to one another? How would your partner respond to that? Be honest.

I felt violated. I happen to love my partner. As hard as that is to understand for some. Picture the opposite sex feeling your privates and the reaction of your partner.
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To answer your question IMO no. Doctors are professional and it should not matter the sex of the dr completing your physical. FYI I have a female do mine and it was not uncomfortable.

I question the true validity of this post but either way that's my opinion.
 
medstud104 said:
It was a week training course to get a CDL license. On the second day they said we needed to get a physical. I complied. A 50 year old female doctor told me to drop my pants, I did so and then said the underwear too. I did so. She grabbed my gibblies and said turn your head and cough, i did so. I looked at her and she was blushing and smiling and proceeded to speak to me with a turned on smile on her face.

Please answer the question. Should a male Dr give male's physicals and female Dr,s give female's physicals.

I dig the sexuality between a male and a female. I have a girlfriend, at the time of the physical as well. But dont you think that is inappropriate for the opposite sex to give physicals to one another? How would your partner respond to that? Be honest.I felt violated. I happen to love my partner. As hard as that is to understand for some. Picture the opposite sex feeling your privates and the reaction of your partner.
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what if it was a male doctor that did this? and was possibly homosexual?
 
Generally it is considered good practice to warn your patient about what you're about to do when you're performed any type of GU/pelvic exam. That being said, as a female medical student, there is nothing sexual in the many genital exams I have done on persons of all genders. There is a big difference between being a medical professional examining someone's genitals and being a person in a sexual encounter "examining" someone's genitals.
 
medstud104 said:
It was a week training course to get a CDL license. On the second day they said we needed to get a physical. I complied. A 50 year old female doctor told me to drop my pants, I did so and then said the underwear too. I did so. She grabbed my gibblies and said turn your head and cough, i did so. I looked at her and she was blushing and smiling and proceeded to speak to me with a turned on smile on her face.

Please answer the question. Should a male Dr give male's physicals and female Dr,s give female's physicals.

I dig the sexuality between a male and a female. I have a girlfriend, at the time of the physical as well. But dont you think that is inappropriate for the opposite sex to give physicals to one another? How would your partner respond to that? Be honest.

I felt violated. I happen to love my partner. As hard as that is to understand for some. Picture the opposite sex feeling your privates and the reaction of your partner.
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I completely understand and agree whole-heartedly that females should do exams on females and males should do exams on males. That's why I would never have a male OB-GYN and I can't understand why so many males enter that profession...likewise I would never enter urology because a large volume of the pts are male and I know there would be male pts who would refuse to see me, and that is their right and totally understandable.

A long time ago, when there weren't many female doctors, female pts did not have much of a choice...thankfully that has changed. That is why it is important to recruit all types of people into the profession (male, female, black, white, etc) because there are many patients who are more comfortable with seeing someone that looks like them.

I know my opinion is probably the minority on this board, but it is my opinion and many patients also feel the same way. Sorry you had to go through that...next time say you will get a physical from your own doctor and submit it to them. I am not familiar with that aspect of job interviews but I imagine it would be within your rights.
 
redpanda said:
Generally it is considered good practice to warn your patient about what you're about to do when you're performed any type of GU/pelvic exam. That being said, as a female medical student, there is nothing sexual in the many genital exams I have done on persons of all genders. There is a big difference between being a medical professional examining someone's genitals and being a person in a sexual encounter "examining" someone's genitals.
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👍



However, the fact that this female physician was smiling and blushing makes me think she enjoyed performing the physical to a certain extent as well.

OP u got objectified.
 
OP referred to his genitals as his "gibblies" and yall are still taking this thread serious?

7/10

I particularly enjoy the irony of someone with the term "stud" in their username (i.e. an animal intended strictly for breeding purposes) being upset about being objectified sexually. Touché, OP.
 
I'm so sorry that happened. If you felt violated, there is likely something to that. I would tell you to request a male doctor from now on if that makes you more comfortable. As a patient, you deserve to be completely comfortable with whoever is providing your care.

As for doctors performing sensitive exams on pts of the opposite sex, I think there's something to your leeriness and I think this post makes some really interesting claims to that end: http://forwomenseyesonly.com/2012/09/09/the-other-side-of-the-speculum-a-male-doctors-point-of-view/

But can we ban doctors from going into a certain specialty based on sex? No. There are good and bad docs in every specialty.
 
This thread is awesome. SDN hall of fame

"Gibblies"?? C'mon people.
 
lol have you even been checked for a hernia before
they don't "grab your gibblies" and ask you to cough
 
medstud104 said:
It was a week training course to get a CDL license. On the second day they said we needed to get a physical. I complied. A 50 year old female doctor told me to drop my pants, I did so and then said the underwear too. I did so. She grabbed my gibblies and said turn your head and cough, i did so. I looked at her and she was blushing and smiling and proceeded to speak to me with a turned on smile on her face.

Please answer the question. Should a male Dr give male's physicals and female Dr,s give female's physicals.

I dig the sexuality between a male and a female. I have a girlfriend, at the time of the physical as well. But dont you think that is inappropriate for the opposite sex to give physicals to one another? How would your partner respond to that? Be honest.

I felt violated. I happen to love my partner. As hard as that is to understand for some. Picture the opposite sex feeling your privates and the reaction of your partner.
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I'm sorry you feel violated, but seriously to the part I bolded? This is a professional whose job is to do things of this nature, not some woman off the street. I don't think there would be many people here who question whether you love your girlfriend just because the doctor who did your physical was female. If you and your partner feel uncomfortable with it, then in the future just choose to see a male physician (I understand you probably did not have this choice at your job interview). However, we don't all share this concern, so no- we don't have to be limited to physicians of the same sex.
 
