Do people have a particular approach or style they have in dealing with these patient or provider perceptions? And do they buy your psycho-ed? Curious as to what others do.
In the past tense, because I am not seeing patients right now:
I tell (most) people that "cant" is not something we say here (in terms of their psychiatric symptoms). This is not a SMI population, mind you.
I tell them their PTSD, Bipolar, depression, anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder, etc is not their pet cat, and if they want to treat themselves (and recover), they should stop referring to it in this manner.
I discourage the wearing of clothing or regalia that celebrates/glorifies veteran disability ("disabled veteran") if they want to actually improve and believe in themselves.
I exhaustively explain the difference between indicative vs pathological anxiety.
If doing therapy, I try to change their relationship with anxiety (if that's the primary issue) so that the fear is lessened and they know it wont kill them. And, I work with them to understand the fact that they are capable of bearing/coping with adverse emotional experiences/feelings, as is almost anyone with a reasonable IQ and a working frontal lobe no matter their psych dx.
You are (legally and morally) responsible for your actions, as most other human beings are, and your psychiatric dx is not to be thought of as an "excuse" to act like an ass--ole.
Your "sleep problems" can largely be ameliorated if you either make changes to your habits/behaviors/routines, and/or if you treat PTSD. "Short sleepers" do exist though, and in that case we should probably focus on functionality/functional impairment more so than your anxiety about number of hours of sleep or the number of middle of the night awakenings.
Dreams, even bad/scary dreams, are relatively normal. Dreaming about your military experiences/career is NOT abnormal in and of itself. We all dream about our life experiences and our work. You we in the military, so some of these may not be pleasant dreams. This may just be a just a natural consequence of your chosen occupation over the past 10-20 years. Sorry for your luck/choice.
Your "memory problems" are equatable to "the cough of psychiatry" and are likely attributable to about 2 dozen different things/conditions rather than your mTBI. Lets start with how much you sleep and/or if your home life is hot ****ing mess?
I am sure I can think of a few more....