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Well I thought I would chime in on what it's like as a spouse of a DVM doing an internship and now applying for a residency.
1) I was lucky that my wife matched at my top choice (NCSU), since I was born a Tarheel.
2) Moving from California to North Carolina was an ordeal. You have to consider all the financial ramifications of traveling to find housing, moving expenses, traveling with pets, etc.
3) I am lucky that my career allows me to work anywhere for the most part and the company I own is based in Northern Virginia, so the commute is much easier for me now. But where will your SO work not to mention going through the interviews to gain employment.
4) The Hours!! - Forget about being able to plan a weekend or night out. Her two weeks of vacation are just being completed and they were spent going to VCS conference in Florida, going on residency interviews in Mass, NY, Penn, Tenn, California. When she first arrived at NCSU she did not have a day off for "6 weeks" because she seemed to always have a patient she had to go in and see. I have learned not to hate the call - "I just picked up a new patient on Friday afternoon at 4:15 cause that means she is in the next morning at 7-8am
5) Deal with the fact they are always tired and if they are going to try for a residency it just gets worse if they match
6) Be willing to put your life on hold. Everything is dictated by thier schedule. Holiday time with family...yeah right.
7) Foot massages...sorry you give them
8) Intimacy, see 5 above
9) But it's not all bad. A partnership means it takes two to work toward a goal. And it is very important that you look at the long term and "relay" this to your SO so that they understand and accept the terms. Make sure they understand that they are not going to be the center of the Interns attention during this time. This is probably easier for men to accept since we are conditioned towards our careers from birth
10) Besides I like pointing out my wife is pretty damn smart. Not because she is a DVM, is doing an internship, trying to match for a residency position so she can become board certified. But, because she chose me as a spouse!
P.S. - You fourth year students who are working overnights can often make decisions about which half of the pill to give without paging at 2 am. (just kiddin') But there have been some "are you really a fourth year calls?"
1) I was lucky that my wife matched at my top choice (NCSU), since I was born a Tarheel.
2) Moving from California to North Carolina was an ordeal. You have to consider all the financial ramifications of traveling to find housing, moving expenses, traveling with pets, etc.
3) I am lucky that my career allows me to work anywhere for the most part and the company I own is based in Northern Virginia, so the commute is much easier for me now. But where will your SO work not to mention going through the interviews to gain employment.
4) The Hours!! - Forget about being able to plan a weekend or night out. Her two weeks of vacation are just being completed and they were spent going to VCS conference in Florida, going on residency interviews in Mass, NY, Penn, Tenn, California. When she first arrived at NCSU she did not have a day off for "6 weeks" because she seemed to always have a patient she had to go in and see. I have learned not to hate the call - "I just picked up a new patient on Friday afternoon at 4:15 cause that means she is in the next morning at 7-8am
5) Deal with the fact they are always tired and if they are going to try for a residency it just gets worse if they match
6) Be willing to put your life on hold. Everything is dictated by thier schedule. Holiday time with family...yeah right.
7) Foot massages...sorry you give them
8) Intimacy, see 5 above
9) But it's not all bad. A partnership means it takes two to work toward a goal. And it is very important that you look at the long term and "relay" this to your SO so that they understand and accept the terms. Make sure they understand that they are not going to be the center of the Interns attention during this time. This is probably easier for men to accept since we are conditioned towards our careers from birth
10) Besides I like pointing out my wife is pretty damn smart. Not because she is a DVM, is doing an internship, trying to match for a residency position so she can become board certified. But, because she chose me as a spouse!
P.S. - You fourth year students who are working overnights can often make decisions about which half of the pill to give without paging at 2 am. (just kiddin') But there have been some "are you really a fourth year calls?"