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random1234 said:
That's why I would never have a male OB-GYN and I can't understand why so many males enter that profession...likewise I would never enter urology because a large volume of the pts are male and I know there would be male pts who would refuse to see me, and that is their right and totally understandable.
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Right, because you should decide your profession based on a small subset of patients who may choose not to see you because of your gender.

Why the heck do you care if men want to enter OB-GYN? They're obviously doing fine getting patients, as are female urologists.





Also, I can't believe this thread got taken seriously.
 
medstud104 said:
I felt violated. I happen to love my partner. As hard as that is to understand for some. Picture the opposite sex feeling your privates and the reaction of your partner.
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:laugh::laugh::laugh:

People pretend to live in a "perfect'' world sometimes.
 
In all honesty, it'd be much more awkward to get a physical from the same sex. I wouldn't want someone from my gender touching my "gibblies".
 
I think you guys are being unfair.

A straight guy is not going to be flattered by an unattractive woman blushing while grabbing his privates. Nor is he going to be thrilled if it were an attractive woman because he can't act on his arousal.

And if the guy is gay, he will be outright offended and grossed out. (such as happened here?)
 
BlueLabel said:
This thread is awesome. SDN hall of fame

"Gibblies"?? C'mon people.
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haha, but seriously OP...that's the term you came up with?

how about rod, junk, johnson, or, hell, plain old penis/genitals?
 
solitarius said:
I think you guys are being unfair.

A straight guy is not going to be flattered by an unattractive woman blushing while grabbing his privates. Nor is he going to be thrilled if it were an attractive woman because he can't act on his arousal.

And if the guy is gay, he will be outright offended and grossed out. (such as happened here?)
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Even if this story was true (it's not) I highly doubt the physician was anything other than professional in her handling of the OP's gibblies, or "plain old penis" (P.O.P, if you will).
 
You should feel lucky. People pay for that kind of stuff...
 
BlueLabel said:
Even if this story was true (it's not) I highly doubt the physician was anything other than professional in her handling of the OP's gibblies, or "plain old penis" (P.O.P, if you will).
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Agreed, but you now how overly sensitive people are to everything.

Most likely a misperception from OP's part.
 
medstud104 said:
It was a week training course to get a CDL license. On the second day they said we needed to get a physical. I complied. A 50 year old female doctor told me to drop my pants, I did so and then said the underwear too. I did so. She grabbed my gibblies and said turn your head and cough, i did so. I looked at her and she was blushing and smiling and proceeded to speak to me with a turned on smile on her face.

Please answer the question. Should a male Dr give male's physicals and female Dr,s give female's physicals.

I dig the sexuality between a male and a female. I have a girlfriend, at the time of the physical as well. But dont you think that is inappropriate for the opposite sex to give physicals to one another? How would your partner respond to that? Be honest.

I felt violated. I happen to love my partner. As hard as that is to understand for some. Picture the opposite sex feeling your privates and the reaction of your partner.
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OP, I want you to think hard (lol) and answer very carefully:









Was she hot?
 
Wait 'til you get your first prostate exam.

"gibblies" Aren't those chicken 'innards"?

medstud104 said:
I went to a job interview and was required to recieve a physical. It was a female doctor and she told me to pull down my pants. She grabbed my parts and said turn your head and cough. I understand that is a normal procedure for a physical, what bothered me though is that she smiled at me uncomfortably and blushed and said do it again. I felt dirty and violated. Should only males gives physicals to males and females only give physicals to females? Please say you understand.

I hated the experience.
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random1234 said:
I completely understand and agree whole-heartedly that females should do exams on females and males should do exams on males.
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I understand the sentiment, but I disagree with your conclusion. If we trained students to only do physical exams on one gender, what would happen if there was only one doc available in a rural practice? An ED?

A patient should have the right to choose his or her provider, and in non-emergent situations, they can avoid such a dilemma. But why the heck should I be limited to taking care of half the population, when only a small portion of my patients require a GU exam in the first place? And shouldn't my (male) patients be able to be comfortable enough with me as a provider to tell me that they suddenly have a rash down there? Should I have to send them somewhere else? Should I send them somewhere else just so they can get their GU stuff taken care of elsewhere? It's silly.
 
You think this is horrible!? I went through the same thing, except that my Father was in the room and the doc was very attractive. Needless to say, you couldn't even grab a handful. 😎

Deal with it, OP.
 
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Goro said:
Wait 'til you get your first prostate exam.

"gibblies" Aren't those chicken 'innards"?
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I think it's giblets. But gibblies is eerily close and I'm creeped out now that the connection has been made
 
BlueLabel said:
I think it's giblets. But gibblies is eerily close and I'm creeped out now that the connection has been made
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Isn't giblets a dog treat or food?

Also I had a duck named mr mcgibblets once. Awk.
 
A female touched your male parts and you are complaining. Would you have preferred a dude? You still think girls have cooties?

We just did physicals in one of my classes and I had three different girls ask to practice on me
 
Pennypacker MD said:
A female touched your male parts and you are complaining. Would you have preferred a dude? You still think girls have cooties.

We just did physicals in one of my classes and I had three different girls ask to practice on me
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So cool & tough
 
This happened to me once...
... it increased my self esteem exponentially
 
'giblies'?! 'danglies'?!! Haha :rolfl: and people ask why I still come on SDN...
 
No, any gender could give a physical to any gender. I think you are overreacting like crazy.
 
I bet this woman wasn't even a doctor.
 
You should've poked her in the eye with your gibblies.
 
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