instant help plz

[gunsroses]

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hi everyone
another sad story..
story is of my best fren and iam really concerned abt her..plz help
story is that she met a guy abt 4 yrs back and her paernts arranged for a formal meeting after an year long stressful tension full phase she got enagaged to the same guy..she is the only kidof her parents and the guy made sure he pleased her parents to an extent that they started thinking he is just the best guy ard and wud proe to be a son than a son inlaw..they had major reln problems bcoz of parents and some failed commitments on part of the guy..many wer materialistic anyhow they got married but a week b4 mariage also it wasnt sure they wud marry or not..they got married and they wer doin just ok and then the guy was sponsored by his company for an official trip and my fren also joined him..many tims my fren felt insulted bcoz everytime she mentioned her parents name or suggested buying anything fo rthem the guy mde face and even fought with her insulted her a lot and then to make up later just said sorry and thot the episode was over..
it hurt my fren a lot wen he in fights said that he had his own parents to look after andthat he cud never be a son to my frens parents..very much diff from wot he had quoted b4 marriage..after comin back from that trip he made her feel useless and never ever bothered to call her parents or try talkin abt them instead when she questioned he wud say how many times she bothered to call his parents?on top of all this his mom tried to prove a lot of things to the girl.now my fren is worried how to carry things further?wen she asked stressing why he didnt keep int uch wit her parents he came up withthis stupid answer that he was controlling der finances?????
and he blamed her that since she came expenditure went up crazily..no honeymmon nothing.my fren didnt buy anything much with him except while on trip that was also bcoz things wer cheap..guys any comments any help?deperately in need for a breather he doesnt appreciate it at all wen my fren talks abt her parents and says that they r the only ones she really cares abt..how gud do u think this relationshoip can stay with such level of understanding and fren is worried abt her parents bcoz she knows guy wont help in future to help them or do things for them reply asap guys its disheartening that my fren left everything fior this guy on his word that he ll be the best but now he is changingg grounds seems like he is totally unconcerned why is this happening they know each other since pst 4 yrs and have been married for abt 6 mnths god help them silence ad ditance is killing my fren..guys post ur comments lets help them..being an only chil my fren is gettin mad thinking how she can continue with aguy who doesnt understand her needs and respond to them?he makes her feel like a criminal god knows why..reach out guys

 

[gunsroses]

hey u ppl there reply we need help desperately we need to decide how to go abt it HELP PLZ TELL US WOT U THINK ABT THIS SITUATION PLZZ ANY COMMENTS WILL B WELCOMED

 

[SuzieQ3417]

I don't really know what advice to give...it is difficult when you are not the one directly involved with the situation. Perhaps marriage counseling would be a good place to start.

 

[CoffeeMug]

Reading your post is like a major acid trip. Communicating with people involves a set of quite simple rules like using a spellchecker, capitalizing the first letter in a sentence and using paragraphs. As of right now reading your post puts one in danger of frying their brain. Quite frankly, nobody will put themselves in such risk for a stranger.