dingding123
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I've been fortunate enough to receive 2 acceptances so far, 1 MD and 1 DO. I'm still waiting to hear back from a few more MD interviews and have 2 MD WLs. I know the general rule is MD > DO, and everything about the MD school is exactly what I wanted in a med school. Not to mention it's cheaper and close to family. However, I'm a DV survivor and my MD A is in my current state, where my ex/abuser also lives. The DO school is in another time zone, let alone state. For context, we have not been together for almost 2 years. I moved a few hours away to another part of the state when I left this situation. When I submitted applications, my concern for staying in this state was minimal. We have no contact. Restraining orders in place all of that. Recently, there has been an escalation in events and I now have concern that they are trying to track me down again.
The school is about 2 hours away from where they live. This was my dream school prior to all of this happening. While this person doesn’t know where I am, or even that I’m applying to/have been accepted to med school, I’m very hesitant to take the MD acceptance. I was really looking forward to leaving the state and just putting as much distance between us as possible. I’m nervous that staying in this state will leave me vulnerable to them finding me. I am tired of being in a position where I’m constantly looking over my shoulder. I do have a restraining order, but we all know that paper is just paper. I also don’t want to continue living my life in fear and miss the opportunity to attend a school that I truly love. My DO acceptance is a great school and I love the state it's in, but this was my dream school. And the only reason I’m saying “was” is because of my fear of staying here and them finding me. They have already cause me so much pain. I don’t want to let them take even more away from me, but I don’t want my pride to cost me my life. I'm still holding out hope for my WLs to turn into As or to get As from my remaining IIs (all OOS), but if this turns into my only MD A, I'm really conflicted on what to do. Part of me just wants to take the DO A and get away from this state. I've worked really hard to not only heal and move forward since this relationship, but to also get into medical school. I was already in my gap years when we got together. I ended up taking more gap years than I originally intended so that I could get out of this situation, heal, and get back on track of getting into school. Med school is already hard enough. I don't want/need the extra stress of this situation lingering over my head if I remain in-state to go to this school. But, I also don't want to make things harder on myself come match season. Any advice is appreciated.
I've been fortunate enough to receive 2 acceptances so far, 1 MD and 1 DO. I'm still waiting to hear back from a few more MD interviews and have 2 MD WLs. I know the general rule is MD > DO, and everything about the MD school is exactly what I wanted in a med school. Not to mention it's cheaper and close to family. However, I'm a DV survivor and my MD A is in my current state, where my ex/abuser also lives. The DO school is in another time zone, let alone state. For context, we have not been together for almost 2 years. I moved a few hours away to another part of the state when I left this situation. When I submitted applications, my concern for staying in this state was minimal. We have no contact. Restraining orders in place all of that. Recently, there has been an escalation in events and I now have concern that they are trying to track me down again.
The school is about 2 hours away from where they live. This was my dream school prior to all of this happening. While this person doesn’t know where I am, or even that I’m applying to/have been accepted to med school, I’m very hesitant to take the MD acceptance. I was really looking forward to leaving the state and just putting as much distance between us as possible. I’m nervous that staying in this state will leave me vulnerable to them finding me. I am tired of being in a position where I’m constantly looking over my shoulder. I do have a restraining order, but we all know that paper is just paper. I also don’t want to continue living my life in fear and miss the opportunity to attend a school that I truly love. My DO acceptance is a great school and I love the state it's in, but this was my dream school. And the only reason I’m saying “was” is because of my fear of staying here and them finding me. They have already cause me so much pain. I don’t want to let them take even more away from me, but I don’t want my pride to cost me my life. I'm still holding out hope for my WLs to turn into As or to get As from my remaining IIs (all OOS), but if this turns into my only MD A, I'm really conflicted on what to do. Part of me just wants to take the DO A and get away from this state. I've worked really hard to not only heal and move forward since this relationship, but to also get into medical school. I was already in my gap years when we got together. I ended up taking more gap years than I originally intended so that I could get out of this situation, heal, and get back on track of getting into school. Med school is already hard enough. I don't want/need the extra stress of this situation lingering over my head if I remain in-state to go to this school. But, I also don't want to make things harder on myself come match season. Any advice is appreciated.
